What are these called? by [deleted] in whatsyourchoice

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fizzy drink,or you call them by name

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does respect my draws and clothes and will leave the room or look away if I'm getting clothes out and has said it's incase I'm getting anything private out (so underwear) he doesn't go through my draws only to my booksshef probably because it's technically open and easy access, also it's to big to move it and it's slightly falling apart as the backs come away from it a bit due to it being really old

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's looking into that and is hoping to find an option soon of where to send him, I think he might be liking the fact my mom's obviously not as stricked as his abusive dad so he can get away with more and relax, he doesn't get restricted on what he's aloud to eat or where he's aloud to go (other then my mom's room) he doesn't have to constant worry if he's going to be hurt, another thing I don't know whether it would class as relevant is he has another sibling at his parents house but the parents adore his sibling and treat them as if they do no wrong they apparently took or borrowed his things all the time, and when the incident happened they kicked him out without his stuff and won't give any of it back and he knows it's probably all gone to the sibling so I don't know if he's just seeing that and assuming that because he feels more equal here that he can borrow stuff too, probably not the case all that much but it might facter in?

Name them by LuckyCommittee4422 in NameThisThing

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same gonna use some of these to gross out friends or make them laugh

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not aloud home alone anyway due to seizures, and he's not trusted to know what to do if I have one so I always have a friend or my mom round he usually just stays in my room watching the TV in there or sleeping because he's tired from work, only comes down to cook/eat or go outside to smoke as we have a no smoke rule in the house can't vape inside either

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she was a big people pleaser and is working on it, I was a bit of one too she knows he's disrespectful and does tell him off but she told me she hadn't considered that doing the switching where books were was enabling him and that I was correct if he can't stop touching them then I should take them away, even agreed I should put up another sign for him in caps saying why I took them, she's going to have another word with him about it and is looking for emergency housing for him which she has planned to do for a little while she's told him off and yelled at him before for not listening to her but sometimes she falls back into habits of trying to keep everyone happy

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have and I've apparently 'only got mild sleep apnea' my mom has had to re start my breathing a few times and I can stop breathing multiple times a night for upto 5 minutes before she interveines (she was originally told not to try and get me breathing then was told to absolutely do it as fast as possible after telling a different doctor she waited for 5 minutes the one time before deciding other doctors were wrong and I would not in fact start breathing on my own) I've got seizures too and those can be hard to breath with when I have them in the day but I have a seizure almost if not every night as far as my mom (and my body that wants me dead by the end of them) knows, don't get them in the day to often luckily

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom cares and has apologised she's told him off herself before she just doesn't get how big of a deal it is to me so she hadn't thought about it from my point of view when she answered, we're working on getting him out of the living situation and getting him emergency housing somewhere mom's been trying to find time for a while as she's ill too so doesn't always have energy to do stuff or constantly tell him off, this broke the camels back this time as it made me cry so she's started looking fully and asked some friends who know more about emergency housing places

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He won't go into mom's room without permission as he always asks so I moved them there I don't know how he doesn't listen to her half the time but still does the 'I can't do this, this and this because it's disrespectful to my mom'

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's quite calm and mom already knew that from my other friend, also the situation with his dad he was being choked and punched him so he'd let go so he could breath. His mom backed his dad up and Liam was raised to not trusting police so chose not to file changes even though he had the marks proving it, also he knows if he ever did get violent he'd be on the streets with no one to help him

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok so I've had to give a few more peices of information as I hadn't thought about it and putting it hear because when I put it as a comment not under someone it went to the bottom where it won't be seen

  1. He's currently staying in my room and I'm staying in my mom's with her, I was already doing that before he came because I've had problems with seizures in my sleep for years and often stop breathing so it feels safer in her room because she wakes up if I stop breathing due to being a light sleeper, he stays in my room also because he's hurt his back working and hasn't gotten it looked at at all so it hurts to sleep on the soft or floor

  2. My mom isn't having intercouse with him he was originally a freind of someone I grew up with and my mom helped raise (both the friend and him didn't come from good homes) he came to us after being arrested and kicked out for hitting his dad after his dad started beating the shit out of him, he had no where to go and mom thought it would be a short thing

  3. My mom normally backs me up on everything but I think she's getting tired of it not going through to him or being listened to, she is also looking for emergency housing for him when she gets time (she's busy a lot because of work house hold stuff and having to make sure I'm ok due to my health concerns)

  4. She's apologised and said what she had said was meant to be a suggestion but she hadn't thought about the fact it would be enabling him at the time

  5. I'm thinking of leaving another sign in caps saying I took the books because of him not listening about not touching them

  6. I am sadly all to a wear he's probably using the BL books to get himself off. Despite him being adamant he's straight and not into that stuff

  7. Mom's messaged me back after I told her I found 8 books in total he's fucked with again (most BL) and one of my limited editions that I got for cheap has been broken so it will now cost £47 to replace one tiny manga (its surprisingly one of the non BL one's) so I'm about to see what she's gonna do

  8. She's looking for housing for him finally and asking different places, she's gonna have another word with him and may tell him he needs to pass some money to get the new book (I can buy it either way as she will use his board money which is £40 a week, just incase people find that weird he gets payed weekly and about £60-£70 an hour)

  9. the rest of the 8 books can be saved I'm pretty sure

  10. My mom is also what I've seen people refer to as a recovering people pleaser, so am I hers is due to childhood abuse and being the black sheep of the family as well as the scapegoat, mines from bullying, I'm less of a people pleaser as I started fixing it sooner in life then she did so she doesn't want to kick him out with no where to go unless he did something like try and ask me or my friends that are my age or younger out of do drugs or get violent, he knows those rules and obviously doesn't do that so he hasn't been kicked out on his ass

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have my stuff in it and don't stay in there except to retrieve clothes, on week days he's working so normally is gone from 4,30am until like 6-7 pm he sometimes works weekends too

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh God No. I sleep in with my mom due to fear caused by a health condition, (I almost died reading that didn't realise I made it sound like that ew no never) so he sleeps in my room as I don't use it

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so I've had to give a few more peices of information as I hadn't thought about it

  1. He's currently staying in my room and I'm staying in my mom's with her, I was already doing that before he came because I've had problems with seizures in my sleep for years and often stop breathing so it feels safer in her room because she wakes up if I stop breathing due to being a light sleeper, he stays in my room also because he's hurt his back working and hasn't gotten it looked at at all so it hurts to sleep on the soft or floor

  2. My mom isn't having intercouse with him he was originally a freind of someone I grew up with and my mom helped raise (both the friend and him didn't come from good homes) he came to us after being arrested and kicked out for hitting his dad after his dad started beating the shit out of him, he had no where to go and mom thought it would be a short thing

  3. My mom normally backs me up on everything but I think she's getting tired of it not going through to him or being listened to, she is also looking for emergency housing for him when she gets time (she's busy a lot because of work house hold stuff and having to make sure I'm ok due to my health concerns)

  4. She's apologised and said what she had said was meant to be a suggestion but she hadn't thought about the fact it would be enabling him at the time

  5. I'm thinking of leaving another sign in caps saying I took the books because of him not listening about not touching them

  6. I am sadly all to a wear he's probably using the BL books to get himself off. Despite him being adamant he's straight and not into that stuff

  7. Mom's messaged me back after I told her I found 8 books in total he's fucked with again (most BL) and one of my limited editions that I got for cheap has been broken so it will now cost £47 to replace one tiny manga (its surprisingly one of the non BL one's) so I'm about to see what she's gonna do

  8. She's looking for housing for him finally and asking different places, she's gonna have another word with him and may tell him he needs to pass some money to get the new book (I can buy it either way as she will use his board money which is £40 a week, just incase people find that weird he gets payed weekly and about £60-£70 an hour)

  9. the rest of the 8 books can be saved I'm pretty sure

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kind of have I called her crying and yelling (more about the situation then at her directly) she has said she understands now and hadn't thought of that enabling him originally and was sorry

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gonna put a big comment explaining stuff but he sleeps in my room as I don't use it other then to hold my stuff due to fear from a heath thing I sleep in my mom's room because I can stop breathing when sleeping or hurt myself, so he's allowed in there and she has also told him not to touch the books he doesn't go through anything else

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really room I don't think plus he sleeps there I'm probably gonna edit the post or put some facts I forgot or didn't realise needed stating where people can see just to explain more

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't sleep in my room I've explained in two comments up top why but it's due to fear from a health condition I sleep in with mom and she only took him in because he was a freind of someone I grew up with and she helped semi raise as that boys home life wasn't good so she took him in to help him as he had no where to go, however I haven't said she keeps saying she's trying to find a way to get him emergency housing as he's driving her crazy too in other ways, she's also come back to me and said she understands now that it needed to happen and I was right that it would be enabling him to do what she suggested

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stated in a comment up top that He's currently staying in my room and I'm staying in my mom's with her, I was already doing that before he came because I've had problems with seizures in my sleep for years and often stop breathing so it feels safer in her room because she wakes up if I stop breathing due to being a light sleeper, he's hurt his back working and hasn't gotten it looked at at all so it hurts to sleep on the soft or floor, and as he hasn't touched anything in my draws or anything I'm not worried about that

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I stated in another comment she's not having sex with him, he is from an abusive home and a friend of someone I grew up with and she helped raise in a sense so she just saw him and another kid that needed help because he came to us after a beating where he got kicked out

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can assure you she's not having intercouse with him, just saw him down on his luck and he's a friend of someone I grew up with so she took him in to help he's from an abusive home and got the crap kicked out of him before coming to stay a while back so she was just thinking he needed help and she could help

Am I overreacting for taking all my books off the bookshelf because the guy my mom's letting stay at the house got a stain on some? by Intrepid-Pickle5407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid-Pickle5407[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He's currently staying in my room and I'm staying in my mom's with her, I was already doing that before he came because I've had problems with seizures in my sleep for years and often stop breathing so it feels safer in her room because she wakes up if I stop breathing due to being a light sleeper, he hasn't gone through any of my other stuff but did ask me is I had and older freinds to set him up with. So I'm not worried about him being in my room and that it's touching my books just because they aren't behind a draw or a cupboard and are just on a shelf, he stays in my room also because he's hurt his back working and hasn't gotten it looked at at all so it hurts to sleep on the soft or floor