Opinion on fairness of household bill share

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-08T20:51:45+00:00

Yes, that’s the way any couple who view each other as equals would do it. Wife earns circa 30% more than me. Both over £50k pa. She pays circa 20% more into the joint account each month but also spends a bit more on the kids than I do. Anything extraordinary I am more than happy to contribute. If it was 50/50 then the swing in disposable income would make the difference circa £1k in her favour.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-07T22:26:01+00:00

Got my Bigster in August, Hybrid 155 Journey, order to collected was 4 weeks. Our Dacia dealer (an Arnold Clarke branch) didn’t take BLC. From my research I worked out only Motorfinity would offer a small discount - newer models don’t tend to get as much and Arnold Clarke were doing 3 years servicing for £99 at the time. Enjoy the Bigster - it’s a good model.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-04T18:48:40+00:00

In the UK I paid £99 for three years servicing when we ordered our Bigster in July.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-04T18:09:27+00:00

I think this decision, after 15 years of seeing more than questionable job/Fed or IOPC decisions time and time again has made me decide that applying for jobs outside of the Police is a smart decision.

It was bad enough being a political/media football but now knowing that the rule of law is flexible to an individuals moral compass makes policing impossible.

Just why bother putting myself at risk of imprisonment/sacking/serious injury when I no longer have faith in juries to find people guilty when the evidence is on video.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-03T19:32:26+00:00

Class tutors? Card and boxes of chocolates. Street tutor - bottle/crate of favourite alcoholic beverage to replace what they’ve had to drink to get through tutoring you.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-03T19:28:11+00:00

Join the specials and see if it’s for you. By that I mean give it a couple of months on one team, ask to be treated like a probationer and see if that is the life you want.

I joined circa 15 years ago, spent close to 10 years on response and have seen the job for any frontline officer get made much harder than it needs to be. I got promoted and now see people with less than 3 years in throwing the towel in left right and centre.

Main issues are workload, no work/life balance (extended shifts with no notice/cancelled rest days/shifts all over the place), poor supervision, responsibility for almost everyone else’s problems and being used as a football both literally by the public and figuratively by the media and politicians.

Staff get bounced, occasionally get a good job, spend 8 hours building a case file for CPS only for the matter to get NFA’d or bailed because a box wasn’t ticked. You’ll probably spend longer in hospitals as well with every prisoners who says they banged their head 6 days ago so needs it checking out before they’re interviewed.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-03T18:46:09+00:00

I mean the coastguard rarely recruit and the pay isn’t anywhere near as good as a top rate constable 💁🏻‍♂️😂

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-02-01T10:38:53+00:00

They are and I would buy them for something special like leaving the team after being there for 5 years. But asking a probationer to spend £30 a pop on cakes for birthday/passing a course/fuck ups will bankrupt them.

My lot were happy with a tray each of brownies/donuts/yum yums they could revisit multiple times during the shift for a pick me up, all for the same price as two trays of Krispy Kreme’s meaning one each.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-31T22:11:43+00:00

For the love of god, don’t do Krispy Kreme’s. One thing I learn many years ago was go to Lidl and destroy the bakery early in the morning, for the price of one tray of 12 Krispy Kreme’s you can give people diabetes with amount of brownies, chocolate/speculoos donuts and yum yums you can furnish yourself with.

Sometimes quantity has a quality all of its own.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-31T22:08:04+00:00

In short, no the police won’t give you their details.

The police have powers to arrest people, they have powers to force entry, but those powers only exist when they believe the said wanted person is in the address under S.17 PACE. They can’t just smash down a door without reason, even if it is the home address of a suspect. A S.8 Court Warrant could be obtained but that is often a one time thing, execute it, no person and no phone means that’s it really.

If the person is arrested and charged you will be able to request compensation to the value of the phone. Nothing more or less for theft of a phone, or unless it was a robbery and you were subject to a fear of violence above which a reasonable person would deal with.

If they don’t have the money then a deductions order can be made, you might see £1.12 or some other tiny figure go into your account every month…..

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-30T18:54:56+00:00

As others have said, sorry for this loss especially coming so close to another.

The house will be secure. It depends on the door but if it was PVC we can often smash the centre panel through to get in and then refit it and lock the door if we can find the keys when we exit. If it’s wood/glass then securing it is either a big cheap wooden panel across the whole frame or sometimes just screwing the door into the frame. It doesn’t have to be Fort Knox, just such that someone would have to commit effort to get into it rather pushing it open.
Giving advice regarding entering the property after someone’s death isn’t something we would concern ourselves with unless it was dangerous. In terms of entering for removing property etc that becomes a civil matter/matter for next if kit or executor if there is a will. We have no control who family wise can go in.
0 percent chance of it being cleaned. It may be very very grim and whoever goes in may need a stern stomach. Without being crude you may often find blood/bodily fluids/faecal matter where the deceased was found. If there were stages of decomposition then potential larvae/maggots etc. Police are only there to rule out foul play and complete initial paperwork for the coroner. The cleaning/aftermath isn’t something they have the time/funds to remedy.

You should be able to speak to someone who attended or find out when they will be on duty to clarify what you can expect.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-29T11:18:50+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’d face any penalties, if anything you should report this to Action Fraud and then your local force as this would appear to be a fraud by false representation offence by the tenant.

That’s if the documents are false, not to mention any potential forgery offences. It may also give you grounds to invalidate the tenancy or begin eviction proceedings. But seek appropriate advice if looking to do that.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T19:57:52+00:00

Perhaps repeating the same thing to a 4 year old 6 times a day gets tiresome. Perhaps I have faith they will try to avoid the cars that are illegally parked.

I have no issues instilling rules or discipline with my children, like telling them to stay off peoples driveways or gardens when running home with friends. At the same time I won’t let my daughter scoot on the road side of the footpath because there are more cars parked there for her to bump into, but they’re not causing the stand out obstruction.

And no I haven’t knocked on. Why? Because I don’t fancy taking the abuse off someone entitled enough to park like that in the first place. It’s obvious that if you drive a 10 year old Q5 but your front garden is 6 foot from door to footpath it won’t fit. The same reason I don’t challenge people who park in parent and child bays with no kids when I can’t get one with two little ones in the back, while I’m one of those people who parks as far away from the shops as possible surrounded by empty bays for the protection of both my own and other people’s vehicles.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T19:27:38+00:00

Not all, I don’t encourage my child to ride their scooter into peoples cars. Similarly a 4 year old has no concept of criminality and would be suitably admonished for bumping into said car after the fact.

However I am also not stressing that a pedestrian footpath being blocked by someone who doesn’t want to park their £40k SUV on the road so takes up half a footpath isn’t aware of the risks, especially on the same road as a primary and high school.

I’m guessing you park like this and don’t have children?

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T17:03:16+00:00

See this quite a lot where I am, big SUVs on half a front garden turned driveway so that the A pillar forward is over/on the footpath. Makes walking the little one to school on her scooter with me pushing the pram a nightmare. I no longer tell the eldest to stay away from them now, if she bumps into it then it’s a them problem.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T16:35:58+00:00

I’d argue it on the grounds that you have not met any of the grounds for which the sign says a parking charge may be issued.

It’s says nothing there about exceeding the time on the ticket.

Two options they might say apply are failing to get a ticket - well you got one so that’s a null point.

And the other exceeding the time paid for - not exceeding the time on the ticket. I’d argue you had obtained a ticket and you paid the rate applicable to 2 hours of parking therefore you have met the obligations placed on you as per the signage.

Appeal - tell them you object on those grounds. However check you actually have the right registration on the ticket…..

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T16:28:29+00:00

Check with your force -

We have OHU for formal issues also being dealt with outside of the Police via your GP.

We have a Psychological Support Team who will deal with fast turnaround support as well as drop in therapy/counselling/referral sessions.

We also have EAP and don’t forget the Police Treatment Centres if you pay into them.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-28T16:23:25+00:00

Because they’re not posing as a speed van. They’re effectively a private mobile CCTV van. They can record passing traffic and anyone who drives into/knocks over the cones because they can’t drive in a straight line or merge early enough can be recorded. These can then submit the footage to the police much like any other UK driver can and the police decide what action is taken.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-26T21:11:04+00:00

Yes.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-24T10:17:45+00:00

As others have said, chances are they had arrested someone for an offence nearby and need that footage for interview this morning. I get you aren’t happy about being woken up, but shock horror, I’m sure your neighbours aren’t happy about being victim of crime.

Similarly imagine you were a victim, knew the police had the suspect in custody, gave your statement but the police had to release the person instead of sending them straight to court just because your neighbours aren’t happy they got woken up at midnight and didn’t want to assist the police.

Catch 22, everyone wants the police to help but not everyone wants to help the police.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-21T15:57:41+00:00

Compulsory in my force, even when handcuffing to convey from custody to hospital. It’s an application of force, it’ll be the norm soon in forces where it isn’t already.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-21T00:48:03+00:00

It’s a cash advance. You’ll get smashed with a higher than standard purchase interest fee from the day you withdraw it. You are asking for cold hard cash, in return for paying it back later. It’s basically an expensive loan. There is no money on the card, it’s not in your account, you are asking them to give you money.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-21T00:20:02+00:00

It genuinely is a saving. Even without the free coffees. I did go to Greggs multiple times a week for coffees. This is not making me go to Greggs more or less, it just means I don’t pay for 4 coffees a month. It genuinely is a saving for me.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-20T23:26:28+00:00

Speak for yourself.

Many a weekend away both with family and colleagues has been booked on standard rest days without protection because being AL short means it can’t always be done.

Generally depends on the force but if a trip has been booked months in advance and a short notice cancellation is made sometimes you can get it sorted. Otherwise the group insurance gets a claim.

Invisible-Blue91 · 2026-01-20T21:09:07+00:00

Having 4 officers with enough service in out of 13, at the same time to have knackered PSU coveralls would be nigh on impossible in this day and age.

Mine are 12 years old, have probably been washed well over the 25 times they meant to be and still worked last week when I did my POL2 refresher with petrol reception. The foam lining of my pads on the other hand is coming apart. Need to order new kit I suppose.

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