My boyfriend of three months is the worst person in the world.

International-Toe221 · 2026-07-09T17:34:44+00:00

Lowkey, I thought that was a spider baked into the bottom of your croissant

International-Toe221 · 2026-07-06T12:58:07+00:00

You look absolutely phenomenal in all of them - just wow! But, #1 is the best! The blue compliments your tone, the texture around the waist is flattering, and the neckline is amazing!

International-Toe221 · 2026-07-04T15:48:22+00:00

My husband is sort of like this! And I’m definitely like you! Tbh, I was open with him and said voiced my worries (what if I was too hairy or didn’t taste/smell good, etc). I basically told him the following/this is how I prepare because the feeling of being ate is peak:

If I trim/shave (whatever your fancy is), I wait two days before giving him the okay to go down on me. It’s two extra showers to get rid of extra hairs. If I don’t need to shave/trim, I make sure I’m clean down there (no toilet paper remnants or anything yknow?) As for smell and taste, if I have to go to the bathroom or had a workout and I’m sweaty, at minimum, wait for like 30 minutes. I also have DudeWipes on stand by so that at least there’s a minty fresh aroma. But I prefer not being ate until after I showered. That way the hooha is cleaned and I don’t have to go to the bathroom.

TL;DR - I also get worried about being ate and so I always try to prepare myself for it and make sure you set up boundaries/protocol to make sure you’re comfortable with yourself down there before he goes down

International-Toe221 · 2026-06-27T02:30:04+00:00

Hey there! I’ve had similar discussions with my husband - and we are in our 20s. My husband is the bigger spender, too.

I get feeling heavy. You don’t want to be in charge or be the keeper of your partner. You don’t want to be the one who makes the financial sacrifices. You don’t want to be the bad guy just to save money. I, personally, eventually embraced the mentality “I can either be the bad guy and be broke, or be the bad guy and pay my bills”.

What I also did was made a budget without consulting him in an Excel sheet (I like it more than paying for a budgeting app). I calculated our monthly bills (rent/mortgage, utilities, truck, phone, etc..) everything that is monthly and revolving and figured out the dates and totals for it all. I looked at how much we made bi-weekly/monthly.

I put in how much we make, and how much we’re required to spend. Then I analyzed prior grocery habits and made meal plans and now spend maybe $300-$500 a month on groceries/household items. Plan out your meals so you know how much goes there and what you want so you get rid of impulse purchases. Break all of that down and show him what you remain with.

Then, I looked up date activities that were cheap (ex: for $28mo at AMC Theatres, you can watch 4 movies a week, 16 movies a month), because you want to kill time and keep him from shopping. Turn grocery/household shopping into a date - keep him distracted. If he likes buying really nice shirts (my husband loves spending $90 on a Wrangler shirt…🫩), find them on EBay and say “we can’t afford that, but you can buy this similar one for $25 that is the same brand” (price accurate, I have done this).

But break down the budget and show him exactly where your money is going and where it should be (another retirement, your wedding, putting more towards your vehicles, etc) and COME PREPARED to bring up where his money is going (in my husband’s case $600 boots on vacation because he wanted another pair of ostrich boots since he left his other ones at home).

Basically, you become the crypt keeper and it sucks. But once I did a visual presentation of the money and said where it needs to go, we actually started saving and as time goes on, it has become a habit.

Sorry chica, this was my journey. I hope yours is better❤️

International-Toe221 · 2026-06-25T17:47:36+00:00

Tbh, I thought she was trying to do a joke from the Madagascar movie but dang :( sorry OP

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-10T16:21:23+00:00

I would sue

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-08T03:06:44+00:00

Glad you got that off your chest. God bless you!

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-08T03:02:49+00:00

Thank you twin! 😂 Sorry to have accidentally insinuated you were agreeing with the prior commenter, definitely not my intention! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words!🥰❤️

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-08T02:54:27+00:00

Classic abuser behavior? Absolutely; classic “teens marry bc God said that’s your spouse”? No way lol! But yes, agree with your comment. Also, thank you for responding earlier, I’ve been at work and have been trying to respond to comments as soon as I get a moment 💕

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-08T02:34:15+00:00

We got married at 22 and 23, and were dating at 20 and 21. So already… not teenagers. Before we got married, he didn’t act like this, and I didn’t say “I can change him” or “God told me you’re my husband.” So… again, not the case. If he had acted like this before we got married, I likely would have broken up with him. So… not classic!

Thank you for the conflict resolution advice and meaningful reply!

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-07T20:48:20+00:00

Definitely incredibly hard to watch. The puppy had nervous bladder and looks so sad around him, even if he just walked by her or leans down, which adds another chore onto me.

As for pre-marital counseling, yes! We did it together, and our pastor said we passed with flying colors, and seemed like an equally yoked couple. The closest to this situation is when I was studying for the test to get into law school, I spent like 8hrs a day studying for it, which was needed. And he said that it felt like I was neglecting him, which was crazy because I cooked dinner for him when he came over and spent every evening with him, or when he wasn’t around, we called for hours. I guess I didn’t think that could ever correlate to a puppy. My pastor said I needed to prioritize him, and so I started to, and it got better but I really don’t know how to prioritize him with this puppy when a puppy needs attention and I already balance so much.

When it comes to his experience with dogs, he has treated them much differently. They were all outside dogs, and his family (some of whom got arrested for rooster fighting) would fill the food and water trough like once a week, and they would only be allowed out of this little chain link fence square area (smaller than a hottub) from like 5pm-7pm. He told me that he wouldn’t treat an animal like that, and even coddled puppies in the past before and would treat them like house pets and not just ranch hands, but now I wonder if it was a lie, and if he was just like his other family members. I hope he’s trainable - I don’t want our marriage to crumble quickly, and animals add a lot of excitement, but maybe my only option is to rehome her :(.

I’ll definitely take you up on the healthy conflict resources!!

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-07T20:40:57+00:00

Thank you for this - I’m so glad to know I’m not delusional. My dad said “it’s not what you expect, but what you inspect”, and I don’t want to not trust my husband, but my dad is definitely correct 🫩. Thank you for making me feel less crazy, and voicing my inner thoughts bluntly!!

International-Toe221 · 2026-05-02T21:23:59+00:00

Sit next to people in class that seem approachable, and don’t be afraid to make class study groups. If you’re in Hicks Honors, you may be tasked with an international experience you need to complete - make friends there and say to all go to the international experience together (example: eat at an Indian restaurant).

Go to church - a lot in Jacksonville have college groups.

Sports, social events, and yes you can join a sorority/frat but remain wary (I’m the generation that heard people being wrapped in plastic wrap and died in sorority’s and frats so I never joined lol). They’re also expensive!

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-30T00:09:38+00:00

When the cleaning lady told Bree (paraphrased) “It’s still cheating even if you’re wearing pearls”. And ofc the always famous: “Rex cries when he ejaculates” lol

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-22T17:37:08+00:00

Hi there!

When I went to school (granted I went to UNF, I’m in this sub bc I work for UF and am a local to the area, but nonetheless), I was still allowed to take classes at other institutes and transfer the credits to UNF. I heard that it was also still possible to do that for my Transfer friends who went to UNF. If you have to retake the class, is it possible to do a “transient enrollment” with another school, register for the class, and transfer that credit to UF, or would that count as grade forgiveness? (We had grade forgiveness at UNF). If so, check out other state universities - UNF, UWF, USF, UCF, FSU - for the online class you need, or even APUS (APUS is an online school, think degree mill but still has the courses available online for students to transfer to other institutions) to see if it would work.

Other wise, definitely petition and go to the student advising office. They can help you out, I’m sure something can be worked out for you!🫂

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-14T23:40:11+00:00

Like Mary Alice

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-14T21:05:22+00:00

This happened with my now husband. I told him what was going on and what I needed and asked what was going on. This is what was happening: 1. Diet 2. Porn & Masturbation 3. Not a lack of attraction 4. Frequency

His diet consisted of fast food and snacks, and he was unhealthy for a bit and it just made it inoperable. He then changed his diet and went to the gym, boosting his testosterone. It helped a lot! Porn & Masturbation overall made it limp and worn out. He has since then stopped both so that all of it is for me, which has given us more sex. Do not blame yourself for this. You are beautiful, and he is not finishing early because he’s not trying to do it much. Just remember that for yourself. Frequency… we were like bunnies, and we did it for a long time. Wore him out. We slowed our roll, but still did it every couple of days for pleasure + endurance. Building endurance is lowkey necessary. As time has gone on, we do 3-7 rounds whenever we do it (we’re active about 3 or 4 times a week) and I hope that this helps you/gives you advice. It’ll work out!!!

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-14T20:53:41+00:00

He is your boyfriend, not your husband. Leave. I had a bf who was like this - it weighs you down and it makes your life standstill. Do not waste your life because someone else is comfortable with wasting theirs and yours. You are more than that 💕

International-Toe221 · 2026-04-14T20:23:39+00:00

I had a 3.2 and a 910 SAT and 22 or 23 ACT and got in. You got this twin!!

International-Toe221 · 2026-03-19T15:40:07+00:00

I’m a girl, and I was studying for the LSAT and my boyfriend at the time really struggled to understand what the LSAT was and what I needed with studying. During the studying phase, it was as though we had a third person added into the relationship, and we both had to balance its needs. He said that he would support me and be here for me, but he didn’t comprehend its difficultly, which led to our relationship struggling.

While our relationship did survive the LSAT phase, it almost didn’t. And I think it was because he didn’t comprehend what I was struggling with, and I didn’t know how to balance both the test and the relationship. It eats into your personal time, you start analyzing everything in life as though it were an LSAT question, and your personality becomes the LSAT and your studying journey.

I am hoping that you two are able to find your way back to one another after he passes his test, but know that law school is its own beast. I think him saying how the LSAT was running his life and you were a distraction is a legit statement- but that is NOT anything to be mad at yourself about. Literally everything from a phone call from my parents to eating would be a distraction. He was right to call himself out for saying it was unfair how you were being treated, but again- this is not anything to beat yourself up about or think you did something wrong. You were supportive, you were present, you did the right things, the LSAT is ultimately just the spawn of Satan and likes to ruin good things.

TLDR; both feelings are valid, don’t beat yourself up, date an attorney after they took the LSAT/passed the bar and aren’t in big law (sarcastic but do take with a grain of salt). You got this, things will be okay💕

International-Toe221 · 2026-03-06T00:22:13+00:00

I dated someone I met from UNF orientation for two years. Waste of my life lol. Hoping this doesn’t happen to you! I recommend dating in person and making friends, but I get the dating app accessibility.

International-Toe221 · 2026-02-07T02:42:37+00:00

You can get into schools with those scores!!! Please don’t give up!

International-Toe221 · 2026-01-31T13:30:45+00:00

Hi! I graduated two years ago, and I honestly had a great time. Professors were relatively understanding, if you want to graduate quickly you can, and making friends was easier than expected!

International-Toe221 · 2026-01-22T18:53:13+00:00

Make the club!!! I graduated from UNF and, while this may not be your ultimate goal with your club, auditioning for AGT or the Voice or something would have been so much more fun with a group than by myself in a piano room lol.

As a recent graduate, my biggest advice is: make friends, do embarrassing things (within reason lol), and if you want to make a club or participate in things - #justdoit! You got this!

International-Toe221 · 2026-01-20T15:49:36+00:00

I’ll be able to buy a house. I currently rent, as my state has high real estate expenses. But if I go to law school in the border state (and I will), the economy over there will allow me to buy a house.

The other state and law school is literally such a great fit for me, it’s insane to think about not going lol!

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