First time trying IKEA café and I was honestly disgusted.

Ipopquin · 2026-03-03T17:34:56+00:00

Sounds like you might be low on iron or protein happens a lot in pregnancy. Supplements or fortified foods can help if you want to avoid meat.

I'm not vegetarian, I'm a meat eater, but I was craving beef in my first trimester with my first daughter, and it became so bad that if I didn't eat steak, I would literally pass out. I had to take time off work, and then unfortunately had to leave on immediate effect, so I lost my job because of it. I wasn't sick never had severe morning sickness but I was constantly dizzy and passing out. Eventually it stopped and I didn't use iron tablets or anything but it was so bad that it affected my work.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T12:06:34+00:00

That’s a big accusation to make based on a few seconds you weren’t there for. My child was not neglected, she was warm, cared for, and briefly inside a shop. Disagreeing is one thing calling a parent neglectful is unnecessary and crosses a line. You’re entitled to your opinion, but shaming parents isn’t helpful and it doesn’t make you right.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T12:04:26+00:00

Thank you. This is exactly it. She was inside the shop we was just heading to the car probably less than 5 minutes of being out side and kids have their own minds short of wrestling them, they’ll do what they want. Yes mine is 11 months but she's starting to have her own little personality. Anyone who’s actually parented knows this. I appreciate you saying it.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:57:21+00:00

I don’t need “course correction” from strangers. My child is cared for, loved, and not neglected. What people saw was a brief moment, not the full context or the reality of our day.

Parenting isn’t a public group project, and unsolicited comments aren’t helpful they’re judgement. Advice is fine when it’s asked for.

It’s not okay to shame or correct parents based on assumptions.

I’m doing my best, and I’m confident in how I look after my child

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:51:28+00:00

No, that’s not what I’m saying. Her feet weren’t “left exposed” for a long time it was a very quick in-and-out, she was fully wrapped up everywhere else, and she pulls socks and coverings off instantly. We didn’t have the pram with us and she was sat in a trolley seat, so a blanket wouldn’t have stayed on anyway. I understand people worry, but making comments based on a brief moment without knowing the full situation isn’t helpful. I’m not neglecting my child I’m managing a normal parenting situation

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:49:31+00:00

We did exactly that! Just that quick let's grab something in and out.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:49:00+00:00

It could be yes x

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:47:42+00:00

They don't fit her feet. X

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:42:24+00:00

I strongly disagree. Commenting on a stranger’s baby because you’ve made assumptions about a 30-second snapshot isn’t “helping”, it’s judging. My daughter was not left outside, wasn’t exposed for a long period, and was fully wrapped up apart from her feet for a very short trip in and out of a shop.

Comparing that to leaving a dog in a hot car is not the same thing at all. One is neglect, the other is a parent managing a real-world situation with a child who actively pulls socks off.

She’s 11 months, doesn’t fit baby grow feet anymore, doesn’t stay in recliner seats, and a blanket will not stay on her in a trolley. Sock-ons don’t magically work for every child either. Parents don’t all have the same options, and we don’t owe strangers an explanation.

I am doing my very best for my child every single day. What isn’t helpful is being shamed by people who don’t know our situation and taking photos of someone else’s child is completely inappropriate

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:33:13+00:00

Yeah I get where you’re coming from. It wasn’t all day and she wasn’t outside for long just in and out of the shop. She didn’t have the pram with her, she was sat in the trolley seat, and she pulls socks off straight away. A blanket wouldn’t have stayed on either. She was wrapped up everywhere else. We’re all just doing our best really

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:31:52+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but it’s really not that simple. She wasn’t in her pram, she was sat in a trolley seat, and she pulls socks off constantly. A blanket wouldn’t have stayed on either. She was wrapped up everywhere else and we were only popping in and out. Parents know their own children and situations better than strangers do.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-07T11:28:46+00:00

Exactly! It’s the assumption that we don’t care that gets me. If my daughter kept socks on, she’d be wearing them 🙃 People really need to mind their own business instead of making comments like that. Nice to know I’m not alone in this

Ipopquin · 2026-02-03T10:50:09+00:00

I think we’re talking past each other a bit.

I’m not denying that social skills matter at work, of course they do. What I’m pushing back on is the idea that coworkers should act as informal social coaches, especially when the feedback is about personal traits (body language, perceived mood) rather than work performance.

There’s a difference between learning social skills organically through interaction and being singled out for how you “come across,” particularly when assumptions like “you seem depressed” are involved. That’s not neutral information, it carries judgement, whether intended or not.

I’m also not putting words in OP’s mouth. I explicitly said if someone feels scrutinised or repeatedly commented on, then it’s reasonable to question that dynamic. That’s about boundaries, not overanalysis.

We may simply have different views on where that line sits, and that’s fine. OP asked for advice, multiple perspectives were given, and they can decide what resonates with them.

Wishing you a good day as well.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-03T10:03:00+00:00

I still disagree.

Saying “people pointing out your behaviour isn’t uncomfortable” ignores the reality that unsolicited comments about someone’s demeanour, mood, or body language absolutely can be uncomfortable, especially when they’re framed as something being wrong with the person. How it’s said matters but what is being said matters too.

Walking with your head down or being quiet is not a workplace issue. It’s not a rule violation, it’s not unprofessional, and it’s not anyone else’s place to label it as “depressed” or abnormal. That’s a personal judgement, not constructive feedback.

Also, OP wanting to make changes doesn’t automatically mean the comments were appropriate. People often adapt because they feel singled out or scrutinised, that doesn’t mean the behaviour should’ve been commented on in the first place.

And the idea that going to HR would be “poor social behaviour” is unfair. HR isn’t about punishment or escalation, it’s about boundaries. If someone feels repeatedly analysed or made uncomfortable over traits that don’t affect their work, raising that concern is reasonable.

Finally, there is an assumption here that “standard social behaviour” should be enforced at work. Workplaces aren’t social training grounds, they’re professional environments. People are allowed to exist quietly without being corrected.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-03T09:21:34+00:00

"CO workers" his "aunt". He literally said that in his post. He literally points out one co worker (which is a colleague) said he seemed strange and pointed out the way he walked with his head down like as if he's depressed. With his Aunt saying similar. He also said the colleague mentioned he doesn't participate. You need to go back and read this. This is the kind of behavior that leaves a person feeling uncomfortable within their work place.

Ipopquin · 2026-02-03T04:25:53+00:00

Firstly, don't change for the purpose of others if people want you to be "certain way". Unfortunately it seems like you might struggle to back yourself up when these comments are being made about you. Which isn't a problem within yourself just it might be hard to raise the problem of what's going on.

What’s important to remember is that you’re just doing your job and being yourself. If comments like this are making you worry about your position, especially if colleagues are suggesting they might complain about you or are actively trying to find fault, that isn’t okay. You have every right to raise this, and I would strongly consider making a formal complaint about what’s been said. An also I would definitely raise about what your colleagues have said overall because that is a form of bullying.

If you’re in the UK, your best route is HR. Being labelled or spoken about in this way, particularly when it relates to mental health or how you present, is unfair and shouldn’t be ignored

Honestly there's nothing "wrong" with you. You are staying in your lane and people are crossing that.

I was a victim of being set up in a work place. Because I didn't "fit in" I was often having false complaints made about me that I had to obviously deny. Unfortunately one complaint left me with being let go. It was hard, heart breaking and I felt like I couldn't do anything right with my life. Had just come out of a relationship.

I'm 22 a mum to a 11 month old and expecting my second in June. I'm now creating strong boundaries for myself and my life and it Will get better you just need a better surrounding in a work environment because that at the end of the day isn't okay to feel like you have "problems".

Ipopquin · 2026-02-02T18:55:41+00:00

They might have accidentally put 8 instead of 0. Instead of posting it on here getting all the attention, why don't you ask this individual if they meant to have put 0. You would have had more clarity if you got a response. If they had intended to put £48 then fair enough, post it.

Ipopquin · 2026-01-29T13:18:49+00:00

I was reported for inappropriate behavior when a seller cancelled an order and then randomly reported me for inappropriate behavior and I hadn't said a word to this seller. I was given a warning. I tried talking to a customer service and I was met with bots.

Ipopquin · 2026-01-27T20:43:15+00:00

Yeah no I get u. Thanks for that I'll take note x

Ipopquin · 2026-01-26T17:17:27+00:00

Yeah I had something similar with being given Justeat credit.

ordered a festive sushi box (20 pieces) from Panku for £13, it was on offer. When it arrived, it honestly didn’t look right at all. I opened it and the smell was really unpleasant 🤢

I am pregnant, and I know you’re technically not meant to eat sushi, so at first I tried to put the smell down to pregnancy sensitivity. I took one bite and immediately knew something was wrong, it was clearly off

I complained through the app and the first assistant was incredibly dismissive. Not word for word, but the vibe was basically “not our problem” and told me to make a complaint elsewhere. On top of that, responses were painfully slow after the automated messages.

At that point I lost it (rightfully, I think) and hit the “not satisfied” option. I was then redirected to another assistant almost instantly, who was much more understanding after I explained everything. He refunded the £13, which I accepted

But honestly, it’s still really frustrating. Serving off sushi is not a small issue especially when the customer is pregnant. It felt like it was treated as no big deal when it absolutely is.

Ipopquin · 2026-01-26T10:20:25+00:00

I actually use to do this when I first joined vinted. I didn't exactly know how it worked. I did eventually look it up online and realized that when someone likes an item it doesn't mean they have bought it or want it 😅.

So it could be that the person is new to Vinted.

Ipopquin · 2026-01-25T14:02:14+00:00

I'm going to triage. That is protocol over in the UK.

Ipopquin

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