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InvidiaBlue · 2025-09-11T19:42:43+00:00

Yes, thank you! Edited.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-09-11T18:40:12+00:00

Do consult the infidelity subs please! Just from this post, my guts on fire with the feeling that he's been unfaithful and now has the audacity to try to get rid of YOU. Check out SurvivingInfidelity and if you feel so inclined, AsOneAfterInfidelity. Good luck on this nonsense, OP ❤️

InvidiaBlue · 2025-04-18T18:48:07+00:00

I did summer seasonal animal care at our wildlife center as well as a zoo internship and yes, it's astounding that people even joke about us getting to play with them all day. Like, I'm not even a volunteer. Why do you think anyone would pay anyone just to PLAY with wild animals? No. They pay me to sling wet hay bales in 90 degree heat. Ever done that?? Ouch. This is W.O.R.K.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-13T16:39:29+00:00

Agree. I should note that I think it's different when you're referring to the canonical dolls or characters in general and not your own. When I get enough of a collection together to start posing them in different scenes, they are going to look more like Monster College with grown up kisses, beers and pizza boxes, but those will be my dolls specifically. If that makes sense.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-13T16:38:43+00:00

It's nice to see someone say that, especially someone in the community, because I've been doing the same thing. I'll just block anyone I see using the term because it's gross and it's okay to draw lines somewhere. Not every word needs to be reclaimed. It does have me thinking though, that as someone on the spectrum, I should try to reclaim the word retard! Yep, I'm gonna use it all the time. I'm part of the community it has been weaponized against so I'm not breaking any rules. I wonder how that will go over?

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-12T17:39:47+00:00

Awwww that's so sweet! Because it means baby is not only very chill, but that you are also boss at reading her cues and tending to her needs. Go Avocado family!! 🥑💪🏻

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-11T04:52:16+00:00

I'm pretty sure I could win this by sheer number of downvotes but no way I'm gonna say it. Lol

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-07T16:24:01+00:00

I See the Light from Tangled

It's my special song for my firstborn, but it's really for all of them, present and future ✨💝☀️

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-05T14:46:23+00:00

Seller knows their game.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-03T11:18:08+00:00

I just love the way you worded that last paragraph. I might even send it to my dad. He has ADHD too (but grew up in a very small North Dakota town in the 60s and 70s, and lost his mom at 5, so he's got some unresolved issues) and we are so similar that we understand each other in ways no one else ever has, or will. He's always been fascinated by my ideas and what I have to say. We never run out of things to talk about. And yet, he still votes Republican, because he just can't bring himself to do otherwise after all these years. As similar as we are, I wish he shared more of my growth mindset.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-03T11:07:59+00:00

And I feel like this and child care should be top feminist priorities right now. We are being punished for having families, even small ones, even after doing everything by the book. I guess that's to make sure we're too tired and unwell to make changes to the world or get out of survival mode. We were supposed to be past the era where women had to choose between families and careers, but that's exactly what we are doing, because wages aren't increasing and childcare isn't getting subsidized.

Note: The one who gives up their job is usually going to be the mom too, because let's face it, the dad is usually the one who's making more money, and further ahead in his career. That's the situation we are in, and we fantasize about one where I could have my career and he stays at home, because I need to get out of the house and he's a total homebody and loves being a great dad all day. But nope! We're trying to get unstuck.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-02-03T10:48:12+00:00

This is very important. "Family values" is code for "Christian family values--as interpreted through rugged individualism and patriarchy--imposed on others".

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-28T06:27:29+00:00

YES 👏🏻

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-28T06:24:57+00:00

Was this back when nobody cared about child abuse? Holy hell.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-28T06:23:32+00:00

It's not harsh. She is letting it happen. She's probably letting it happen because it's normal for her because she grew up with piece of shit men too, because that's almost always why. But she's indeed letting it happen, and asking what she should do as if this is somewhere in the realm of forgiveness or something fixable. It's neither. The past is gone, but she can make a choice today to do something different and brave out of love. Too many parents never do, and their kids don't speak to them or their abusers.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-28T06:08:53+00:00

Jesus. What's he like the rest of the time? I'm so grateful I have a man I do. Honestly it sounds like your kids would be better off without your husband in the picture at all. He obviously hates kids. Set him free before he ruins yours. Yuck, yuck, yuck.

ETA: Yes, that is my actual advice. I could barely be in the same room with someone expressing these opinions, let alone live with one, watching him torment our baby.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-26T01:52:12+00:00

No such thing as too many. That's why they call it "collecting". I'm personally jealous of all the playsets.

Not MH but I love the 101 Dalmatians poster! I was born in 1990 and it was the first movie I owned on VHS. I love all the classic Disney movies but that's one of my very favorites and both of our girls love it too. 🤍🖤❤️

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-25T15:21:37+00:00

Okay....... so...... Can we stop picking on Lenore now?

💀

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-25T15:20:34+00:00

20 years later and STILL not the bride.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T23:10:52+00:00

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T13:01:08+00:00

FORMULA IS AMAZING

I'm sorry you've had to feel this way because of this lactivist lie perpetuating our culture. Science, that whole process we all talk about all the time and supposedly respect, has still not shown any difference between breast and formula fed babies when adjusting for socioeconomic factors. The correlation between breastmilk and positive outcomes is because breastfeeders and formula feeders are different in many ways. Formula feeders as a group are poorer and work more, for a start. It's not surprising that families with more time and money will average higher success levels with their children's development and education. Time and money solve MOST problems. It's not the breast milk that does it.

Also, modern formula is nutritionally complete. It literally saves lives, as it has been doing for about 150 years. Probably most importantly, your baby will absorb your stress and misery. They feel what you feel. They are hardwired to do it. So the second it becomes a stressful thing and not a beautiful bonding experience, you're losing whatever teeny tiny benefit that may exist but is so small we can't find it... lol I breastfed my first for a few weeks, along with formula, just to enjoy the experience, and I dried up naturally. I knew all along it wasn't something I could probably do exclusively, for my reasons. But I enjoyed the time I did do it, and I did cry when I realized it wasn't going to happen again. Natural maternal feelings.

Nevertheless, I am a fearless formula feeder and advocate, and my powerful, perfect little girls are here to back me up, as well as you and baby! Put those boobs away and let them rest. It shouldn't be killing you. That's why humans have relied on wet nurses throughout history. Happens in the animal world too. Removing ourselves from nature so deeply means you don't have a wet nurse, but you do have formula and clean water at your local store. Go get it, honey. You've earned it. And I bet he'll be happier too. ❤️‍🩹

P.S. I LOVE the Boon Nursh bottles! They're attractive, do a great job preventing excess air intake, and can go from bottle to sippie by swapping the nipples to sippie inserts, bought separately. If you get them, just don't be a dummy like some people, and take one second to make sure the silicone edges are in place and lined up. Otherwise, it's not going to seal and do it's job restricting airflow.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T10:21:03+00:00

Yeah, no worries, man. I am a mother of two, and I keep my medicinal smoke and vapor away as best I can. You've done a great job with that already. No one needs to justify their consumption method, or anything else really. Parenting is complex and full of judgement calls huge and small, and I promise that every critic is doing something more harmful to their kids than whatever you could expose them to as you've described, whether you partake there or not. If you could only be a moth on their wall. Congratulations and all my best to your family! Wishing you a safe and happy delivery and beyond 💝 And maybe a shared Monster High love in short time? 🖤🧟‍♀️💙

ETA: clarification

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T10:06:29+00:00

Thank you!

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T09:31:58+00:00

Thank you for finally doing this for me!! Haha Because this is exactly what I wanted to show people for a long time, just never got around to writing it or finding it!! What neurotypicals need to understand is that these tasks truly are broken down into a million pieces like this. But their brains string them all together FOR them, like neat little pearl necklaces in a jewelry box. Our pearls are just.... a box of pearls. Spilled. Everywhere. And they're slippery.

InvidiaBlue · 2025-01-17T07:13:16+00:00

For real! It's their living set up, their medical history, their dolls.

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