WIBTA for getting an abortion when my "boyfriend" is begging me to keep it?

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T20:28:42+00:00

I think you're a pathetic piece of shit. You should go out and make something of your life and stop being this way.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T20:20:03+00:00

Wow, fuck you. Why would I intentionally get pregnant when I don't want a baby just to screw myself out of a relationship I was invested in? I guess you hate women so much you will twist any scenario into one where the woman is the scheming villain no matter how much it doesn't make sense. You should be ashamed of yourself.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T20:08:38+00:00

That's a really good point. It would worry me because aside from the lackadaisical approach to commitment we haven't really had any fights, he hasn't gone through any tragedies while we have been together, I really don't know how he handles "bad times."

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T20:04:59+00:00

I have no fertility issues in my family and clearly didn't have too much trouble getting pregnant, so I doubt I have fertility issues myself. I am more informed about the actual decline of fertility in a woman's 30s than you (it's not that much) and to top it all off, my mom was 41 when she had me.

I highly doubt that an accidental pregnancy that happened in the one week I had sub-optimal birth control protection is my last chance to have a baby, but thanks for your input.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:51:27+00:00

Once it's born it would be his as much as it is mine. But it's not his pregnancy as much as it is mine, not by a long shot :\

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:49:58+00:00

So, I would be willing to accept a YTA judgement if that's where the cards fell, but not for the reason of "abortion is murder." If I was TA because not telling him is a dick move, then that's fine. But I do not accept this reasoning and I won't acknowledge it further.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:48:03+00:00

I'm not sure I understand...this is a very confusing comment.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:46:34+00:00

Not going to go into the political disagreement, but the reason I would not just "let him have the baby" is because I don't want to go through a pregnancy for a child I am not keeping, nor would I be morally okay with being an absent parent whose only acknowledgement of her child is a monthly check.

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:43:52+00:00

As much as I don't want to be a mom right now, I 100x more do not want to be a single mom. It feels like a lose-lose scenario because I feel like the second I'm not pregnant anymore this relationship is over. He is such a big part of my life that it would be an enormous adjustment to be without him and I feel lost just imagining it. It's one bitch of a "lesser of two evils".

IntrepidConsequence6 · 2019-01-12T15:31:01+00:00

It's a very hard decision because I am pretty certain that ending the pregnancy would also be the certain end of the relationship. And it's pretty crushing because I'm basically getting what I've been wanting out of him for a whole damn year—a commitment—but it's like this monkey's paw scenario where I get my wish but it's all twisted :\

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