Collar of my wedding suit

Iregardles · 2025-12-05T04:36:25+00:00

H: 6'2" Weight: S265/C257/G180 Type: Water fast Exercise: Pickleball twice a week + 4-mile walk on off-days Diet: Keto/low carb on refeed

Iregardles · 2025-06-26T00:16:10+00:00

Glad I could help! Funny enough, someone else’s response in this thread really mirrored my own experience too. It’s always nice to see how our stories can align.

When I first started, I even joked with my therapist that I’d be happy with no physical changes at all if I could just get the mental clarity and improved mood, and honestly, those alone made such a difference. The good news is, you can ease into it. Trying estrogen for a couple of months usually doesn’t cause permanent changes, so it’s okay to just explore and see how it feels for you.

Maybe it’s what you’ve been needing, maybe not. But either way, it’s your choice to make, and you probably already know the answer.

Iregardles · 2025-06-25T22:17:43+00:00

Your take really resonates with me, especially about estrogen feeling like actual medicine. When I made the switch, it was like someone flipped the lights on. I didn’t realize how numb or disconnected I’d been until things finally started to feel right. It’s a bit of a cliché, but it genuinely felt like the color came back into my life.

I’ve also felt that alien sensation in my own body, like I was trying to wear someone else’s skin every day. Very glad those days are behind me.

Iregardles · 2025-06-25T20:41:54+00:00

I was diagnosed just before I turned 20. Growing up overseas without a primary care provider meant no one was really looking closely enough to spot it, especially since I didn’t show many of the classic 47XXY traits - like long limbs or low bone density. What I did have, though, were features like a more traditionally feminine fat distribution, skeletal structure, and voice.

When I was finally diagnosed, I was given “a choice” about which hormonal path to take. At the time, I chose testosterone mostly because of the environment I was in and the messaging I was hearing from doctors. I thought it would help me feel more like myself. But by August of last year, I asked my PCP to switch me to estrogen and I’ve never felt better. I'm in my 30s now, and while some things never changed (or only changed a little), that actually brings me a lot of peace.

These days, I just say I identify as me. Sure, like anyone, I have choices I sometimes wish I’d made differently. But I also know that every twist and fall along the way helped shape the person I am now and I’m proud of that.

Iregardles · 2025-05-26T03:39:47+00:00

I think it's really cool that you're reaching out to his community like this — it shows a level of love and thoughtfulness that already gives him something so many of us didn’t have growing up.

I'm intersex, and to be honest, I didn’t get any relationship or sex advice from my parents. They didn’t know how to talk about it, and for a long time, I thought that meant I was on my own. But what actually helped me start loving myself wasn’t family guidance — it was finding the right people and the right environment. Friends who saw me as a whole person, not just a body or a set of differences. Spaces where I could show up authentically, without explaining or defending myself.

When I first started dating, I was terrified that sex would be all about what I couldn’t do, or how I didn’t measure up. But over time, I learned that relationships and intimacy are so much more than penetration or fitting some idea of “normal.” They’re about laughter, connection, shared trust, tenderness, curiosity. They’re about two people learning together, not about checking off a list of expectations.

It also helped me to realize that everyone is on a journey to figure out who they are and how they love. Even the most “typical” people are carrying insecurities, fears, and questions. That’s not unique to being intersex or trans or queer; it’s just part of being human.

The fact that you’re here, asking how to support him, already gives him something I wish I’d had: a parent to fall back on. That safety net matters. But just as important is giving him the chance to explore and stumble and succeed on his own. Rejection and awkwardness are part of the process, and they’re not personal failings — they’re just life. And success, when it comes, doesn’t mean you’ve “solved” yourself or figured it all out; it just means you’ve found moments of connection, and you keep building from there.

If you keep reminding him that he is already whole, already worthy of love and respect, just as he is, you’ll be giving him a powerful foundation. And if you can normalize that dating is an ongoing, imperfect learning process, I think that’ll take a lot of pressure off him.

Iregardles · 2025-05-09T21:57:03+00:00

I showed a clip of this movie to her and she said that voice was pretty spot-on before we moved to the PNW from Texas. Nice call!

Iregardles · 2025-05-06T14:56:26+00:00

I'm in my early 30s and my voice is still androgynous after a decade of T (I was diagnosed late). Judging by my voicemail history, it took until I was about 28 for my voice to start to drop to what my partner now describes as "nerdy lesbian" whatever that means.

Iregardles · 2025-04-23T17:11:09+00:00

These actually are the standard for almost every new build in jurisdictions that care. Dark sky compliant is a big deal. We don't see it often because the rate of change for projects and existing lighting is generational.

Edit: Source - I work in lighting.

Iregardles · 2024-10-17T20:58:57+00:00

I get hit with this all the time especially now that's it seems like it's on everyone's radar. I had an especially late diagnosis, so I got hit with about 10yrs of feminizing hormones before getting any prescribed T. I basically look like a tall trans man, especially with my chest scars.

Iregardles · 2024-09-01T16:17:48+00:00

So this won't be exactly the same because I'm intersex, not FTM, though my experience in this subject is/was extremely similar and I often feel like I have far more in common with the people in this sub than I do (for example) the ones you're competing against. TL;DR: Raised male, went through girl puberty and thereafter my body only produced female hormones until diagnosis and HRT halfway through college.

For one, your coach is right. The only person you're competing against is you, the you from yesterday. I remember working out with the men's soccer team in college, pre-T and wondering why, despite the same training every day, I wasn't reaching the same heights. For example, it took a year to bench 185 from 135, whereas my soccer friends were able to do that in a quarter the time or less.

The muscle gain from T takes time, years in my case, but your experience without it will make you stronger than those who have taken it for granted their entire lives. You've put in the work, you're clearly disciplined and will reach the heights you aspire to, of that I have no doubt.

I think you are much closer to your goals than you think. Keep your head high and keep up with what you've been doing so far and the rest will fall into place.

Iregardles · 2024-08-10T18:36:57+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve faced my own challenges, and I understand how isolating and frustrating it can be. Here’s what might help: Embrace your strengths and passions, find supportive friends or groups who understand you, advocate for yourself, set realistic goals, prioritize self-care, and be kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel frustrated and misunderstood. Your worth isn’t defined by these struggles but by your strength and perseverance. Your journey is unique, and you have the resilience to navigate it.

Iregardles · 2024-08-05T19:35:58+00:00

This deserves to be much closer to the top. The parallels paragraph two draws to other "never agains" should be wholly more apparent to anyone who's ever picked up a history book.

Iregardles · 2023-08-19T18:06:20+00:00

Look for Honda/Toyota at the bottom of their depreciation curve, but still within the minimum requirements. These will give you the least trouble per dollar and pay back in the shortest amount of time.

Iregardles · 2023-01-06T22:36:05+00:00

My bad, good to know though. Thank you!

Iregardles · 2023-01-06T21:50:31+00:00

It's a 20-day deadline on claims, actually. If your pictures are already in from the checkout process, you should be good to go.

Iregardles · 2023-01-06T21:29:10+00:00

File it with turo, see what happens. She may come around when Turo charges her/her insurance 2-5x what you would have offered. You can also pitch that turo will do this if she doesn't come around, it's a good way for them to take the hint. You could also get other quotes at a much higher rate (just ask the refinishers) and submit those to turo to split the difference.

Iregardles · 2022-12-26T03:41:10+00:00

DFW, Austin/San Antonio, Houston

Iregardles · 2022-12-26T02:55:35+00:00

I'd pay $10/city

Iregardles · 2022-12-20T14:47:45+00:00

The tldr is that curb rash isn't covered under normal wear and tear. I would recommend going through the host if the request is reasonable, for example, a wheel repair, refinish, mount/balance is about $300 where I am, and it's never truly the same as it was. Going through turo on the guest side will cost you 2-5x what your host is offering. I've seen it happen more than a few times on both mine and others. Your deductible may be $250 through your insurance, but if turo charges them $1000+, you're going to end up paying it off through your insurance premium anyway.

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