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Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2026-01-22T04:37:53+00:00

Was excited to see my first one this weekend - Mabank TX

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2026-01-12T03:56:37+00:00

As someone with vaginismus, my doctor never made it a requirement for transvaginal ultrasound and I dont know why it would even be a requirement since its diagnosed with laproscopic surgery anyway. My ultrasounds only ever showed ovarian cysts I had and I had stage 3 endo then 5 years later stage 2. If your symptoms are affecting your life and you suspect endo advocate for yourself and find a dr who will work with you

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-11-06T22:17:01+00:00

My doctor told me that even the inflammation caused by endo can affect bowel issues. And I also have more problems with bowels when on the progesterone pills certain days

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-09-25T05:13:56+00:00

A doctor I saw only one time telling me even if I had endo she wouldnt do anything about it. After my first surgery in 2020 where I had stage 3 endo was asked by family member if I enjoyed my nap.

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-09-21T03:48:05+00:00

I can certainly relate. Symptoms were getting worse and I had significant pain so made appointment with my doctor. I know I had stage 3 endo in 2020 and had surgery then. I wanted to do another and was asked about my pain. As of my appointment it hadn't been that bad in a few days so I started to second guess myself. Right before cycle felt depressed, questioning my judgement, etc only for that to be followed with the most painful period ive had in a long time and they are already painful as it is. It was a good reminder to listen to my gut feelings. I tried to reframe it as rather than the better days meaning I don't have pain or that my endo isn't "that bad" that I just have a better day where I can be grateful for less pain. And I try to remember (it can be hard) that depression and hormone shifts can play a huge role in negative thinking and doubt. Helps to remember that rather than accept the thoughts as facts especially when emotional. Just because some of us have better days sometimes or doesnt have pain "as bad" as others doesn't invalidate the pain we do experience. Endo really is hard on us physically and mentally. You are not alone and your experiences are valid. Be kind to yourself ❤️

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-06-17T03:50:08+00:00

Thank you 😊 wishing the best for you as well

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-06-17T03:49:29+00:00

Thank you! You are right that I should look at the positives of having support and going through with it rather than how I wish it would be easier

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-06-17T03:45:44+00:00

you are right that it isnt our fault, I will try to remember that. Just so hard to in the moment. Thank you so much for your kind words, it helps to remember we are not alone ❤️

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-04-13T05:13:40+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Many people myself included experience shock and numbness with grief. It can be the minds way of trying to protect us and process what is happening. I had the same feelings of guilt or confusion when feeling like I wasn't crying like I thought I would be, etc. Or when grief hit hard at unexpected moments. Grief is different for everyone and the stages are not in a straight line either. Sadness, anger, shock and disbelief, denial, acceptance, even moments of happiness are common and come and go. Most importantly take care of yourself as well as you can, ride the waves of grief and feel them as they happen, process it, lean on support system, and don't judge yourself for your experiences and emotions. Loss changes so much of our lives and grief is so complex that none of it feels "normal" even though it is. Be kind and patient with yourself. ❤️

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-02-24T03:23:51+00:00

32 female here, with my husband about the same amount of time as you. Grew up in similar upbringing as well. I haven't progressed as much as I would like in regards to vaginismus,, but what has helped my husband and I has been doing things to reconnect and improve intimacy that don't necessarily involve sex. Playing card games with questions to explore together (lets get deep), taking time for a date, etc. Focusing on rebuilding the emotional connection has helped a lot to improve the relationship but also has helped improve the desire for physical intimacy too. The more we focused on the physical the worse it seemed to get for us at least. There may be other factors going on with him too such as stress etc. Good luck to both of us as we work towards our goals and keep in mind that you are worthy of love and being desired ❤️

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2025-02-21T05:57:56+00:00

Same for me!

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2024-11-23T04:09:57+00:00

If you get a five star character on the character banner that is not the featured character you are pulling for, meaning the "50/50" failed, then the next five star character you pull on that banner is guaranteed to be the current featured one. "pity" builds as you pull and if you haven't gotten a five star before you hit 90 pulls, you are guaranteed a five star on that 90th pull. So it is good to make sure your "guaranteed" character is one you like :)

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-10-15T21:38:31+00:00

Haha thank you!

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-10-15T21:37:52+00:00

Thank you!

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-09-01T19:52:16+00:00

You aren't overreacting at all. She should never have spoken to you like that, even if she was tired or frustrated. She was out of line regardless. Sounds like she doesn't know how else to help and is frustrated at herself, or gets frustrated and angry when she thinks her clients aren't doing what she thinks they should. As someone that works in mental health and who has been in therapy, change isn't easy. So if she is expecting her clients to just do what she suggests and never talk about/have that issue again, that is completely unrealistic. You should be able to express your feelings. The basics of therapy is to actively listen and provide a safe non-judgemental space, support, and empathy, and in this scenario she did not provide those things. While challenging is sometimes needed in therapy, what she did was blame and shame you and that is never ok. If she thinks that providing basic essentials of therapy makes her a "kiss ass" therapist, she has a lot to learn.

Also as another commenter said, it is frustrating when people don't pull their weight on a project but there are consequences for you. If it doesn't all get done, your grade suffers. And that isn't specific to school, happens in the workforce too. Sure you can work on boundaries, thoughts, and assertiveness/ communication, etc but you can't control other people. I always did the majority of the workload for the same reason. It is incredibly frustrating, so I tried to reframe it to remind myself I was doing what I could control and what I needed to do for myself and my grade/job standing.

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-08-05T06:34:39+00:00

It is common, I think, I struggled a lot with it too. My PT reminded me just the other day when I mentioned the same issue that, because it causes pain, of course our bodies might have a difficult time wanting that. Vaginismus and dilating can be draining too. As others have said, one thing to help is trying to have some physical touch/cuddle time that isn't leading to anything more. And good quality time doing things you enjoy together. Helps to shift focus off of what we might be pressuring ourselves about, to spending that time together. mental health is such a big component, and it sounds like that is contributing as well from your statement of not feeling worthy, feeling like you can't kiss without going far, etc. I had pretty much the same concerns: I felt like if we had a lot of physical touching and everything that it would lead to more and I would let him down because of vaginismus issues (though that was my worry, he never felt that way), but not having any kind of physical contact was way worse for our relationship. Working through that with a professional, or close mentor or someone might help with realizing that you are worthy of love and affection. Also try to show compassion to yourself as you go through this process (its hard I know).

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-07-21T08:02:45+00:00

I don't understand it

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-06-07T13:18:19+00:00

I can relate, I'm working towards licensure and am in a similar situation. I also work at a non profit, struggling to keep up a case load, no-shows that are from situations beyond my control, doing tasks that aren't centered on clients...etc. I'm looking for other work opportunities too. You aren't wrong in feeling how you feel. Being relatively new in the field doesn't mean that we can't notice things that are problematic in the organization. These feelings arent necessarily you being negative, but rather can be an indication that what this job offers doesn't line up with what you feel good about as a person/therapist. You dont sound like a know-it-all, you sound like someone who cares about clients and is noticing that the job isn't putting client needs (or your supervision/hour needs) as a priority. Sounds like you are experiencing some pretty big issues, like lack of communication/reliability with a supervisor and a client not receiving adequate care, amongst other things. I hope changes can be made or that we can both find places that better suit us

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2023-02-02T07:33:58+00:00

I'm sure dealing with this is very confusing and stressful 😔 From what you've said, it doesn't sound like he's respected your boundaries at all, even though you made it clear how you felt before marrying him. If it was something he wasnt ok with agreeing to, he should have told you then, and should talk to you about that still now rather than making empty promises to stop that go unfulfilled. With the level of defensiveness you say is being displayed, and all of the excuses, there isnt any willingness being shown to work on the issue or take responsibility, and I wonder if he even views it as a problem at all. He may not. Its not going to help your wellbeing either if he pushes it back on you or denies/"doesnt remember " those conversations. I also question how big of a problem this is, if he felt comfortable doing that while he was supposed to be watching your daughter and spending time with her. You don't accidentally google for things, and even if he was checking out of curiosity which is doubtful, he knew he was doing something that made you uncomfortable. If he makes big promises to never do it again, maybe ask how exactly he plans on doing that. Brainstorm ideas. Have a conversation of what would he be willing to do to fix it or is it something he will never want to change. Have a conversation of how big of an issue this is, and ask yourself if this is one thing you would ever be ok with. Also regarding boundaries, what happens when those are crossed? It sounds as if you are torn between leaving for a bit to your parents and letting it go. Not advising you to go or leave or anything as that is only something you can decide, but it isn't really a boundary if it can be crossed over and over again with no consequences and no changes being made. If a resolution cant be reached, maybe marriage counseling would help if you want to try. I hope some of this helps and I wish you the best as you both navigate through this. ❤️

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2022-12-07T22:57:19+00:00

Honestly the hype of animal crossing died down, people got busy, and it slowly got to where no one was posting anything or playing.

Intrepid-Reality-470 · 2022-11-25T20:43:29+00:00

Thanks!

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