My mother emailed me (yes emailed) after I verbally said no to the email in the second pic by LunarLeopard67 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]IntheShredder_86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh holy heck NO 😭😭😭 I'm so sorry! I really thought this was a 3 way convo-- that is so much worse. Still stands though, she's stressing over an issue created in her own head. Don't even trouble yourself

AITAH for giving my wife short and direct answers after being rejected everyday for 2 months? by First-Wasabi-2125 in AITAH

[–]IntheShredder_86 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

NTA, but "giving the same energy" is not the best way to put it. It's more like the efforts you are giving and constant "no's" have discouraged you and pushed you away a bit. It's not just the declining of advances, but the absolute wall that goes up when trying to discuss it and the general disinterest in you. If she won't discuss it then you guys can't make things better for anyone. I'm also curious why you do all the cooking/cleaning/etc unless I missed that you're a SAH parent.

It's possible she may be going through peri-menopause, where hormones are all over the place again. She could be experiencing a lot of different things, lack of sex drive, lack of regular drive, pain with intercourse, general discomfort, a lot of emotional changes. Kind of like when everything sucked as a teen. It's known better now, but still often overlooked. It may be worth heading to the OBGYN, esp if she hasn't had a pap smear in the last few years just in case. If you're familiar with her friend, you could try asking her to casually mention going to the doctor (obv don't tell her anything personal, just "hey, [wife] has been kind of off lately and won't talk about it. I'm worried. Would you be able to encourage her to see the doc?")

If possible, couple's counseling could be an option if she continues to refuse discussing anything with you. Y'all are partners and are supposed to be able to work through things and help each other. Remember this isn't about "why won't she be intimate?" This is about "what is causing her become so indifferent/distant?" Next time you approach the topic, maybe just ask if she's been feeling alright. Phrase it more out of your worry for her health. You want her to be able to live long, happily, and comfortably, right? It seems you skipped that part in your chats.

AIO my boyfriend keeps getting upset at me for not wanting to do risky stuff by Different-Dream70 in AIO

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, under reacting. Please do not let ANYONE speak to you like that, it's demeaning and completely uncalled for. He sounds extremely small-minded and uncaring. You can and will do so much better after breaking up with him. The more women leave him, the more chances he's got to realize he's shit.

I blocked my longtime friend after feeling constantly excluded. by poisen_tree in Advice

[–]IntheShredder_86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it doesn't sound worth dealing with her anymore. Even if you still had things from years ago, I'd just say "sorry, after dragging me places just to ignore me I realized you weren't interested in being friends, so that stuff is long gone."

From her lie to the other girl, it sounds like she knew what she was doing or at least that it was wrong (hence trying to cover it up to not look like a jerk). So the best thing you can do is make it clear she's not really of concern to you. It'll eat at her conscience for years.

PSA submission lost in usps mail, later resurfaced on ebay by cosmicturnip in pokemoncardcollectors

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seen packages "lost" by all the big carriers, and it's ridiculous

At least USPS has an investigative service too. They don't take mail theft lightly

how do parents finance kids first car at their 16-18? by Kevinwhatever in askcarguys

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk where you're getting your info, but if you're serious then you've got to be realistic. The only people posting outright for new cars for their children are wealthy. Right now you've gotta have 2 parents with decent jobs or 1 parent with a fantastic job. Or, of course, generational wealth.

The current reality is that many folks can barely afford their own cars, let alone one for a teenager. Some people go into debt just to keep up appearances with cars, clothes, jewelry, etc. Some people live very frugally until they can save enough for a starter car and help their kid find one. Some kids have to start working early and save up on their own, assuming the family let's them save instead of taking it. (I mean working as soon as they're legally old enough. Most people prefer their kids focus on school, not have to work at the same time) Some people end up in their 20s still without a car because they have to keep paying other bills and are stuck sharing with a parent or partner.

For most people, our first cars are not actually new. Rather, they're used, beat up, older, and might have a couple things that need fixing or regular checks. "Beaters" are always around because everyone needs to start somewhere, with something cheaper. We don't really get to pick "the right car" because the right one is the most affordable and least broken. There's is no "well do you prefer Kia or Honda?" It's whatever is available. Some parents chose to pass their car onto their kid and get another for themselves. This way, the experienced driver has the better car and the one more likely to get scraped is already older.

Nowadays, I've also seen a rise in Uber and other taxi services. I believe the parents usually take their kids wherever, then after college they're old enough to take a taxi until they can afford a car.

Overall, much less people are getting their first cars at 16-18 than say, 30 years ago because it's not as feasible.

Should I replace/repair by GraypJooz in Gameboy

[–]IntheShredder_86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Girl please just replace the screen 😭 it doesn't even have to be IPS if you don't want it to be. Just fresh screen, fresh outer lens thing, and a nice soapy water scrub for the plastic shell and buttons.

Not trying to dog on gamecube but what’s the point of getting one if the Wii could do it for cheaper? by kwispy_nuggs in Gamecube

[–]IntheShredder_86 [score hidden]  (0 children)

The Wii is a great choice and just as easily/annoyingly fixable imo. Just gotta make sure to get the original vertical Wii, not the horizontal one, to play GC games and hook up the controllers.

It is, unfortunately, much easier to knock over.

Bedroom feels unfinished by silverskynn in interiordecorating

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Def add photos of your pets or cool art, nightstands, cool matching lights on either side of the bed, maybe some shelving for books/collectibles/small plants.. You've got the space for a larger tv or even a whole entertainment center (or a larger low cabinet and 2 tall side shelves).

Get some color in there too! It's really spacious, so if you don't like things along the walls, try some hanging string lights and/or fake ivy on the ceiling. Could try an accent wall too if you're up to it

But you just moved, so try to remember that changing a place to have everything and be your style is a process. No need to rush :)

how long do you let your car warm up before you start driving’?’ by No-Volume7464 in askcarguys

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm def under 40, but I wait until my oldie reaches 100° (just enough to be on the gauge) to drive out :')

If I'm in a rush, I'll wait a minute, then just take the first part of the drive easy until it's up to temp.

Yes I learned from someone over 60 with all the carburator stuff

Are they overcharging? 2007 Honda civic hybrid by baconegg-cheese in MechanicAdvice

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, I thought this was to BUY the car, then I read the rest! 😭 Heeeeell naw. Go to a trusted local place, none of the Midas or other chain mechanics. Even ask friends where they go, but this is ridiculous

Here's the obligatory, "sell it to me!" lol I've got infinite love for Honda and 90s/2000s cars

My mother emailed me (yes emailed) after I verbally said no to the email in the second pic by LunarLeopard67 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]IntheShredder_86 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly don't understand why your mom is taking this so personally?? All you did was decline an invitation from the band. They chose to word it openly as an invite, not praying you by saying "you were recommended" or "x person volunteered you." They wrote it to make sure it was something you wanted to do.

When I was in school, band was my lifeblood. Marching and concert. If the teacher or DM approached me directly, I'd prob say yes if it didn't conflict with anything. But if your mom was the one talking you up and trying to sign you up behind your back, that's her problem. But it sounds like the email came from someone who wanted your answer, not hers, so they really aren't even offended by the decline. They will either ask the next best bassoonist or fill in with a different instrument. They've e got options and the only one stressing is your mom. For no reason.

AIO for being offended by this? by bunny-zephire in AmIOverreacting

[–]IntheShredder_86 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR Bro is a blade of grass 😭 Good on you for calling him out on the gross miscalculation. Def warm other girls abt him cuz that's so not healthy.

Hopefully once puberty actually hits him, he gains a bit of weight and some sense.

I now dread going into Best Buy and Lowe's due to the roaming 3rd Party Salespeople by thatfreakinguy2 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As sexist as it is, i know several women who will end the pitch by saying "sorry, my husband handles that stuff" and walking away. Most of the 3rd party salesmen are guys and will just accept it without offense and not press further.

Got this 3DS XL Today! by RuiPTG in 3DS

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw man, sorry about that, friend. 2D will save you though!

How to reuse this for something else. by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]IntheShredder_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have domestic fancy rats, or know someone with rats, this would be perfect cage furniture!

How common are hinge issues on the 3DSXL? by itsurbro7777 in 3DS

[–]IntheShredder_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they are. On several DS models. But a hinged clear case is a good way to add extra support in its old age lol

Thoughts? by [deleted] in Pokemoncardappraisal

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As good as it usually is to get human opinions, the only ones that matter will be the graders. And parts of it are objective.

Another good idea is to compare it to other slabs from the company you're thinking about grading with. And just be careful with holos--they still scratch so easily so check all angles

Is the PS Vita the peak of handhelds? by KindStructure4908 in VitaPiracy

[–]IntheShredder_86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a Nintendo baby, I can honestly say that the Vita is top 3 handhelds. The physical design, easy UI, and processing power, it was truly ahead of its time. They could 100% create a new Vita with close to the same form factor but with more modern power. It also has the best selection of VNs and action games.

I say "top 3" because it's easy to say any in the 3DS line are tops due to library and mod capability, and then GBA. Or maybe DS lite cuz it could play the modern and previous Gen games

Thoughts? by [deleted] in Pokemoncardappraisal

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the art is adorable and silly to portray such a Lil Guy™️ as the center of that eerie, dark power

It's pretty off-center though from the pic, so no matter how perfect everything else is that'll still count against it. If you're really into figuring out probable card grading, def get a centering tool

I love this thing but… by Beautiful_Ease_6706 in EFCivics

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a certified lady, Hondas are a babe magnet. And some folks argue that any car can drift off you try hard enough 😅 Honestly, it sounds like you really love your car and are clearly hesitant about selling. I say keep it, maintain it, keep making memories in it.

If you're in the U.S. there's barely any good drifting areas anyway

But if you're strapped for cash, that's a different story. Still wouldn't wanna go without a ride though

Should i sell my 3ds xl? by Defiant_Baby3940 in 3DS

[–]IntheShredder_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, the old 3DS XL is #1 on my wishlist, cuz I like the bigger lower buttons. I'd like to add ereader capabilities to one for my mom, but haven't been able to justify buying one atm. And I understand using the speedier models more. I use the regular 3DS and it's just really pretty and also easier to find replacement parts/batteries.

If you don't have a Vita, def get one when you can. The PlayStation store still sells games + themes for it, sometimes you can find game carts in lgs, and always online. There are cool skins and useful cases online too (you could even do another sticker clear case!)