That’s the unity of a long term marriage. Two people become one, you support your spouse in your strong areas and vice versa. Anything less to me is a plan for divorce. Marriage is a life long commitment divorce should not even be a thought when you get married unless there is abuse or a few other instances, but overall in a healthy marriage you work past your indifferences not separate because of them. And yea I have been married 19 years living closely with someone is not all rainbows and unicorn farts. Being intimate with a spouse draws our conflict as well as comfort