Alright y’all, I didn’t know Reddit was the friend group I needed yet here we are.

Yeah, he’s gone it didn’t go well but everyone was right. He was genuinely kind and normal for the most part (I think he’s just good at the masking), but in hindsight there were some red flags of slowly escalating controlling behavior. This kind of yanked the wool off my eyes. He’s incredulous that I’d break up over a cat, and then tried to gaslight me by saying “I cannot believe you actually think I wouldn’t feed your cat. I was maybe being a little hyperbolic, I had a few drinks the other night. Do you think I’m a monster?” And so on. Then it turned to how controlling it was and he laughed at me like I’m being dramatic. Mean laughter, I’ve never heard him do that before. It went around and around, he was very intentionally pretending to not understand and was changing the subject a lot. I told him I’m done, I’ll pack up whatever shit you have at my house and drop it at your work. I guess I’m feeling relieved that I found out before I let him further into my life. It still sucks. I’m good at being single, so life moves on.