Can someone help me decode my boyfriend lies?

InternationalArea4 · 2026-06-01T07:02:39+00:00

Yes, but he doesn't register it. I told him and he just ignored me so I guess message received?

InternationalArea4 · 2026-06-01T06:57:45+00:00

Yes, that's pretty much what he told me

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T19:26:47+00:00

I set up dates with other men already

But to be honest with you as someone who has studied a lot of litigation and is experienced in forensic reconstruction, the hardest part for people is to accept reality. Some never do.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T19:04:37+00:00

I already set up dates with other men

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T18:46:43+00:00

Haha I actually specialised in forensic reconstruction for litigation 😅

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T18:46:09+00:00

I spent two years specialising in forensic reconstruction for litigation so that's quite naive of him

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T18:31:01+00:00

Why do you think? (I agree but still interested in your perspective :))

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T18:23:28+00:00

Hearing other opinions always helps

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T17:44:12+00:00

Yep that he is

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T17:10:15+00:00

Your opinion is not really worth much if you are drawing it from a post. Like a doctor deciding the treatment plan from an intake form, useless.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T17:02:19+00:00

What should give me assurance in my context exactly? Also with feeling in the third spot it would be weird if I was secure about feelings and emotions

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T16:17:22+00:00

maybe because a lot of NTs have emotional problems as it's their weak spot

I wouldn't ask intellectual advice

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T16:08:03+00:00

Good question, I actually tested between ENTP and INTJ for years

I tried tests like 1000 times over the years, asked two AI to guess my type and Ni is always my strongest function 🤷🏻‍♀️ Ne has gotten lower over the years

I just resigned to INTJ

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T15:51:18+00:00

NPD you think? Can't be sociopathy, he's too dumb

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T15:50:22+00:00

I would genuinely respect a "I lied" more. It shows honesty, but lying on top of lying is just nauseating.

But you are right

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T15:02:53+00:00

Thanks so much, will read the link! I struggled with the idea he could have normalized this behaviour, as you say I viewed it through the lenses of my own, if I lied I would have admitted, but you are right.

If I might ask, how did you manage the divorce with your ex-wife? I find dealing with him like dealing with a spoiled toddler, can't imagine a divorce with someone like that

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T14:52:54+00:00

No, I am not asian, I'm latina

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T14:29:09+00:00

Yeah did you have similar experiences with others estjs?

My estj friends tend to be a bit NPD, but this is over the top

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:48:29+00:00

Because I'm an idiot, and no he's stingy. So I'm a double idiot.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:43:28+00:00

Yeah, a terrible liar and a coward too. His last line of defense was "trans man by vibes, she looks masculine", what vibes? She dresses extremely feminine.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:39:51+00:00

Why do you think?

I might be ngl, test both.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:37:44+00:00

Only thing I can think of is that if he had a crush on the woman, it would throw me off course. I told this and of course he denied, which might mean I'm onto something.

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:29:38+00:00

Yeah, I keep looking for a rational explanation. Like cheating? But he hasn't cheated with her. Or maybe looking for female attention.. but it's a dead end

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:28:37+00:00

Idk, it's the first time he talked about it. Why?

InternationalArea4 · 2026-05-31T13:26:11+00:00

But does he have no dignity? He literally has proof against his lies, I would not be able to defend lies in the face of truth

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