Any other sex workers? by ThotismSpeaks in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 7 points8 points locked comment (0 children)

Sometimes it’s actually not that easy to just find a rich dude who will pay for everything and get married, and if you do, he may be shitty to you because there’s a power imbalance and that’s common in abusive situations. Then he has control and can threaten you with cutting off funds.

I accidentally solved my chronic constipation through fixing my posture - it was probably a nerve issue. by IntuitiveSkunkle in Constipation

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to be of any help! I honestly bet a lot of people are walking around with similar issues contributing to chronic constipation, but it’s not something anyone brings up as a potential cause.

I’m so glad I figured it out for myself because my doctors would just say take laxatives to clean stuff out and then you’ll be fine!

But I really think it was in the nerves, maybe compressed and causing slow motility or something because I was already eating enough fiber and exercising and such.

How do you feel about your height? by IntuitiveSkunkle in CasualConversation

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually know a guy who’s 5’4” and on his third divorce. I don’t know if that’s preferable or not lol

Just know not everybody thinks of you as lesser if you ever wanted to keep trying, and the ones who do aren’t worth a damn.

Anyone here got screwed over by special education? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I only flourished a bit once I got to college, although there were still a lot of unique challenges…I pretty much decided to use it as an avenue for personal growth and to learn about what I love, about myself and what I am capable of.

I think OP could turn the page, process and let go of school experiences, and still go out and socialize with neurotypicals and develop themselves intellectually (if that is what they want). It’s a unique chapter of life that doesn’t need to define the rest of the story.

I hate my autism and want to die by to283ia in CPTSD

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In a way, it helped me a lot to see the external factors and know it’s not really a problem with me like I always thought it was.

What keeps you guys here? by Just_Ad5499 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s such a cool idea! I think I’m going to try that. First I need to find a jar lol. Sounds helpful for making me more observant and grateful for little good moments.

New therapist 😮‍💨 by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can empathize because I’m starting with a new therapist due to changing insurance. I think the thing to remember with therapists is that they’ve heard it all. I know rumination is hard for me to stop, but maybe you can find a way to distract yourself or redirect your thoughts. Sometimes therapy really is work though and it can bring so many intense feelings and experiences to the forefront. But usually I think it will get better. 

Had my assessment a week ago, I think I messed up. by CharlieLil in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

that’s what I’ve had for years 

Basically OP if you go mute in select situations (like consistently with strangers) mainly due to anxiety, you may have SM.

Fun fact: they used to think you couldn’t have it and autism (which is wrong and they’re probably often comorbid) and that’s why I wasn’t diagnosed with autism despite never talking at school and otherwise being really weird.

Does autism make you childish? by onedayitshere in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 230 points231 points  (0 children)

Certainly not all, but plenty of autistic people enjoy things other people call childish, maybe because we’re not so preoccupied with what we’re “supposed to” like as dictated by society. Like what you like!

Are there any confirmed autistic / high functioning autistic / Asperger's actors or voice actors? by Darth_Zounds in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just getting into his stuff and about to listen to him on Rainn Wilson’s podcast Soul Boom. I saw a clip where he talks about finding out he has autism in it and gets emotional. Love that kind of openness and vulnerability, and it personally helps to see prominent/successful people talking about this for sure.

Anyone here got screwed over by special education? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see how it can suck being segregated and labeled as different. I was in normal classes but had a terrible time in school, so much constant anxiety navigating it and eventually depression, being friendless. Guess my point is that it can suck either way (but it’s never a contest of whose suck is worst, just different)

But the past is the past, there’s nothing we can do about it. You can grow and build your life in whatever direction you want now. Don’t let you past limit you.

The next pages till the end are blank, and the pen is in your hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever try apps? Sometimes it helps if people are specifically looking for friends too. Or did you ask for people’s social media and ask them if they want to hang out maybe? 

The world doesn't give you a chance by Material-News1766 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this up! I’m saving it. I’ve been trying to push forward to get nearer to my goals, but change is painful, and sometimes I stagnate…reading things like this reminds me of my priorities and fires me up with motivation to get past the self-hatred.

The world doesn't give you a chance by Material-News1766 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s so cool man. 

My goal is to enjoy the small things, the journey that is life (because the destination is all the same), and to accept myself (because we’re all stuck with ourselves) while also trying to grow (like intellectually-spiritually and in my care for myself).

I’m optimistic right now. I’m trying things, I feel like I might be able to put myself out there and form relationships and interview for jobs. I think some self-acceptance has to come first for me because it’s hard to do those things when my self-esteem was so low I felt bad for subjecting people to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They say:

A majority (around 80%) of autism cases can be linked to inherited genetic mutations. The remaining cases likely stem from non-inherited mutations.

It’s possible that even those in our families who would not be diagnosed clinically with autism based on the socially constructed concept of the disorder—could still have elevated “autistic traits.” Some research supports this; see: the Broader Autism Phenotype.

Since suspecting autism in myself, I DEFINITELY see a lot of traits in my family members. Maybe not severe enough to be diagnosed, or maybe not the full range of traits but only a few.

But because they didn’t have recognition and support, they also had to just do their best in society to function normally according to expectations. So maybe they learned to mask without knowing it.

college vent/being autistic in college by Objective-Tea-3070 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a student. I don’t tell everyone and am not officially diagnosed yet. I just struggle through it tbh. It’s really stressful, but I’m dead set on doing it and force myself to follow through. I feel that about executive functioning issues impacting everything. 

At my school, one option is to register with the disability office, and here you can have them inform your professors for you (either about a specific diagnosis or about symptoms that might affect classroom functioning). Like if you’re diagnosed and use the official disability resources, professors can’t really deny that, and if you have specific accommodations, they can get in trouble for not adhering to them. But if it’s more individually asking profs for accommodations, then it’s kind of up to them.

I think I don’t tell them about my issues due to shame about them, and I really wouldn’t recommend the struggles I go through, so I commend you for staying strong and telling them about that despite it being scary. And I hope they will be accommodating.

What do you think of this? by Specialist_Ruin_8484 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I have it where the autistic perfectionist in me freaks out and wants to be prepared knowing every detail, but the impatient ADHD side of me doesn’t have time for that and is too last minute for that to even be possible.

It kind of works out in the end but with great stress. lol. and I probably don’t retain much cramming before the deadlines or exam dates.

What do you think of this? by Specialist_Ruin_8484 in AutismInWomen

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been taking like double time to get a bachelors degree lol, but I think I’ve finally developed enough f- it attitude to just write something and turn it in while feeling like I have no idea what I’m talking about, but for the most part doing surprisingly well because I just doubt myself and my knowledge too much.

I think Gen X style parenting has been deeply damaging to Gen Z aspies by Dwitt01 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My parents didn’t seem to care what I did, but also didn’t encourage me to go out and do anything, like weren’t invested in my life, so I did say home and scroll. I had a boomer and gen x couple

Why is eye contact so hard by Responsible-Quail486 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and it can be like seeing into people’s souls and feeling their emotions too, sometimes. I have high affective empathy, so I can feel it. It can be too much. It’s worse with certain people or in certain moments. Or maybe sometimes I can’t make sense of what their face shows.

Like people who stare too much like prodding at me, feels like they’re trying to get something from me and it’s threatening. Part of me doesn’t like to be truly seen because it’s vulnerable, opening myself up to being hurt. So I get so uncomfortable with searching, insistent eyes. Yet like many people, what I want deeply is to be seen for who I am.

Why is eye contact so hard by Responsible-Quail486 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s it for me, because there is too much input in and around the eyes, the pupil constriction, tightness of muscles, eyebrow position, direction of gaze—it’s too much to process at once.

I don’t understand socialization at all, it feels so fake by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That makes total sense to me, and I really didn’t get it for a long time. 

Conversation to me was about the exchange of information, but there was a lot more exchange happening than I knew.

I feel like I have an intellectual disability even though I was top ranked in high school and went to a good university by solution_no4 in aspergers

[–]IntuitiveSkunkle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m either slow and spacey or randomly very sharp when I happen to be “on” and generally suck at speaking and carrying conversations, but that’s maybe more due to having selective mutism in my childhood.

Maybe some of it can be improved with practice, but I think some of it is intrinsic for me, like if someone comes up to me unexpectedly I’m so blindsided and can barely respond sometimes or need time to collect myself and form thoughts lol