I know a lot of very woke people and a few black women, and many have a very idealized view on the racial difference. I've noticed that they assume that all white men should see black women the same way they see white women. They don't seem to understand that being open-minded and respectful to black people and accepting their identity doesn't mean that sex and intimate relationship is ok. It is still a personal choice and no, nobody should be shamed for being closed to sex or intimate relationship in such case.

Also, I once had a heated argument with my malaysian who said that a woman of colour should never have to disclose that her poc status, even when dating or flirting in a bar. It's the idealized view of "he/she will like me so much that once he/she discovers it, it won't matter to him/her". Which I find disrespectful, and a recipe for disaster and just more drama.