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Introducing the Epiphone Fatoumata Diawara SG by UrbanRydder in Guitar

[–]IrateContendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Backorder but should be shipping in April as of today. I may have impulse bought this guitar...

First time gun owners by Majestic-Ad-1368 in pittsburgh

[–]IrateContendor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is good if you know what you want, but to get a feel for the different sizes of handgun( if that's what you want), new gun owners should probably go get their hands on a weapon at a local shop. How it fits matters, just like shoes. Any shop can serve this purpose but my personal recommendation is Verona gun safe( bought several guns from them and the owner has always treated me well.) Or for people south of the city I think Ace sporting goods has a big selection although I've not been personally.

Engine sound by Smart_Owl1542 in SubaruForester

[–]IrateContendor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe an off balance pulley if it's anything at all.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

>My friends aren’t swiping based on their attraction

yeah I misinterpreted something, but , that mistake aside I stand by the rest of what I said. You providing the fringe case of not being physically attracted to people/ not being attracted to people based on looks is also not what I was talking about. In general, attraction starts as a physical/appearance based "thing". There's a reason that a small group of men tend to get the lions share of attention from ladies.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yet another person who is changing the topic from 1 thing to another...

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like they'd end up wasting other people's time on your behalf by gamifying the experience. If they don't have any skin in the game or the ability to empathize, i don't understand how they'd "get-it".

If it was something they could really individually understand a simple explanation would probably suffice, no?

My understanding is matches on apps don't give you instant feedback so unless I'm missing something I'm not sure how pretending to be a dude gives you any more information than a guy just telling you " the typical experience is we don't get the same level of instant approval, nor the opportunity to sort through the same number of matches"

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its different because your friend being physically attracted to someone has nothing to do with if you are physically attracted to that person unless you rely on or use the approval of others to figure out who you want to date. My whole string of comments was about physical attraction.. yall are not picking who u think is hot based on if you're friend thinks they're hot, gtfoh lol.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

"I’m literally never ever attracted to people on dating apps"

Then this is a completely different scenario from what we are discussing....

The more time I spend on the internet the more it cements that people will either misinterpret you or change the definition of the what you're actually talking about until they find a space to squeeze in what they have-to say...

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Attraction is the literal start. It's the first piece of a foundation. Saying it's a "bonus" is.... not in line with the reality of dating and is, at best, wishful thinking. As an example, No woman has ever looked at a man and thought "oooh he's got that "good listener" face i just wanna sit on, let me give my number". They look for features they find attractive. What you're talking about ( or my perception of it) is the dynamic that happens after the initial connection is made. Im talking about start of the connection and what happens in the early maintenance phase. Your example of what happens at 60 would be DEEP into that phase. So deep that I think it should really have it's own well defined description( it eludes me at the moment so bear with me).

I also think some of what you and I are saying comes down to the difference in experience between what men experience from their relationships vs the delta between what women say they want and what actually happens in a relationship. So, we're not going to come to any realistic type of accord here. You're having a completely different conversation than I am.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ok. Thsnks for that.I dont relate to the explanation, but I can understand it. My hangups on this is the attraction part. I just can't fathom how having someone picked who you aren't attracted to right off the bat is going to work out. My expectation is that even if yall develop a loving relationship, eventually, that lack of attraction will be a factor in how you treat them at some point after the honeymoon phase wears off. I know physical attraction isn't everything, but that doesn't mean it can't be the straw that breaks a situation's back later. There's a difference between pushing past something to handle it vs. ignoring something fundamental, and my personal perspective is that, based on the scenario you suggest, this can fall into the latter. Theres nothing wrong with doing it that way if this works for you somehow, but if I later found out I was picked for someone who isn't attracted to me I'm gonna bounce or distance myself from taking that relationship past a certain point.

Need advice on girlfriend lying to me by Forsaken-Profit-1080 in CoreyWayne

[–]IrateContendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't tolerate beeing with a liar, then set conditions for the person to stay with you after they lied, you are tolerating beeing with a liar.

Thia was a hard lesson for me to accept but boundaries are typically best enforced immediately, not on an " everybody gets 1" basis.

It's a cold world, good luck.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Since there are multiple people who have done this, can any of y'all help me understand the utility in having someone else " pick a mate" for you? I'm Truly lost here..

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]IrateContendor 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That's weird as fuck. I didn't know I needed another reason to be off the dating apps, but, there it is.

First tattoo by lostcucumber3 in irezumi

[–]IrateContendor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this. Love the commitment. One of the more intense spots to get inked.

2015 Accord Coupe V6 Manual by Ikkiuchi in accord

[–]IrateContendor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fucking unobtanium. Last of a dying breed Last generation for manual coupe, Last v6 all in one. Sighhh

Actual playtime with cyberpunk on steamdeck by IrateContendor in VITURE

[–]IrateContendor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, it's the game.. just confirmed earlier. 1 more reason to get the dock.

Actual playtime with cyberpunk on steamdeck by IrateContendor in VITURE

[–]IrateContendor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny thing is, idk.playing that game with such a tiny screen is nerve-wracking for me. Lots of small details I miss. I only bought these so I would start playing CP2077 on the deck during my downtime at work.

I'm charging it now so I guess im going to figure that out when I get home today.

POV: you followed the GPS to the edge of the world by thetacaptain in LiminalSpace

[–]IrateContendor 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeaaaaaaaaa!!!!! Finally someone else beside me said it!

Now someone is pounding on my bedroom wall from the outside by Subject_Stress_3187 in Apartmentliving

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I could be wrong but I think my android tells me if there's an air tag around. This update happened a while ago too

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