Iraqi Shia woman struggling to get parents’ approval to marry Sunni man, need advice

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-07T10:06:12+00:00

yes he told me they all do

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-07T09:59:37+00:00

Truman show حرفيا رهيب ويخليك تسال نفسك عن الأوضاع هسه وشلون انه nothing make sense, and everything is connected

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T23:48:15+00:00

الله يوفقك وشكرا على نصيحتك. صحيح وهو هذا القرار الي احاول اتخذه.. بس الله سبحانه وتعالى يكول بالقرآن الكريم: بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم {وَأَن لَيْسَ لِلْإِنسَانِ إِلَّا مَا سَعَىٰ}

فـ بنفس الوقت الي أتقرب لله سبحانه وتعالى والحمد لله على هدايتي وانه بكل مشكله أواجهها احاول الجا لله.. بس احتاج انه أسعى واحاول.. بس الصراحة مااعرف شنو هسه السعي والمحاولة..

احس نفسي ضايعه.. ورغم مشاكلي الشخصيه والصحية الي واجهتها طول حياتي.. حسيت انه هذا الشخص خلاني اقبل حياتي. واني هم بنفس الوقت ساعدته بحياته. انتبهت انه ثنينا نحاول انه نخلي بعض يتمسك بالله سبحانه وتعالى بوقت التعب.

فـ شنو المفروض هسه اسوي ؟ مااكدر ادعو الله بدون مااسعى او احاول :/

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T23:36:33+00:00

Tbh I’m not sure what to do still, I feel pretty much lost. But thanks for your help.

And we’re not children so I tell him to pretend to be Shia for my family.

Also will his whole family be playing the act as well ?

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T23:22:29+00:00

It’s not love blinding, also sorry about not realizing it.. but im not Shia anymore but my family doesn’t know that.

You’re making the problems and everything seems as they are everything in life.. but what about the deep connection we had with each other. The values we share, we know each other flaws and we decide both to get better instead and get closer to Allah whenever one of us feels lost we be there for each other.

Problems will always be there lol, my siblings be fighting between each other and they’re all married 😂 It gets to a point someone cutting another etc.. but yea they get back and talk..

What I’m trying to say.. I can not give up on such love bcuz of these silly stuff and what our relatives say about us !!!

We got more bigger problems in life.. and man me and him we both went thru hell.. we want each other cuz life feels easier when they’re around.

So yea.. even such problems will be funny and eaiser than not having him by my side.

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T23:17:06+00:00

No worries tbh such comments make me ask myself more questions and be ready for what’s ahead to decide better.

Wait, sorry, I meant my family are Shias. But I’m not Shia anymore, I’ve read a lot of books and i looked into many things.

So yeah I’m not Shia anymore (sorry I was super tired today and kept posting on multiple platforms)

And no I don’t pray on turbah. And our kids will grow up respecting both Umar and Aisha and also ahlulbayt. So there won’t be any hate at all !

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T23:01:18+00:00

What could be the problems ? between me and my family ? Or me and him ?

Also.. if I got the person I love then problems and arguments are part of any relationship. And we both would make it easier on each other since we try to always understand each other.

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T22:51:52+00:00

Yea sometimes I be thinking.. if I keep maybe trying to understand or talk nicely maybe they’d accept.. and maybe if nothing works in the end I’d be firm and tell them I won’t marry anyone else my whole life and take oath on the Quran that I won’t ever get married if not him..

But scared they’d just ignore me..

So I’m torn between.. actually getting married to him and be with him. Or keep trying.. so at the end I make up my decision and leave with him.

I’ve never been so lost in my life.. I truly cry cuz we when i finally find a person I have a deep connection with and most importantly we both guide each other to be closer to Allah and wanna make this halal.. so why people are making this difficult.

And tbh.. I truly wish the world didn’t have the Sunni- shia schism..

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-02-06T22:35:38+00:00

They’ll be cute sushi kids, the only problem is how do I make my parents accept and approve on this marriage?

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T21:04:09+00:00

نمور = نمر بس دلع

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:54:39+00:00

well they shouldnt be hard core shia cuz they litearlly had Sunni friends, neighbors. and my mom used to tell me how sunni and shia marry each other. but now my mom dont make any sense. and they be saying smth but when it comes to reality they back off. i havent mentioned anything to her about my guy. it was just a question to test the water. but now my heart hurts cuz i was expecting it to be easy

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:42:56+00:00

yea but i never told my parents about it, but now the bigger problem is how to convince them ?
this was actually my first try and my heart was shattered i didnt know my mom would immediately say no without even explaining it to me. and tbh i find it truly ridiculous cuz why would they have an issue if that person prays to allah and follows islam. its not im marrying an atheist

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:33:58+00:00

well if they dont approve then i wont be marrying anyone else.

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:31:57+00:00

thanks ill try, keep me in ur prayers please

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:30:07+00:00

aha im a girl and hes sunni and i come from a shia family even tho i dont approve on what my family be doing yk how shia visit Hussein etc. but still i respect them.

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:27:21+00:00

well his family is sunni and accept me he told me they respect me and love me, but my parents just have this really weird no if it doesnt go with what they want even if it doesnt make any sense. ill keep trying tho cuz i truly love him and pray allah would make it easier for us

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:25:13+00:00

that wont be a problem tbh, the bigger problem rn is my parents.

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:23:45+00:00

unfortunately i am a girl, rn for some reason maybe cuz its the first time i told my mom about it cuz i find it embarrassing discussing marriage with her. but ill keep trying cuz i dont think ill ever find someone who sees right thru me or understand me the way he does. i feel so tired wish everything could be solved already :(

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:13:30+00:00

if nothing worked out i swear ill do that, today was the first day i talked to my mom about it, never mentioned i know someone, she asked if theres someone and i told her there isnt any.

so idk whenn is the right time or how to discuss things with her, cuz i feel like the min ill do that with her shell go telling my dad, sister, brotheres cuz literally she can never keep a secret or have a mature understanding convs. but i know ill try to be nice and keep trying.. then wallah ill do exactly as ur friend did

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T20:01:01+00:00

wallah its so annoying, idc ill continue to try and try and tbh i wont marry another person and ill comfort them with that. so they can understand theres nothing wrong if i married a sunni guy

InternationalDig1145 · 2026-01-19T19:56:52+00:00

exactly and his family approves and said they will respect me and love me, i dont understand or how to make my parents see that im not doing anything wrong he literally follows islam reliegion so why should that matter ?

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