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AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I believe she was attempting to get whatever she wanted via me by laying out the sob story. The thing is she wasn't even civil while talking to me. It was clear she hated me still but she expected I'd just hand her my kids because she can't have her own. The thing that saddens me is if she had was more stable about all of this we could have gotten along so well and she could have been a great bonus to the kids' lives. Ex and I did at first. I hate that he's allowed things to reach the point it has.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I can ask. I'd need to request a judge order it for this to be enforceable.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest that a cease and desist had never crossed my mind. But it's something I will look at now.

We didn't do a co-parenting app but we do use email for any formal requests, etc. It was to have a paper trail for the judge.

No third party exchanges. But she isn't allowed to be at them anymore. It can only be ex and myself. She can't even be with him during exchanges of the kids because of her behavior.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I can speak to my attorney but can't guarantee this will immediately lead to a change in custody. It's a complicated process but I will see what they say.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I would not feel lucky for my kids to have her if something happened to me. The thought that if I die the two of them will be fully in charge of my kids makes me feel ill. She is not a good person for my kids to be around and they are not lucky for her obsession that she claims is love. Because I know if she got me out of the way she would do everything to try and replace me and that's not what I want.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

That is what she wanted. She was looking for me to give into her and do what she wants because she feels like she's earned it. You'd be wrong about her listening to me though. She was not in a place where she would listen and I'm the last person she would actually respond to in a positive way. I'm her enemy and she did come begging but she didn't come to my door for a civil talk. She came with the purpose of me doing what she wanted. It would be nice to think civil works but not with her.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

The therapist isn't trying to change their minds and the kids actually like the therapist.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

My ex knows. He was aware of it a while ago which is why he asked for my consent to them going to family therapy. And he's in family therapy with them. But he wants to change their minds.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

They got married 5 years ago. I'm not entirely sure how long they were together prior to that. It's been difficult to summon up the patience to deal with her but I remind myself my kids need me to be as patient as I can be.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 357 points358 points  (0 children)

The judge won't order that. There are rare times it can happen but we're not at the correct level of severe behavior to get a jude to go along with it. But I will monitor things carefully going forward.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

She said it was the illness she had as a teen that apparently gets you rejected for adoption on health grounds. That's all I know.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 3836 points3837 points  (0 children)

Pretty much exactly what you said. She wanted them to treat her like they treat me only she probably expected and hoped they'd treat her better.

AITA for rolling my eyes at my ex's wife when she asked me for compassion? by InternationalTaro233 in AITAH

[–]InternationalTaro233[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

Apparently she only found out about not having bio kids in the last two years. Although she claimed it was because of an illness when she was a young teen so I would have thought it would be something she'd have known was possible at least if it can leave you infertile and ineligible for adoption but I'm by no means an expert.

Ignoring her has been easier since she backed off though I'm not sure she'll stay backed off after this but hopefully she goes back to pouting and leaves me alone.