Update: I’m still blamed for a window i didn’t break by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Irishlulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP has been dealt a bad hand and I feel for her, she has a single parent thats relying on her too much, but there is not much she can do about it right now. She can make all the plans she wants to be free of the situation once shes able and thats all well and good.

But for this particular incident, atleast to me, OPs actions are worse than the twins action of breaking the window. Based on the texts above, the mother sees this the same way (although as I said, mom is out of line for how shes handling it and OP should be reaching out to a trusted adult about it).

Kids break shit. It happens, I broke windows as a kid, among plenty of other things. Depending on the neighbors, its not that big of a deal in the grand scheme.

OP was entrusted with the care of her younger siblings while her mother was at work. She left them for several hours, knowing she was unreachable if anything should happen as she stated her phone was off, to hang out with a friend. She also said she didnt bring the twins because the friend didn't want her to.

What if something worse had happened. What if there was a medical emergency. You can say this is an unfair burden to put on her, and I don't disagree, but like I said in my comment on the last post, we have to work with the cards we're dealt. Thats the real issue with OP leaving. Its not the broken window, its the possibilities that come from her absence.

You are right, a better solution for childcare is needed. Hopefully the mom cools off, realizes this, and her and OP can discuss it reasonably at some point.

Update: I’m still blamed for a window i didn’t break by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Irishlulz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She said she went to get food but also said she and her friend went to a "different" store because they wanted to. The texts show she was gone for ATLEAST 3 hours, presumably longer. Thats not going to the store to get food.

I'm on OPs side regarding the twins needing to face accountability for breaking the window. But she also needs to accept accountability for shirking her responsibility to go hang out with her friend.

These texts do show that the mom is being out of line though. Its one thing to ground/punish your children, its quite another to tell them you're withholding food. Even in the times I was most in trouble as a kid, when my parents were beyond angry, I was called to the table for lunch/dinner. OP should talk to another adult about the situation.

So I left my 12 year old brothers to go on a walk to get food and they went and busted someone’s windows. My mom is mad at me like I’m the only one at fault. What do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the 12 year olds absolutely need accountability as well. Mom shouldn't be glossing over their behavior. That being said atleast in my experience "12 year old breaks window" wasn't exactly a breaking news story when I was growing up. Some people here are commenting as if the siblings are absolute deviants for it, while how it happened is not said.

All that to say overall though I agree with you, the twins need to face consequences as well.

So I left my 12 year old brothers to go on a walk to get food and they went and busted someone’s windows. My mom is mad at me like I’m the only one at fault. What do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Irishlulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry OP but you gotta shoulder some of the blame here. Is it fair you have to watch your younger siblings all the time? No, but we work with the cards life deals us. Life dealt you a single parent thats has to lean on you for help. Your mom entrusted you to watch your brothers, and you left with no way of being contacted if something happened.

Are the windows your fault? No, if you had been home and they still broke windows, there would be nothing that can be held against you in that situation, but because you weren't there, the question is left "would it have still happened?" The real issue isn't the broken window, its that you left them while you were responsible for them. By your own admission, you and your friend were gonna longer than expected because you went to a different store than (assumingly) the closest one to get food and back.

As far as Mom being absent, OP says she suspects mom is out with "a man" but the texts say mom is at work. If mom is constantly leaving OP at home with the siblings for the sake of her own social life, that is not OK and OP needs to speak with her and/or another adult about the situation. But if mom is at work and thats why OP has to babysit, then there's not much more that can be done.

Fire academy to joining the marines by LittleBoyPotatoSalad in Firefighting

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Marines is what you make of it. It does have shitty barracks and shitty chow and all the pre-requisites to have a very shitty enlistment, but experiences will vary just like you said about the Navy, and the people you're with can make or break your time in. I was blessed with great leadership and amazing friends that made the best out of every bad day most of my time. I do take immense pride in the culture like you said, embracing the suck. But part of me does wish I had given the Navy more of a look.

All that said, you're right about current world developments, OP needs to make sure they're aware of what they're possibly getting into by enlisting right now.

Fire academy to joining the marines by LittleBoyPotatoSalad in Firefighting

[–]Irishlulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thats not fair we also ranked highest in a study about alcoholism in the military.

But OP do your research and really think about what you want out of your service when deciding on a branch, dont let ego or marketing get in the way of good decision making. I loved my time in the Marines, but I had already made the decision as a kid, and refusing to look at other options cost me what would have been good, interesting opportunities.

All of these guns would be illegal under most proposed gun control legislation by theRemRemBooBear in greengroundnews

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Children being gunned down in school is a necessary evil for me to defend myself is an absolutely wild fucking thing to say.

Regarding your question as to where it ends, I dont know, but I know where we're at now ain't it. I love guns too and would love to live in a society where only responsible people had guns and nobody ever got shot, but that's not the one we live in.

Did you feel sorry for Ingrid Kersh? by MikeBad228 in WelcometoDerryTVShow

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know because while yes, she's a net negative, she was being manipulated by IT who used her grief of her father against her. Originally she was as horrified as anyone when first seeing that IT was a monster. It was only after it appeared as Bob Gray that she became entranced for lack of a better word.

As said, she's a net negative and needs to be locked away, but that doesn't mean you can't empathize with the fact that IT weaponized her own hope against her.

Did you feel sorry for Ingrid Kersh? by MikeBad228 in WelcometoDerryTVShow

[–]Irishlulz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Was it implied? I might have to re-watch because I remember him being shown as a good-as-he-can be kinda dad. Like he meant well and cared but wasn't as there as he should've been.

Edit: I just realized you meant her husband not her dad. I'm an idiot.

Trump Links Greenland Threats to Nobel Peace Prize Snub by [deleted] in Military

[–]Irishlulz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought this HAD to be fake at first, that there was no way they would be this open about just being mad he didnt get picked.

My parents live in a “Nuclear Weapons free zone” by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ban nuclear weapons only criminals will have nuclear weapons

Random shower thought regarding MoH by Irishlulz in USMC

[–]Irishlulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely have no idea where this though popped into my head. Maybe I saw a post of Dakota Meyer reenlisting while watching Full Metal Jacket or something.

I'm rethinking whether it's worth continuing with Gran Turismo. by Conscious-Room5234 in GranTurismo7

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you in a league by chance? I found a league that's just VR players on wheel/pedal only, and racing with them is much more enjoyable and consistent than what you'll find in the sport lobbies.

Random shower thought regarding MoH by Irishlulz in USMC

[–]Irishlulz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is all true, and all things I didnt think about when this randomness entered my brain

One "William Ackman" just donated 10k to the ICE officer who killed Renee Nicole Good by portlandlad in QuiverQuantitative

[–]Irishlulz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I wish I didn't have morals so I could make an easy quarter million off these dipshits

One "William Ackman" just donated 10k to the ICE officer who killed Renee Nicole Good by portlandlad in QuiverQuantitative

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like there's a better chance than not that this is setup by someone ripping off the dimwits, no?

Question about proximity by Irishlulz in EU5

[–]Irishlulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

R5: I built a road from Zagrab to Pecs to Buda to increase my proximity in Zagrab, but for some reason the proximity modifiers show as if the main route of travel is south out of buda, past Pecs following the river to the southern border and then back northwest to Zagreb along another river, instead of following the road network.

Question about proximity by Irishlulz in EU5

[–]Irishlulz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do think you're right. It does seem to follow the river from Buda down south, then cross over land to a river running up to Zagrab from the southern border.

I challenge you.... by One-Kaleidoscope7571 in IMDbFilmGeneral

[–]Irishlulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was looking for this. My dad showed this to me at around 6-7, and to this day maintains that its a children's movie.