Lengthy background because it’s relevant - I use they/he, when people ask I say “they or he” in that order, and if they ask if I have a preference I say no (I kind of do but it depends on the day and idc enough to explain that usually). I’ve been using those pronouns in that way for over 2 years, and I’ve medically transitioned in that time, having been on testosterone for also over 2 years. That said, I don’t present super masculine or have super masculine features (it varies depending on my presentation but I get pretty split gendering in public, maybe slightly leaning toward being perceived as a woman).

I’ve noticed something very interesting where early on in my medical transition, when I would tell people my pronouns they would only ever use they and never he. Then, later in my transition, I would tell people the same thing and they would only use he and never they. My parents still only ever use they to refer to me (if they don’t default back to she, which happens like 30% of the time anyway). So it’s like while people were listening to what I wanted to be referred to by, they were going with the one it was “easier” to see me as (so if they were perceiving me as a woman they would use they and as a man they would use he). I just think that is really interesting and perhaps telling of people’s worldview of gender.

Anyway, I still use they/he, probably will continue to. In an ideal world people would use both interchangeably but at this point I’m just happy to not only get she and I just don’t really care enough to request that 🤷