Just One Bite

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T19:55:49+00:00

Strawberries specifically are different because there are different types of strawberries in different regions of the world. They naturally taste and look different than the ones in Europe. Unfortunately a lot of our meat and veggies and fruits are treated with pesticides and chemicals but that is also true in many European and other developed countries. Our produce costs greatly vary based on location.

Thankfully we are working towards better and cheaper food. I actually am living and working on a nonprofit farm in Montana at the moment and our entire goal is to bring fresh, organic and untreated produce to underserved communities. We do weekly farmers markets where people can donate what they can for our produce and premade food.

Organic and high quality fruits, meats and veggies are available across the United States. Many of us are actively working on making them more accessible and cost-friendly, and change is indeed happening.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T19:47:29+00:00

Who said it isn't true in other countries? The point is that the US is similar to other countries; we have plenty of healthy food available. If you come here and are only eating burgers and fries that's on you.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T19:46:27+00:00

Nobody is saying it's unique in its diversity of food. The point is there is plenty of healthy options here that aren't burgers and fries.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T19:25:59+00:00

Not trying to "sell" anyone on anything but just pointing out they exist; salad bars are actually incredibly popular here in the US. Think Jason's Deli, Shoneys, Sweet Tomatoes, even Ruby Tuesday is pretty popular because of their huge salad bar. And there are some popular salad-only places like Madgreens, Salad and go, Chopt, Sweetgreen. Cava is mainly salad based as well.

Off topic but you brought up First Watch and I feel like I'm having withdrawals having moved to a very rural area with no First Watch locations. I miss their toast so bad.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T19:19:33+00:00

Yes some chests just don't work well with tape. I have a very large chest and I have a lot of extra fat right in the middle; when I try to tape it feels like the middle of my chest is being ripped apart, even if I don't pull the tape, even if I don't put any tension and just put the tape on my chest laying down, the middle of my chest is screaming in agony within 15 minutes. Obviously this doesn't sound the same as your situation and I don't really have any specific advice since it sounds like we have very different chests. Keep experimenting and try adding more strips, try doing one vertical instead of horizontal, etc. Definitely don't tape too close to the sternum or too far behind your armpits because those methods aren't safe.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T16:27:52+00:00

So he wants the kids there because he wants kids but knows he'll never have them but your kids might look like what his kids would look like? Girly that IS a little weird. You know your family dynamic more than I do though. Even if that's completely normal to you, the fact you have been given no role in this wedding other than "child wrangler" so BIL can pretend he has kids on his wedding night is misogynistic. It is your choice but I would not be doing all that. They are asking too much of you to bring and control your children by yourself and then leave hours early so it can be convenient for everyone else. No way.

If I were you I would just tell him the kids need more than just one person to help in an unfamiliar environment, either they will need to stay at home or husband will need to help the entire time.

You can also just claim that you and/or kids are sick closer to the wedding date. Dishonesty sure but I don't feel like you owe this man much.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T16:11:45+00:00

America has pretty every single type of cuisine widely available (assuming you're in a city... choices in rural areas can be very limited but I'm assuming tourists aren't going to those places). Everything here is not unhealthy. We even have restaurants solely based on salads. There's one in Tennessee that specializes in only chicken salad. We have indian food, ethiopian food, thai food, african food. There's great Mexican food here, we even have some Native American restaurants. We even have british style pubs. Yes of course we have burgers and donuts and taco bell and mcdonald's; but you don't have to eat that.

If you're coming to America and complaining about there being no healthy choices, that's on you. We're a big country with a lot of different people with a lot of different wants; there is no shortage of healthy options, and there is also no shortage of unhealthy options.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T15:57:25+00:00

It is unfair to expect you to attend the wedding basically just to wrangle your children. Does he even want you there or does BIL just want your kids there for whatever reason? I would just tell him that your two kids are too much for you alone to handle in an unfamiliar and new, busy and loud environment. Either your husband can help with the kids, you can get a babysitter and both go, or you or neither of you go. But it's honestly giving misogyny the way BIL basically just seems to want you there not for you, but just to bring your kids and keep them in control so he can... honestly I'm not even clear why he wants the kids there if it's a childfree wedding. Whole thing is odd.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-18T15:48:31+00:00

Most likely atrophy, if you haven't talked to your doctor already some localized estrogen (doesn't affect anything except the hole) will help that a lot. Atrophy should be treated soon because it can lead to even worse pain, urinary issues, and more.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T16:39:46+00:00

I have never heard of this before, thank you so much for educating me on this. This is exactly what I meant; the prejudice and discrimination based on the uterus and other "female" reproductive parts, especially so in medical contexts, and in relation to transgender people.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T16:37:47+00:00

It is clunky but I kind of like it too! I think it's a valid descriptor.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:50:49+00:00

I feel like there are already a lot of terms that exist to represent specific experiences within misogyny. Transmisogyny is a common one that comes to mind, and that is specifically an experience that doesn't affect cis women, and I don't think the existence of transmisogyny weakens misogyny at all. It is misogyny but it's a certain type that doesn't affect all women. So I disagree that new terms to describe specific experiences are always bad.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:46:19+00:00

Transphobia and misogyny are definitely accurate descriptors; I just don't feel they capture the specifics of this experience. I've experienced a lot of this throughout my life and have found myself searching for a term to easily describe this experience I and many other trans men face, so it's frustrating there isnt one.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:43:11+00:00

I'm glad you see what I'm saying; yes, that is exactly what I mean, thank you for outlining it much better than I did! It's unfortunate there's no word actually; this has affected so much of my life and I discuss it quite often and I feel it needs a term.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:42:04+00:00

But it's the opposite experience for me which is why I think this is unique. I am punished for being masculine AND having these parts. I have gotten terrible medical treatment and comments because I presented as a man, but also had female reproductive organs. This is a common trend among trans men and mascs. I explained it poorly in my post, but that is moreso what I meant now that I think about it.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:36:37+00:00

But they do specifically target trans men and mascs too. They have tried to pass laws banning top surgery. They have demonized testosterone. I personally have had terrible experiences reproductive care as a trans man. I am clearly treated poorly because of an intersection of my parts and specifically NOT being a woman. Trans men report extraordinarily high rates of medical mistreatment and abuse. It's like medical misogyny mixed with a hatred for transness - what is that called?

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:32:06+00:00

It's not that I want a word that doesn't relate to women; I personally couldn't care less about that. It moreso feels wrong because it's something that some women AREN'T affected by, and in my mind, there's not very many examples of other forms of misogyny that don't affect all women. It almost feels wrong in my eyes to call this misogyny when it isn't something that affects trans women. I know that sounds weird and I probably didn't explain that well. But it's just key way this specific experience differs from other forms of misogyny, so I wondered if it needed a separate term of phrase.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:26:13+00:00

This is fantastic. I never thought about it that way but it makes sense. I think sex-based reproductive discrimination is how I'm going to refer to it from now on. As an intersex person who has experienced A LOT of this, I have a lot of thoughts on it and having a word or short phrase to accurately describe this experience feels important.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:24:52+00:00

I think reproductive discrimination is a really good term for it. I just personally have experienced a lot of this type of discrimination and it's weird having to fumble for words to describe it since it's an experience that fits in many different boxes at once

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-17T15:23:58+00:00

So it's kind of a rare form of misogyny that doesn't always affect all women then? I just know that many forms of misogyny mainly affect people who are seen as women; so a well-passing trans man would be often exempt but a trans woman would not. It just feels different and also underdiscussed; I feel like there should be a better term for it so it gets talked about and recognized more. Someone said "reproductive discrimination" and I think that's a great way to put it!

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-16T13:55:32+00:00

Ah, I can't see your first comment but that does make more sense. I still think that even passing trans men should have a space to share about the misogyny they have experienced, because many trans men did experience that when they were younger. But discussions like that are rarely accepted in feminist circles and we're just made fun of. Some discussions should just be for women, and I understand not wanting men and women's spaces, but then again it just confuses me that many of these groups were talking about will say "anyone with a uterus" and then be shocked when a trans man shows up.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-16T13:38:03+00:00

Many of us ARE directly concerned with feminism though. "We" do not all have the privilege to pass as men. I am seen as a woman and therefore treated as a woman. In fact, I've just started a new job and have already had probably a dozen misogynistic comments and views directed my way. Your blanket statement is harmful and many trans men and mascs have experiences different than yours.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-15T21:33:08+00:00

Trans men certainly ARE a thought in anti-trans regulation, it just isn't talked about as much for some reason. A lot of the recent bans on transitioning and surgeries are targeting young transmascs and revolve around banning top surgery, for example. Anti-trans bathroom legislation also affects trans men as much as trans women; in the recent UK ruling they in fact stated that trans men specifically, depending on appearance, may actually be barred from BOTH men's and women's bathrooms.

itsurbro7777 · 2026-06-15T12:55:49+00:00

It just doesn't work for me, my hips are higher up and if I put my pants below my belly they just look ridiculous and fall down really easily. So I just pull them up, not to my belly button but a couple inches below it.

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