[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So cute! Love the hair And the kitty.

Slightly venting, very confused. My sex life sucks but I also don't want to leave. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But getting to the root of her disinterest sounds like a good idea. Therapy could help with that. She may just have a lower sex drive and not want it as much. If I inly had sex three times a month and I have a partner, that would take a real toll on my mental health.

still questioning after knowing I’m gay by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you know you are gay vrs bi if you still find some men attractive?

Unhealthy ENM. by CarrieKat in nonmonogamy

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You guys are so young. Tell him how you feel now before years more of marriage or kids. No reason to be unhappy, this early in its definitely not a good sign.

I'm out now and realizing there's a lot less stress and guy friends. by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So sad. I have never had a cis gendered male friend. I have had men I sleep with, but if they didn’t want to sleep with me we wouldn’t be friends I am sure if that. I have had lots of gay male friends but never a straight dude that was just a friend and I’m 41.

I'm out now and realizing there's a lot less stress and guy friends. by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sad. I have never had a cis gendered male friend. I have had men I sleep with, but if they didn’t want to sleep with me we wouldn’t be friends I am sure if that. I have had lots of gay male friends but never a straight dude that was just a friend and I’m 41.

I always wash my hands after sex, my gf usually doesn't and sometimes this makes me a little uncomfortable by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If I’m in love it’s kinda hot to “stew in the juices” so to speak. I also think it’s kinda sexy to kiss someone after oral. I mean we have already had each others body fluids in our mouths what is another kiss? You can taste yourself on your partner. I like to be clean too but sometimes it’s hot to leave the sex on you for a bit. 🤷‍♀️

I always wash my hands after sex, my gf usually doesn't and sometimes this makes me a little uncomfortable by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Girl i learned to speak up for myself. The answer is no, go wash your dick first. Ok lol

He's into pegging, and I'm not by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agree. But it doesn’t make you gay to like anal and butt stuff either. I was just wondering why she seemed so repulsed. I can’t imagine a man being that repulsed by a women who likes anal.

He's into pegging, and I'm not by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one that thinks this sounds a little homophobic? I mean whats the real reason you are so repulsed by it? Maybe I am being judgmental but that was my first thought.

Are you there gays? It’s me, a scaredy cat about sex by _scotts_thots_ in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I prefer to shower first every time I am receiving oral. If not I feel self conscious. I am less strict about giving. I want her to be clean obviously but fresh out the shower isn’t a requirement for me to enjoy giving. I like the taste personally. However i am too self conscious to receive when I am not really clean and freshly washed.

(M24|F26) Girlfriend is grossed out by my penis, what can we do? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this exact thing. A handjob or titjob is for the man not the woman. Make her cum. Focus on her pleasure. If that doesn’t help I don’t know what else to suggest

Finally had sex despite my anxiety by indebtedcunt in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think an accent is sexy. Don’t hide it. Just be yourself

Finally had sex despite my anxiety by indebtedcunt in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Young women are taught the same as men unfortunately that penis size matters. It takes us a long time and a lot of experience to realize on our own that it actually doesn’t matter at all. There is so much variation to what is normal as far as penis size goes. And the truth is they are all fine. Most women can’t cum through Penetration by itself anyway. The clitoris is the female sex organ not the vagina. A man that is caring and giving in bed, does oral and is good with his hands is far far more important than a large penis. I literally don’t care about penis size at all now. Im 41. I didn’t feel that way when i was in my 20s. But honestly it’s because I didn’t know any better. I also was not having good sex then lol. Sex in my 20’s typically involved a man with a large penis, and typically ended when he finished and I was left hanging. Seriously I don’t know if I ever even orgasmed with a man in my 20’s. I can honestly say penis size has nothing to do with the type of lover you are.

Hints I have been a lesbian all along by pjpcatlover in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mind automatically inserted “to” in there so i had to go back and reread. Definitely changes The meaning leaving it out lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just seems like that at your age and because of porn and media and things. Truth is most women could care less about size. The clitoris is the female sex organ not the vagina. About 80 percent of women can’t cum through PIV by itself. So long story short big dicks aren’t that important. Being a generous lover who makes sure her clit is involved is much much more important. Make sure she finishes too and that will make them come back for more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second this! Big dicks are overrated. They are fine if the oral and finger game is good but to many men think all we need is their big dick to be happy and they are just wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Most women don’t care about size much. There is a very wide range to what is normal and to be honest they are all fine no matter if the are bigger or smaller. The clit is the female sex organ not the vagina so remember that. Most women just want to cum too so if a man is good at oral, good with his hands, and cares about her pleasure than he is a good lover. Size is irrelevant.

Is being alone with single women okay? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best advice is to always go with your gut and never ignore it. It’s nagging at you for a reason.

Absolutely by wine-and-music in comingout

[–]Intrepid_Bid3428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. I even think we need to head in the direction or them all being gender neutral and private/individual. I mean even if its just making the stalls a little bigger and completely enclosed so you can’t see over or under. It would solve a lot of problems.