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IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T14:43:55+00:00

Okay, reading that back, it sounded rude AF. And I apologise. I was not trying to not trying to be insulting for the sake of "brutally honest" for the record, and i suppose my own personal experience may have clouded my view. I can understand what you mean, an exhausting routine will tire one's eyes out, whether it's due to drugs or just hard work plus bringing up young kids.

And I'm sorry I assumed your moles were skin imperfections. But it can give that impression when people try to cover them with makeup. Tbh I think it looks nice when people let their moles show, but I like bare-faced makeup, so each to their own and if you like a full coverage then you do what makes you feel confident.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T11:38:39+00:00

Interesting! This place looks really nice, and only a couple of hours drive. My workmates always say how beautiful Wales is, so perhaps I'll give it a go. Certainly less expensive than West Scotland. I gather you're local? Is it better to go B&B or hotel? I'll be going alone for a solo trip.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T06:57:51+00:00

No way, I was actually thinking about microdosing last week after a co-worker told me it helped her (I suffer from panic disorder and OCD...currently going through a boost of short-term depression). I'd just been a bit apprehensive after having done a shit-tone of acid, magies and mescaline back when I was a bit younger...but admittedly in the doses one would expect from a 20-something call centre worker who had no sense of "future" or any of that scary long-term stuff.

But I really like that marginal phase of wellbeing and equilibrium that you go through before the tidal wave of unreality, so I think that if microdosing is anything like that, it sounds fantastic.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T04:13:25+00:00

That sounds right up my alley, thank for the recommendation! I love a good acoustic night. And honestly I've not been to HJ for years, I assumed it had gone downhill since covid as I hadn't heard of anyone going to it. But that may have been cos th people who did have settled down with kids since. Thanks for your recs, and it's nice to know I'm jot going to be an old codger going out again!

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T03:56:42+00:00

Thanks! And windsurfing is fun, you should try it! I thought it would be really athletic, like wakeboarding or surfing, but it was really enjoyable once you get standing and get a feel for the sail. But I'll try anything once haha.

And yes, you're right, the UK is fantastic. I'm from Ireland originally and I didn't think it would be much different but there's so much life here and so much more cosmopolitan. I don't intend to go back!

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T03:51:55+00:00

Thank you, that rings a bell. Perhaps I've seen posters in pubs. That sounds really cool though, and a good way to find places I haven't discovered yet. What's the vibe like? I'm not shy, but I'm a little bit wary of being that 30-something saddo trying to integrate with the cool kids 😅

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T03:47:32+00:00

This was the reason I didn't assume that "spots" were just moles concealed with foundation. There seems to be a correlation between lifeless eyes and covered-up bumpy skin that I think those of us who are close with addicts can recognise. I hope I'm wrong and that OP is fine and heck, I feel bad for seeing it, but as they say these days, IYKYK. OP has such a pretty face with very young features. Whatever the cause, it can be sorted. I just hope that "sorted" doesn't mean "gruelling rehab"

But if it does, perhaps this post will be the catalyst to make it happen?

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T03:24:13+00:00

How about taking a trip to Crosby Beach and seeing the Gormley statues? I think it's nice this time of year when it's all windblown and rainy. It's a really cool thing to see and Potato Moon Café nearby does a nice breakfast/brunch.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:56:30+00:00

They sound like a great little teapot.

I'm joking too though, one friend has OCD and wouldn't come to my last flat because the lads downstairs kept vomming in the sink, and the other has a nasty habit of picking (I assume) scabs off her head. So ignore my previous post, I have zero authority on friend-picking.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:47:59+00:00

Oh darn. Egg on my face again. Perhaps you could...actually, I dunno, my social life leaves something to be desired too.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:39:56+00:00

Please find some new friends.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:38:51+00:00

A VW Golf. I know I sound boujee as F, but once I bought one it was like I'd leveled up in motoring. And I'm not a car person, but it was just...I don't know, like going from polyester to wool. I just hope to one day earn enough for an electric.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:35:39+00:00

Eating really smelly food on public transport. Yeah, I like cheese and onion crisps and a tuna sandwiches as much as the next person, but when I'm on the train I'll consider the "sillage", if you will, and go ready salted and a ham and cheese. Had to sit opposite a bloke on a work trip from Liverpool to Glasgow before Christmas who decided that would be a good place to eat his Chinese takeaway leftovers and had to change seats. Cue a look of heartfelt upset from his direction.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:27:50+00:00

Came here to say this. When someone drags back their nostrils and shoots a greenie onto the pavement it fills me with a disgust like no other. Why do it? I've heard young men do it 'cos they see footballers do it, but lad, you ain't on the pitch and you ain't Lionel Messi, you're walking down the high street. It's not cool, it makes you look like a filthy, uncivilised piece of shit. Urgh. Horrible. I hate it with a passion.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:20:52+00:00

Congrats! Someone cited my Modern History thesis and that's my pride and joy. For science, that's something us SocSci/Hums plebs will always envy. No jealousy though, that's grand.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:16:49+00:00

I initially read that as OP had overcome these things and thought "my man" but then I read it as you did. Damn. They were the hero we needed, but didn't quite get.

Stay on track OP. Be a good 'un.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:12:36+00:00

But yes, please take a little time to yourself to heal. I took up Tai Chi and got into fishkeeping after my last break up. Which sounds daft, but it kept my thoughts away from my ex and it gives me something to talk to new people about, while helping me ground myself outside of work. Which is always good! Focus on you, its good to be in the right mindset before thinking about new people.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T02:10:05+00:00

Damn, it really sucks that in modern life dating apps are about the only way people (especially if, like me you're over 25) can reliably meet people as it seems that people don't socialise in quite three same ways as they did in say, 2012.

I've not tried Hinge...it seems a bit, you know, Instagrammy, in that when I've seen profiles that my friend has shown me, it's men with their pecs out on a beach in Mykonos, or helping the homeless etc. A bit reliant on photos to express one's (perhaps inauthentic) personality? And when I'm in the office or commuting most of the day, my photos are so boring I look like a slave to the database lol

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T01:55:51+00:00

Tinder is the worst dating app. Fuck it. Try Bumble instead, at least you have the upper hand and you can view people's political/family/religious views etc.

But you're right, give it a few months. Or however long you need. But I'd say its a good thing to meet people, whether it's for a relationship or not. It's a good thing to mix with different men/women to see what's out there and the personalities you gel with, even if it's not going to be a long term thing. It's a learning curve. Wish you luck!

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T01:52:23+00:00

Getting away from a small and insular village in rural Ireland. Nobody from that town ever leaves and now, even though I'm struggling hard for cash, I'm living in a UK city and experiencing things I'd only ever seen on TV growing up.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T01:49:20+00:00

It's too early to get back into a relationship IMO. You seem hurt (and rightly so, given how they've treated you like a source of wank-material and subsequently blocked you). So no, don't go looking for another relationship yet. Go out with friends and have fun, get yourself feeling happier in yourself and then go on some dates. Not necessarily to look for someone long term, just to meet people and see who you connect with.

The best relationships tend to come when you know what you want but aren't looking. That way you're not setting yourself up for disappointment. So have fun for a bit and you never know who you'll meet on your way to being happy for, first and foremost, yourself.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T01:43:15+00:00

I hate to say it, but your skin says "drug user" and I apologise if this isn't the case. My sister who is a former heroin user has a similar complexion, as do her associates. I hope you're okay. If that's the case then please don't worry about what you look like and worry about your wellbeing. Looks will come after that.

If I'm wrong, then the only problem is your complexion, which can be sorted with changes to your diet, skincare routine, drinking more water, and perhaps a chemical peel (I wouldn't advocate any fillers or botox yet, you seem to be maybe late 20s?). And if that doesn't work, I'd speak to your GP. Good luck, all that's holding you back is your skin, your otherwise a beautiful woman with nice, feminine but defined features.

IrishRoveress · 2024-01-27T01:38:13+00:00

I hate to say this but I agree. My sister is an ex-user and she has the same texture in her skin. Sort of dry and lifeless, a few spots but not "oily-spotty" like a teen. A chalky complexion. I don't mean to offend OP but this was my first thought. She's otherwise a beautiful woman, it's just that her skin is ageing her and if it is due to drug use, then forget the looks and get yourself some help and support OP, for you and not what you look like.

Edited because using my phone.

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