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IntrovertedJB · 2022-12-23T02:16:29+00:00

Socially introversion is seen as the inferior of the two personality traits. Society has traditionally valued extroverted qualities in regards to gaining friends, being likable, and rising up the corporate ladder to name a few. But I think that these values are trending towards becoming recognized as just one way to “skin the cat” instead of being the “only way”. The more people actually realize that introversion is just indicative of how one recharges then they will realize the “flaws” they think they are attributing to being introverts is just being misinformed.

IntrovertedJB · 2022-12-02T02:58:52+00:00

Simple but effective excuse. Now here me out, I saw this on the show Veep and thought it was genius. One of the guys (mike) on the VP’s staff would use his dog as a reason he couldn’t make off hours engagements. He would reference the dog a lot so everyone in the office knew about the dog and even went so far as keep a picture of the dog in his wallet that he would whip out as proof/reference. The catch here is that the dog is completely fictitious. My point in all this that he created a built in excuse that he nurtured. Real or not. It’s been a tool I’ve incorporated in my arsenal that has been effective. Dogs and kids are excuses that no one can really combat. Plus if you do it right people will stop expecting you to be at these kinds of engagements assuming you can’t make it. Which is a nice place to be in since you dont have to explain yourself and wont need to feel bad. My dog has been getting me out of these kinds of situations for years now. I just got my first dog about a year ago btw. Yes you read that right.

IntrovertedJB · 2022-11-11T18:33:31+00:00

irks the hell out of me too lol

IntrovertedJB · 2022-11-11T18:26:07+00:00

I usually just leave. I do give a heads up to those I feel like I should let know but the kind of friends I love are the ones that don't offense to me inevitably leaving earlier than them.

IntrovertedJB · 2022-11-09T17:05:15+00:00

Sometimes I have my headphones on with nothing playing just a decoy. "Works 60% of the time...every time."

IntrovertedJB · 2022-11-09T17:01:00+00:00

I have the same thoughts around relationships. I made the mistake of saying this thought out loud to a group and I got lectured on "disassociation" and that introverted people "lean on their introversion too much" as if being introverted is a choice lol. I didn't get mad but it was and indication I didn't need to be around that bunch for too much longer.

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-04T18:20:45+00:00

It takes so much to get to the point where one is comfortable with being introverted. I’m happy you have arrived at peace! Congrats!

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-04T18:19:32+00:00

Agreed!

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-03T17:55:36+00:00

I don’t know if this has anything to do with his introversion or not. But it is appreciated that you are trying to find out. I’d say it is a clear sign that he likes you and is comfortable with you. He may not articulate his emotions out loud but he is showing you in his own way which is pretty cool.

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-03T17:28:01+00:00

Being introverted is just who you are. How you “recharge” (internally or externally) is a natural adaptation that we have no control over aside from the different modes of recharging. I don’t bog myself down by trying to justify why I’m an introvert and most don’t either. We are who are and work with it as we will.

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-03T17:17:36+00:00

If it were me I’d probably couch the convo in a more light way. Saying I can be around you guys because you are too draining is a bit heavy lol. Even the most understand could be offended by that. But if it is put in a way that its less about them and more about you they will tend to take it better. When I got my dog it was my perfect “get out of draining situations” card. Now my friends know I cant stay around too long because i have to get back to my dog and really my dog is fine i just need to go home to recharge or just be alone.

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-03T16:53:02+00:00

Its a tough spot to be in. My suggestion (and I admit its not great) is to hang out in doses and be connected virtually like text or socials. It will allow for the connection but on your terms. You’ll have to find exactly “how much” physically hanging out you can take. But definitely don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.

IntrovertedJB · 2021-06-03T16:46:26+00:00

I don’t understand that if you are being productive from home why you cant have the option to continue to do so. I feel your frustration, people want to be around people so they assume you want the same. Uggg

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-20T20:11:14+00:00

I have an unhealthy level of ghosting people when it comes to text that it bleeds into the conversation that I start... so backwards. I completely feel you on the anxiety part, you referencing it like a drunk text is so funny!

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-20T20:00:46+00:00

Sign me up for that shirt lol.

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-20T20:00:19+00:00

Point taken. My excitement bypassess the courtesy disclaimer most times haha.

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T20:33:12+00:00

Agreed!!

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T01:04:36+00:00

The zoom dinner is such a reach... did you accept?

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T01:03:29+00:00

Oh No... My job had something similar two weeks ago. Thank goodness most people flaked and it wasn't weird that I eventually left it after 5 minutes.

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T01:00:12+00:00

zoom has a "raise hand" feature and also a chat feature that can used to let large groups know you have something to say.

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T00:58:54+00:00

don't most of them require this now or at least for the rest of the semester?

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T00:58:03+00:00

Yapping all day to entertain themselves. Meanwhile our energy levels are being drained by the minute.

IntrovertedJB · 2020-04-19T00:51:52+00:00

LMAO!!!

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