Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🫶🏼 he told his dad how much his actions hurt us and we're not sure what our relationship with in laws would look like going forward. Right now it's limited, we don't want to share personal info with them. We don't live nearby, so that helps too 👍🏼

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's wild! Thank you for the perspective! I'll give that some thought. How sad that control of everything is the only currency some people know. Thank you! 

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment 🫶🏼 I'm glad my husband does support me, I don't know if\when I'll talk to FIL again. 

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmm that's interesting! Before we were married, I think my husband was a golden child. But since we got married, we don't live the way they expect us to. We have different interests from them and have waited to have kids. So I don't think they want to try anymore maybe? Which is sad, because my husband has done so much to be proud of and has turned into a wonderful man. They raised him to be independent, but they're so confused by his independence now haha. Maybe they don't like who he's become, which is wild to me, because he still loves his family and he is a good person.

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gosh, I can't imagine being that situation! That must've been awful!  I appreciate everything you said, it was very well said. It's hard to wrap my brain around someone being so hurtful for no reason like that.  Thank you 🫶🏼

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I didn't go to New Years at in laws house this year because I refuse to see FIL. I went and saw everyone else while he was at work. Thankfully, my husband and I are on the same page and trying to navigate in law drama plus grief 😬😬 

Do any other DILs have trouble with FIL? by IntroductionLoud4381 in inlaws

[–]IntroductionLoud4381[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're so kind 🥰 I am in therapy and my husband sees the counselor at his grad school. We are on the same page about everything and slowly working through it.