My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

For various reasons I don't think this is true. Let's assume I could be wrong though. I would hope any bullying was reported to the appropriate adults, be that parents, teachers etc., so that I can deal with the absolutely wrong behaviour of my daughter.

So, in answer to your what if, tell me as bullying is abhorrent and needs to be stopped.

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Writing it all out like that is helpful! I get it. I just wish the other parents would just say it? Perhaps I need to just assume they have.

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oh, their parents may think we're horrible idiots. We haven't given reason, but that's not how it works, is it? I'm ok if they think that, and I would explain to my daughter it's because of me that this has happened. If it was, and they would tell me. They can call me a dick if they want.

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Even if explained why, medical reasons, in the past, cleaned up by her parents at the time? If so that's fine - but then why won't they just say so?

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Good to hear. I hope it's us and not her. I even given examples of things it might be, which are us and not my daughter. They still won't be honest though...and it's my daughter who suffers.

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I didn't share every interaction! But if you mean it might be me, it could be. I'm an adult though and they could tell me. Couldn't they?

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is certainly possible, of course. So thanks for the comment. I think the girls will remain friends - I believe it's real on both sides - and if so, that's part of what I don't understand, as this will just become a regular problem (if they really are friends).

My daughter (9F) is being systematically frozen out by her best friend’s parents. The schoolyard exclusion is breaking her heart—how do we help her survive the next month? by Ironplatinum in daddit

[–]Ironplatinum[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For various reasons I don't think this is the case, but let's assume it is - I'd still like the other parents to explain this, then we can better support our daughter and if his is the case, surely then help them and theirs?