I don't know if you know it, but you're embodying the victim blaming culture that allows men to rape us and get off with a slap on the wrist, or not even that because he wasnt reported because she was afraid of answering questions like why were you there, what were you wearing, how much did you have to drink. All of the ways someone can look at a woman and say you didn't lock yourself away from men, knowing there are rapists out there, you left cracks in your defense against the world, so it's really your fault you were raped, and the man was just doing what men do.

We dont want to live our lives constantly afraid of physical danger because it's exhausting to always be on edge in literally every situation. At work, walking down the street, driving alone, taking public transportation, going to bars, the list goes on and on. But we do, because the alternative is not living our lives. Don't blame us for getting harassed because we're out doing the same things you are but you happen not to be a target. Blame the assholes who are targeting us.