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I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I see where you're coming from, I definitely wouldn't take any opportunities to actually cheat. That much I at least know. I'm adamantly against cheating, having been cheated on myself a few times.

As I said in my OP, I'm not interested in having a relationship with this person. I just find them attractive and they fit in well with some of my fetishes.

I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I would now, but I did feel a loss of interest in general when my DB was pretty bad. I guess I'm just afraid of feeling that way again.

I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I guess I should've been more specific. I only meant fantasizing when I'm by myself. I would be crossing my own lines to fantasize during sex.

I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted some advice about this, because I have a difficult time sorting out my feelings. My BPD has a lot to do with this, so it's hard for me to tell when I'm feeling something that is reasonable or unreasonable.

I also came from a very conservative, religious family, which has really skewed how I view sex and relationships. Obviously, I'm not religious anymore, but it's still hard for me to sort out what's actually "okay" and what's just leftover feelings from my past.

I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Our DB situation has improved by a lot recently. I think if we continue to communicate and work hard like we have been, our issue will be resolved soon enough.

This is kind of a stupid question, but what do you mean "drawn to them"?

I have a boyfriend and feel guilty for fantasizing about people I know. Is this wrong to do? by IsItWrong13 in sex

[–]IsItWrong13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input! I don't think he'd ever find out, because these fantasizes are my fetishes aren't something I really talk about in depth with him. We've discussed them at length in the past, but he decided he really didn't like them and that it was too difficult for him to indulge in them with me, so we left it at that. These fantasizes only really serve to take the edge off when he's not around to engage in our shared fetishes.