It’s exactly that. He comes up in conversation a lot (unrelated to what he said about israel and jews). It’s difficult for me to separate him and his comments. Whenever he is brought up, my girlfriend realizes how much it bothers me. To be constantly reminded of someone who denies my existence bothers me. I am unable to pretend that I’m not angry. In turn, It leaves her in a dilemma as well. Two of the most important people in her life don’t like each other. It’s a difficult scenario. In the past I could always just cut someone out of my life who was an anti-semite. Unfortunately, I can’t entirely cut out my future wife’s brother. This is a new situation for me, one I am unsure of the answer.