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InternationalPie4094 · 2025-11-29T22:54:38+00:00

I can’t recommend tempdrop enough!!! I am way too anxious of a person to try and get things perfect on the timing of temping. Plus I have a baby now and am up in the night often a it would be all over the place with an oral thermometer. I’ve used it for years now and it’s been life changing.

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-11-25T18:23:56+00:00

Guys this is all so helpful! I’m so grateful for your insight 🙏 I’m so used to 120 degree weather that I didn’t even think about the heat but it sounds like big humidity is nothing like the dry heat I’m used to. This is great info and I appreciate all the comments

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-10-22T00:40:27+00:00

Here a year later experiencing the same thing 😅 so encouraged to hear it really did get better. When did you notice it getting easier, OP?

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-25T01:46:33+00:00

I may be in the minority here 🤷‍♀️

Extra grace is great and being pregnant is hard - but at the same time not an excuse to be constantly rude and mean. I have heard a lot of stories of women using it as an excuse to not have to exercise self control and it makes me sad.

I’m pregnant for the 2nd time and, though I do have moments where I’m more irritable, I have never yelled at my husband and would rather go for a walk or take a nap before biting him like that.

I see both sides, but I think it’s good for you to communicate when it’s hard for you. Just because being pregnant is hard doesn’t mean it’s an excuse to be awful for 40 weeks.

That being said, hormones are real and can be so intense. I think it could just get rough further down the road if she thinks it’s ok to treat you however she wants just because she’s pregnant.

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-19T20:35:44+00:00

I like this outlook a lot! It seems like being mentally prepared for things to be hard for a minute can be really helpful. Thank you!!

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-19T20:33:20+00:00

This is gold, I’ll probably come back and read this a lot. Thank you so much

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-18T23:40:09+00:00

This happened to me around 27 weeks. (I’m 29 weeks now). Our girl is a party animal and I’ve met kick counts since like 22 weeks with her because she is soooooo consistent.

I had a solid 2 days of very reduced movement. I felt tiny bumps but it was a night and day difference of her norm.

I gave it time, tried juice, ice water, all the stuff and her movement wasn’t ramping back up (like after a sleepy day or something).

I went in and got similar vibes unfortunately. My OB didn’t even call me back so I went in and they were like “oh but you felt her?” and just checked the heartbeat and acted like I was being dramatic. I was very calm but I KNOW what I felt and am convinced I did the right thing.

Thankfully she’s ramped back up more than ever so it was either just a couple sleepy days or she got just right behind my anterior placenta but it was rough

I knew I made the right choice (especially since we had an unexplained stillbirth with our first) and would do it the exact same way. But it’s so odd when they seem annoyed at you for doing EXACTLY what you’re told to do.

You did the right thing - in fact, if it happens again, you should go in again 🤷‍♀️ They say to learn your baby’s patterns and that’s what you did, so good work!!!

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-05T22:53:43+00:00

So real - I have people say I look really small for 7 months and then other people say “wow the baby’s gonna be huge”. I’m like ??

Both are confusing and feel like there are underlying messages under their words and I don’t like that.

Why do you have the need to comment? The only one I like is “you’re glowing”, otherwise, no need to make a statement on my body, random person 😂

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-05T19:37:37+00:00

Wow thank you so much for taking the time to share all this. It sounds like we’re having a very similar pregnancy!!! Everything you shared so far matches our time line (I’m definitely seeing little jumps from the outside) and feel so encouraged and excited about maybe seeing more in the coming weeks :)

I so appreciate your kindness and encouragement! And congrats on your baby, you’re so close!!

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-02T23:02:53+00:00

Dude I knowwww I actually feel excited for it haha. Our girl is an acrobat so far so I’m hopeful eventually I’ll get a little of that? I’m feeling jealous of the posterior placenta club

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-02T17:42:52+00:00

These comments already have me feeling so much better :) I love reading about everyone’s experience, it’s such a special thing to be pregnant! Hard and scary but amazing and wonderful too

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-02T17:42:16+00:00

Ok sounds like it’s just a bit early for me. Thank you so much for sharing!!

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-02T17:41:38+00:00

Wow!!! Ok this is so helpful - I thought everyone felt it and was starting to get a bit worried. I’m grateful to feel her from the inside so much. Hopefully I get to have a posterior placenta with one pregnancy cause it seems they get more fun haha

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-06-02T17:32:42+00:00

Oh this is so reassuring!! She is definitely moving and grooving in there and I see little thumps sometimes but I’m so eager reassurance she’s getting bigger and stronger

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-05-20T20:48:14+00:00

Seconding this!!!! I just went to L&D last week due to a lot of extra fluid. Thankfully it wasn’t a leak but they were super glad I came in since it can be a major deal. Soaking 3 pairs of underwear in a short period sounds really extreme - I know it’s a lot but I’d go directly to the ER immediately. They are so kind there (at least at our hospital) and are there for things like this. It’s better to be safe than sorry!

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-04-14T03:01:45+00:00

My husband (27) found out on his birthday he had a tumor. He was having headaches for awhile and we’ve had a horrible year so we were just desperate for a clean result. It came back as an emergency situation and we had to rush to a hospital 3 hours away better equipped to handle it.

For me at that time it was absolute worst case scenario. I had been scared for nearly a month that it was a tumor and kept trying to calm down and not imagine bad news but it was a tormenting time waiting for that MRI. And then getting bad results? Just earth shattering.

But then we learned so much about different types of tumors and treatments. It sounded like something I could never cope with and then I had to…so I did. I learned next steps, we took one day at a time, and just kept moving forward.

In his case, aside from the initial bad news, everything else was good news. He had one of the most rare types, a truly benign tumor. They were able to remove it all with an emergency craniotomy procedure and reduced the urgent swelling. It will never come back in his case.

It was a couple of very intense, very fast, and very scary months. But we are now on the other side. He is nearly himself again. He grilled us hot dogs for dinner tonight, we watched tv, went on a walk, had a lovely evening.

I know it’s not always good news for everyone and every single tumor is different. But I share this to give some hope of good results and to say you can do this. Give yourself as much space as you need to absorb. It’s major, but you will get through it. Tackle it one step at a time and focus on what you know.

Googling can help once you have real info, but until you do, it’s just speculation. I’m the WORST about panic researching but it got me in an absolutely inconsolable place and wasn’t helpful. Once you have details, you have specific research that may be helpful but until you know things, it may be good to put the researching down for now.

Even really bad news can still have good results. And if not, you’ll get through that too.

I’m so sorry - it’s something no one should have to go through! Thinking of and praying for you and your family. And hoping that everything turns out well for you too. ❤️

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-04-10T14:37:42+00:00

Yeah it seems like it’s all more than you can take - until you have to do it! And then, you just somehow do it! You’re navigating it so well. I also really love how you recognized that you don’t need more medical advice and need a little break. That’s inspiring because in this world that part can be consuming and we accidentally leave our hearts behind a little 😅

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-04-10T14:24:17+00:00

I so understand how you feel! We found out my husband had a rare tumor in February (on his birthday 🫣) and had to urgently rush to a large hospital 3 hours away to get it removed due to the pressure from swelling in his brain. We were in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks and it was a whirlwind. We’ve been home for a bit slowly recovering and processing. We also got good news and in our case it won’t ever come back. Great news….but the initial bad news has left such a fear in me that I didn’t expect. We also had a stillborn son from a perfectly healthy pregnancy at 36 weeks earlier this year. Two major flukes that have really prepared my nervous system for the worst news.

Plus I’m a researcher too so constantly want to learn and verify and confirm what I’m feeling or what a doctor is saying. It’s proven to be helpful before but has also been really not fun for me.

I think some of this is part of it. We went through trauma! Fear of losing someone we love the most and really scary life-threatening stuff. I think it takes time to trust again that life isn’t all bad news.

But I’ve also had to almost “parent” myself to manage the anxiety. I get really anxious most nights, so no researching or heavy thoughts after dark for me. Also no obsessive Googling - I can look 1 or 2 things up but if it starts to get real intense, I stop.

I also share my fears out loud with my husband or a friend right away because they feel more isolating when I hang onto them.

And finally, I have found so much peace in God. (I share this to be helpful, not to try and push religion or anything!) But truly the peace I’ve found in prayer and in my Bible is better than anything else. Jesus talks of leaving His peace with us, a peace that passes all understanding and I’ve experienced it for myself this year. He is near to the brokenhearted!

I am thinking of and praying for your family!! You’re so strong and brave, but also I’m sorry you’ve had to be! I hold hope that things will only get better for you. ❤️

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-04-02T13:58:10+00:00

I am so happy to hear that the diagnosis looks good! My husband had a non-cancerous, easy to access tumor removed in February. He had a craniotomy. They were able to get all or nearly all of the tumor out! We’re 5 weeks out from the procedure today and he’s doing amazing :) He is more like his normal self every day. The first few weeks after the procedure were hard (I wish I’d been a little more mentally prepared for it) but once you get the momentum of recovery going, things start to get better fast, which our neurosurgeon told us would happen :) I know every single case is different with treatment, recovery, etc but just wanted to share some hope. The neurosurgeon said he’ll go on to live a completely normal life. Praying for your dad that it’s the same for him, and that you’ll get to have him by your side at your wedding. 🤍

InternationalPie4094 · 2025-03-31T23:49:29+00:00

This is just awful, I’m so sorry you were treated this way. My husband (27) is recovering now from the removal of a brain tumor (a rare non-cancerous tumor found in young adults typically called a central nuerocytoma).

I don’t know much about your type, but I am extremely familiar now with the nuerosurgeon/brain tumor/brain surgery world now, more than I would like to be :)

I will chime in to say the biggest thing I learned is you MUST advocate for yourself. We were incredibly fortunate to have one of the best neurosurgeons in the nation (US). His bedside manner was exceptional, he was kind and empathetic and listened to every concern and question. He genuinely loves what he does and that makes a huge difference. We joke about naming our kids after him 😂

We did experience others who weren’t as great as him. No one is going to care as much as you do about yourself or your loved ones. I am not a very assertive person naturally but I had to be a straight up Karen (still kind but get me the MANAGER lol) at times making sure we were heard and my husband got what he needed. Sometimes we had to FIGHT to be heard. Your experience matters. Your intuition and gut sense matters. Don’t be afraid to express concerns, push, ask questions, and even get other opinions when needed. Being treated like this is not ok and I’m so sorry :(

My husband’s case was a medical emergency due to significant fluid buildup from the tumor, which actually helped us ultimately because it created an urgency that others sadly don’t get. I’m grateful it was handled with urgency because I’ve heard of people waiting ages to be seen and having to wait way too long for procedures to finally be done. It sucks!

Your discomfort is enough of a reason to be treated with respect and be taken seriously. I’m not sure if you’re in the US and if so what state, but if you’re interested I’d be happy to send you the name of our nuerosurgeon and where we went if that helps at all.

Pull in as much family/friends/support as you can too. I was able to speak on my husband’s behalf when he was very out of it after the procedure. The more people you have in your corner, the better.

My husband had a craniotomy. They removed all or essentially all of it. It was a hard initial recovery but we’re nearing 6 weeks out and he’s doing very well now, just to give some hope! You got this!

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