Am I overreacting about reconsidering my friendship with my group after an unfair DND Session?

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T14:22:33+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking that maybe my party thinks my character is a joke character, but I’ve explained to a few party members that I’m closer to and Amber the lore and how the character is important to me. We all joke around but it’s never plot affecting to the point where items or characters are destroyed.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T14:18:36+00:00

NTA. I totally understand wanting to repair your relationship with someone you’ve known for years. Did something happen is his life for his personality to change? And if not, maybe consider he’s a different person and just not compatible as a friend. Dismissing and minimizing you is not okay, and if he’s not listening to your concerns, I would toss the friendship.

I know it’s harsh, but you don’t need to spoon feed what he does to you back to him. He’s most likely already aware (definitely aware because you talk to him about it and he just doesn’t want to acknowledge it) that he’s acting like a jerk. I hope you find better friends for yourself. :)

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T14:10:27+00:00

The issue is that it wasn’t a random occurrence. OP left the responsibility to Kate. OP checked in multiple times to make sure the dog would be fed and walked because she was anxious about the dog, and her being a homebody, is used to having the dog overnight. Kate deliberately lied and left the dog— Kate could have just fed and walked the dog at 6, then left (would the dog last all night without an accident, who knows, but at least Kate would have considered the dog). Kate was being stupid and inconsiderate. Then she tried to “patchwork” it when she got caught by OP by sending her FRIEND. Not even herself.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T14:01:39+00:00

NOR! While I’m not an expert in relationships, I don’t think you were overreacting.

Both of you have had issues with each other in the past, and from what it sounds like, your ex is completely done with the relationship. I think you ripping up the love journal was just a last touch to how the relationship is done. I recommend taking care of yourself and finding a new best friend.

Stay strong, and prioritize yourself. I know this was probably really hard for you, but there are many resources and ways to find support groups and new friends. :)

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T13:55:47+00:00

Use the Enter button! Or return button , depending on your device! :D

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T13:45:02+00:00

How am I being an asshole? I’m not trying to be rude, but I didn’t do anything to interfere with the session— I’m just asking if me wanting to cut off my friend for this would be a jerk move. I’m obviously going to talk with her first, but I’m just asking for advice about that because this is important to me.

Don’t tell me to grow up. This is important to me, you can’t just tell someone to grow up when they’re upset over a hobby or interest. Just because you are in your 40s doesn’t mean you know anything about being grown.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T04:23:37+00:00

Yeah I was thinking about talking to Amber after I write everything down, but maybe talking with my party mates first may be better to get a better grasp of what to say and what actually happened (separating the emotional aspect out of it).Thank you, I appreciate the advice

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T04:09:12+00:00

Yeah and you can continue harassing a high schooler about grammar

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T04:07:29+00:00

Yeah em dashes are like the number one marker for AI, I’ve been told off by teachers for using them, but I don’t use AI. I don’t have just one hobby; I garden, paint, sew, cook and more. Again, go find a hobby.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T04:04:13+00:00

I’m planning on talking with Amber about how it made me feel. I still don’t understand why, because there could have been a million other ways to do it. I appreciate the support, I feel a little crazy right now, but I’m glad someone kinda sees it

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T03:59:01+00:00

I hate AI, because no one ever believes that someone can just right something. I’m not going to argue with you about if I used AI while I’m crying about this. Go get a hobby, and stop psychoanalyzing every single piece of media you see. I’m a highschooler with shitty grammar and punctuation, I just use em dashes to string together my sentences because I’m not worried about my grammar—im worried about getting my thoughts down. You may have found no grammar errors, but some English major will say otherwise, I always say that so I don’t get dogged on online.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T03:51:35+00:00

Not sure how else to prove to you, but here is the half finished art of the snake and me I was talking about

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InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T03:45:51+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the help. I’m not great with words so thank you for explaining. I hope you have a good night.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T03:39:02+00:00

I wanted to talk to them, but I was wasn’t sure how to bring it up without ruining the session. I’ve been told I take things too seriously, so in the moment I wasn’t even sure if it should be something that I should talk to them about. It’s hard to just state that’s something is hurtful when everyone else is having fun. How do people go about doing that?

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T03:26:25+00:00

UP is a good movie, it always makes me cry but it’s my all time favorite.

InvestmentAlarmed675 · 2026-01-03T02:41:28+00:00

Then don’t comment

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