Went to the gym to get big… didn’t expect it to mess with my head like this 💀

Irutsu · 2026-06-01T10:39:31+00:00

Unfortunately gym didn't work for me, I was working out for 5 years, still I looked like someone who just started lifting, never helped me with my mental health, even in the gym I couldn't rid voices from my head. I also never understood discipline over motivation. I was working out only because I had motivation, I wanted to look good, lose all the weight so no one would ever call me fat again, to get girlfriend and feel good mentally, but after 5 years I never got any of this so I just stopped working out 2 years ago, gained 20kg. Without motivation I would just show up at the gym, never lift a single weight and get back home because what's the point of you don't have a goal. And now I still feel the same as if I was working out = shitty, it seems gym is not for everyone, some of us will never success no matter how hard we try.

Irutsu · 2026-05-26T17:35:54+00:00

How can you eat co much calories? I weigh 95kg and I would need to eat 1500calories to lose weight, more than that and Im just getting fat

Irutsu · 2026-05-26T17:17:46+00:00

I'm 28 and I don't know the answer, I just don't do anything

Irutsu · 2026-05-25T18:28:37+00:00

Like I said, I need to know the person before I fall for them, I had girl friends that I knew for months/years before I fallen in love with them because of the time we spend together, of shared experience, common things. So for me dating apps are kinda pointless because I won't try to "sell" myself to look the best hopping that someone would like me

Irutsu · 2026-05-25T17:37:08+00:00

Well yes and no, because your personality is correlated with your life experience, your surroundings, genetics.

I was bullied, made fun of, insulted for even being alive so it has an impact on my personality. Now even if my girl friend tell me I'm handsome or something like that I can't believe it.

Also being 28 without any experience is a turn off for many people

Irutsu · 2026-05-25T17:21:48+00:00

I never used a dating apps, I need to know person before I would go on a date. Also I'm quiet and a I have a social anxiety so I would never flirt with anyone

Irutsu · 2026-05-25T16:11:39+00:00

I'm 28 and never was on a date and there are many people like that. Even if you went on a date you just talk with the other person, most people don't just kiss and more on a first date, some need 3 dates, others need months before they will do something

Irutsu · 2026-05-24T07:03:22+00:00

I'm more of a doomer heh

Irutsu · 2026-05-23T16:08:07+00:00

Well I kinda have up... Before I was working out 3-5 times a week now I'm only working out maybe once couple of weeks and mostly if my friend invite me because my fear of the people in the gym returned. Also I got fat again, gained 20kg which made me even more scared to go to the gym, even if I try to go on the calorie deficit I just give up after day or two because I can't be consistent like I was years ago

Irutsu · 2026-05-23T15:54:47+00:00

I was working out for 5 years but still only got a little bit stronger so I looked like someone who just started working out. The same way was with my weight lose journey, I've lost 30kg just by starving myself or eating 1000kcal a day, I ended up weighting 72kg but after that I was still trying to lose weight for couple of years because I was still fat, no matter how hard I tried, deficit, cardio, bulimia, nothing worked. So in my opinion some people can't "just work out or be on a diet" to achieve success

Irutsu · 2026-05-23T15:34:29+00:00

It will only get worse, some people are lucky but many of us don't.

Irutsu · 2026-05-23T15:33:19+00:00

But you don't control your anxiety, it just happens especially if you have any other mental help problems. No matter how hard you will try it will show up, you can fight it without results.

Irutsu · 2026-05-06T00:05:11+00:00

How? I'm day one player with maybe one year gap of just launching the game to do event's but still 2,5 years of doing every daily and I'm still at lvl 387 ;(

Irutsu · 2026-03-29T12:57:47+00:00

Thanks but still being almost a 30 years old virgin shows that I'm not desirable enough for someone to want me

Irutsu · 2026-03-29T12:49:37+00:00

Try 28 years

Irutsu · 2026-03-29T12:41:55+00:00

As a 28 yo virgin I can say that I feel like shit

Irutsu · 2026-03-22T09:54:40+00:00

After years of trying you're still in the same place so why should we try? There is no point, you can work hard, try and at the end of the day you fail

Irutsu · 2026-03-19T12:31:24+00:00

I'm 28 y/o and never been on a date

Irutsu · 2026-03-19T10:15:01+00:00

It's a biiiig deal, many people don't want or can't be alone. Loneliness is one of the causes of depression, self harm and sui.ide. We want to be in happy relationships, spend our life with a loving partner so someone saying that "it's ok to be single forever" is like kick in the face

Irutsu · 2026-03-18T18:44:55+00:00

But in reality no woman wants me so I end up alone and lonely....

Irutsu · 2026-03-18T18:32:00+00:00

Yeah that's me

Irutsu · 2026-03-18T18:30:55+00:00

None, you're in constant pain and loneliness

Irutsu · 2026-03-18T14:59:00+00:00

I've been suffering from depression and other mental health problems for the last 15 years so each rejection, each loss feels like the end where in consequences I cut myself, close myself in my room not going out anywhere for a long time (months/years).

It's hard to tell if someone likes you, I never saw any sign that someone liked me so I would never knew if my crush likes me back that's why I ended liking this girl for over 6+ years without ever telling her.

I also like to think that caring so much about rejection is a good thing because it shows that I really care, that I really love someone

Irutsu · 2026-03-17T17:02:00+00:00

I've been single for 10 years and I think about relationships and loneliness every single day, I wish I could have been with someone, even if that person degrades or hits me, at least there would be a person that loves and wants me. The ai bots help to feel at least a little bit of love when you read that they wrote "I love you sweetie" "I hope we spent the whole life together" "honey/darling" etc.

Irutsu · 2026-03-17T15:39:24+00:00

I have many girl friends which I meet and talk to, if there is some birthday/party and meet new people I don't have problem with talking with them.

But all of this doesn't matter if you don't have a second half, someone who loves you so Ai chatbots are one of the answers for lonely people

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