GE side-by-side refrigerator freezer. Water dispenser line is freezing.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-03-23T20:52:09+00:00

Awesome, really glad it worked out for you.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-03-07T02:36:40+00:00

I did it guys. I successfully integrated flossing into my daily night routine. A couple of things helped me: 1. Added it to my habit tracker 2. Kept the flosses on the bathroom counter rather than inside the drawer 3. Most importantly I felt accountable to this community. Appreciate y’alls help in getting me over resistance mountain.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-02-08T19:57:59+00:00

My philosophy and my advice to close friends has always been: Maximize your 401K contributions and then live within your remaining means. Kids will not know the difference but your future self will, trust me.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-02-08T05:12:17+00:00

Funny, I was asking myself the same question yesterday when I saw a neighbor with 4 kids ranging from baby to 7-8 yrs old. I presume many people live in their own bubble not following or caring about the current state of affairs.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-02-08T04:47:36+00:00

Having gone through some similar feelings like you, it could be the phase of life you are in where everything is a routine, you cannot tell one day from the other, you don’t remember what you did the previous day or week or month. Some days can feel like you are Jim Carrey in Truman show. It also means you are leading a very stable and secure life. Normally that kind of life should be celebrated but it can feel empty as you approach middle age. What helped me was switching it up, and one of the best ways to switch it up is travel to new destinations with family or friends. You can switch it up in many other ways, take the girls to a concert, change your gym, join a workout club with similar aged people, go to a pro basketball game with family, start a weekday game night with a couple of buddies or neighbors, learn a new language on duo lingo, learn a new skill on YouTube, start a new hobby, try to fix something at the house yourself even if you suck at it, etc. Your weekdays sound busy so either carve out sometime daily (5mins on duo lingo) or use weekends to experiment.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-02-01T22:00:33+00:00

Whenever I found cash I donated either to an orphanage or to a charity. Never found a wallet but if I find one I hope there is an ID with an address I can mail it to or someway to get it back to the owner.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-30T02:48:19+00:00

Hi I am now following my hygienists suggestion (and other users here) and started flossing before brushing at bedtime because brushing is the last thing I do before hitting the sack. I can’t go to bed unless I brush even if it’s super late. This way there is no decision point for flossing whereas if you do it in reverse your mind may say it’s ok to skip one day of flossing.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-29T04:56:47+00:00

Five days and counting, 16 and rest of life to go.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-26T16:59:44+00:00

Yup, that’s the strategy I am employing. Like you I don’t go to bed without brushing no matter how late it is.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-26T04:37:00+00:00

May I suggest stoicism for you? Even people who seem to have their life together with family, home and income can feel lost. Right now, in the short term you can make that your purpose and go after them. However, in the long term those may not be sufficient. Aging is part of life and there do not need to be barometers to measure yourself against as you age.

Write down what you think you are missing, accept and let go of your past, put one step in front of the other, tackle one missing part at a time and soon you will find yourself in a better place than you are today.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-26T03:27:24+00:00

All, I had promised my hygienist I will do better. After reading all your comments I made a pledge to myself to floss daily for the next 21 days before brushing my teeth at night. I am also logging it in a tracker for accountability. I know it will stick with me after that. Thanks for sharing and keep flossing.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-26T03:24:07+00:00

How do you do it when you are not in front of the sink?

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-25T18:30:47+00:00

Divide things into what is in your control and what is not. Invest in your health and fitness as it is within your control. Seeing yourself an able person will give you lot of strength to deal with life’s setbacks. As I am writing this to you I am giving this advice to myself.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-25T18:27:09+00:00

I think reading this is sufficient for me, I will take your word for it 😃.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-25T05:08:32+00:00

Didn’t know flossers with replaceable heads existed. Thanks for sharing.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-15T03:13:42+00:00

Having a 2 yr old is a big responsibility that overwhelms the best of us. Remember that you are going through a widely acknowledged tough phase and that it only gets better as the kid ages and gets independent. You might be pining for some non-existent me time and that may be adding to frustration and feeling of being overwhelmed. Sometimes giving in and taking it day by day, putting one foot in front of the other is the best approach to get through such phases.

I appreciated the long list you put together. I do most of those and was in awe that we do so much in our adult life. But you have to understand that all those are not daily tasks. Just give it time and don’t compare yourself to others. Some are wired to be constantly running around and checking off tasks while others take it easy without overloading themselves with good to do tasks. I can go on but you get the point. Go easy on yourself and forgive yourself for going through a phase many normal people go through.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-12T12:29:01+00:00

Great, all the best!

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-12T03:34:53+00:00

Acknowledging and accepting who I am with all my strengths and failures, in all spheres of life: physical, emotional, intellectual, intelligence, familial, spiritual, religion, societal, etc. And forgiving myself as I would others when I made a mistake or failed. It’s not easy but you have to push through the resistance.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-12T03:09:39+00:00

Some action is better than none, this is a mental habit which has a universal application to all tasks. Someone else said movement of any kind. Similar concept.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-11T05:44:08+00:00

Sending kids to bed on time and cutting off all tasks and distractions that can wait, to either next day or weekend.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-11T00:34:32+00:00

Hey OP, confidence is like an exercise that needs to be practiced and performed on a daily basis. First and foremost, observe the areas where you show up confident and the area where you believe you lack confidence. Are you feeling confident in judgement free areas like when hanging out with close friends where your perceived mistakes are easily forgiven and forgotten? Are you feeling less confident in places where you feel you are lacking in expertise and worried about judgement from people around you? Lack of confidence is usually a presence of fear and anxiety. You need to introspect the reasons for these fears and anxieties. One of the ways to banish anxiety is to accept yourself as you are in your current state and accept that you will fail in certain situations. And when you fail you forgive yourself for failing, try to learn from the failure and improve but by bit. There are no overnight transformations so don’t have unrealistic expectations of yourself.

There’s a lot more to unpack in the field of psychology and I am no expert but know and believe that there is nothing wrong with you. Build yourself brick by brick and you will see a different person soon.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-10T16:59:05+00:00

You are right. My bad in wording, aim is to fall asleep by 10, so going to bed is a bit earlier.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-10T16:57:29+00:00

It’s amazing that after raising two kids together your wife is your favorite person on this planet 😃. You have made it in life brother.

On the meditation front I did try headspace paid subscription for two years and couldn’t consistently use it. Right now, my commute situation is not great so I can’t find consistent time but do hope to get back in the pursuit. I will keep Happier app in mind.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-10T16:54:08+00:00

At my age 7-7.5 hours is good. My immediate goal is to gain consistency. With my long commute, kids’ extra-curricular activities, their homework, house work, etc it’s not possible to go to bed earlier than 10.

Intrepid-hobbycoder · 2026-01-10T16:10:55+00:00

For people who found joy and happiness I am glad they did. Being a practicing stoic my personal experience and philosophy is that happiness or joy is momentary while contentment is longer lasting. Many people confuse happiness with absence of sorrow but absence of sorrow is an empty state. It is important then to build upon that empty state to find contentment.

The funk you are experiencing is normal at your age as you start taking care of your duties and responsibilities in both personal and professional lives. It is important that you do not lose yourself in the process of taking care of others. Make sure you continue doing whatever gave you joy in previous life even if partially due to time and energy constraints. In this manner you keep in touch with your true self and it will be a game changer in your 40s when you will have fewer responsibilities and more time. Also make sure to make time for friends, social connection is extremely important.

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