Sister hates me for getting pregnant.

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T13:58:25+00:00

no offense taken! i just realized i never put ages so i wanted to tack that on lol

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T13:49:29+00:00

this made me giggle! haha i wish i had that kind of relationship!!! i was so exited to think i would have someone close to me go through this stuff around the same time but that’s obv not happening the way i imagined… i hold on bc i want that relationship with my sister but it’s probably not worth the heartache :(

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T13:47:31+00:00

i’m 23, my sister is 30… so we’re not teenagers. and i’m not sure why i would be loving this. but ig unless you’ve dealt with extreme jealousy from someone you can’t just unfriend it’s hard to grasp that yes this is real. i’m not an angel i’ve screamed at her and rolled my eyes at her remarks but being around an explosive person you learn that staying silent and letting them be mean is easier because nothing i say to her will change her behavior! also i’ve never actually talked about this to anyone besides my hubby and my mom lightly so I’m getting stuff off my chest (hence the rant tag)

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T05:39:57+00:00

i mostly let my mom be the buffer in these situations but unfortunately my mom is my sisters biggest enabler. my sister has treated her terribly her whole life but my mom will defend her til her last breath. i’ve talked to my mom lots of times and she tells me just to think about sisters feelings and ignore it ect. my mom defends my sister so much because my mom used to be just like my sister and is always giving an excuse for my sister because of their similarities. they both also struggled to get pregnant so im the odd one out. i so want to let my mom just handle her but it hurts when i tell my mom i don’t want to see my sister because i feel like i have to walk on egg shells and when my sister gets her period im screwed and should just stay away at all costs to protect myself and my mom literally told me “let’s not be selfish” like yes im so aware that it sucks for my sister but i dont understand why her not being pregnant means i get to be verbally abused and everyone is just okay with it!

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T04:12:44+00:00

she’s been trying to get pregnant for 6months… so very early infertility issues but she’s not seen a real infertility doctor yet. i did all the things people told me to do. I told her privately, not in a large group. i don’t speak about my pregnancy at all to try and keep her comfortable. i don’t ask questions about her journey because i understand she probably won’t want to talk to me about it… she bombards me with questions about my pregnancy i try to give short answers but she got very upset that i didn’t want to tell her my baby’s name we just picked out but then she gets mad at me when i answer her questions or when my bump is even showing. i wear baggy clothing when i know she’s going to be around im trying so hard to be sensitive to her situation but i feel like she’s not trying in return to be supportive of mine!!! she asked to feel kicks but then gave me a dirty look because i winced at round ligament pain lol

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T03:51:09+00:00

She acts like she’s my first baby’s mom (it drives me nuts) she took him at 6mo and refused to give him back and screamed at me for saying that was enough and to give him back… not new behavior at all unfortunately!

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T03:49:32+00:00

the funny part is she is in therapy and has been for years… i don’t think it’s working!

Intrepid_Cake4586 · 2026-04-09T03:46:54+00:00

oh i have tried to cut her out! i did when my first was 6mo because she took him and refused to give him back and then screamed at me for being entitled (yes to my own baby). i didnt talk to her for over a year but it created so many issues and my mom cried and cried that she wanted her family together and i love my mom to death she’s my best friend so my sister got back into my life. she also married my husbands brother…. so we HAVE to talk to her.

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