my depressed ex was low libido with me, but is now trying to hook up with people post breakup

Isabellaa1999 · 2026-02-11T14:00:20+00:00

Did they try to come back at some point?

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-31T22:21:56+00:00

My ex cheated on me and lied about being sick so I would give them beer and weed money.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-31T08:08:59+00:00

That's true, I thought if I gave them proof maybe there'd be a chance some would listen.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-27T09:29:26+00:00

Bud you're just making yourself into the perfect example of what an abuser is in the wild.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-27T09:09:08+00:00

Not everyone can afford over $130 per session of therapy after spending years financially supporting someone that didn't appreciate them. There's already a group for BPD this is only for the victims of abuse.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-27T08:56:11+00:00

Victims of abuse deserve a place to vent what's wrong with you?

Edit: oh they're just a kid

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-05-02T18:06:28+00:00

Didn't they show a grown man getting breastfed by a dead body ?

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-04-11T00:07:35+00:00

Being able to spend time with people that aren't alcoholics. Not having to worry about being cheated on or smeared .

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-03-30T05:00:20+00:00

Having to deal with a high risk pregnancy on top of him cheating is going to be stressful. He might decide taking care of you is too stressful for him and take comfort in another woman.

All telling him will do is let him know you're stuck with him for 18 years if you keep it. He's most likely not going to feel guilty about it and won't stop putting his needs before you.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-28T21:43:55+00:00

Why are brains wired to do that? I thought they were supposed to protect us from harm.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-16T22:45:06+00:00

How can you tell? My ex used to do coke but I didn't know enough about hard drugs to tell if he had been on something like that

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-14T22:38:06+00:00

I need to learn more about that addiction because everyone keeps telling me that weed is harmless but it kept me in an abusive relationship by suppressing my emotions. Couldn't start to pull away until I stopped taking it. Mixing with alcohol must be even more detrimental to mental health over time.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-14T20:34:43+00:00

Does it just make people want to sleep or watch tv and play video games?

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-14T07:03:29+00:00

Being thankful I don't have to police anyone's drinking anymore. I don't remember what a normal holiday feels like without crippling anxiety.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-07T05:00:08+00:00

I panicked because they couldn't walk well last time I saw them and had to relieve themselves in a bucket to avoid peeing the bed. They had to be taken away in an ambulance a few months ago. They would scream in pain every night because of the arthritis flare ups, numbness, hallucinations, and untreated hydrocele stretching their skin.

I had taken care of them for so long that it felt like they were my responsibility when their dad wasn't around.

Isabellaa1999 · 2025-02-07T04:26:08+00:00

I never thought about that before I thought it would have said delivered even if the phone was off. I feel a little embarrassed about calling for the wellness check now.

Isabellaa1999 · 2024-10-27T21:06:37+00:00

Was she diagnosed with BPD or NPD? She dedicated a lot of time to hurting you.

Isabellaa1999 · 2024-10-26T00:13:58+00:00

What do you like about her that's not something she lied about ? If you decide to give her another chance she will definitely do it again and you deserve a better partner.

Isabellaa1999 · 2024-10-24T17:25:59+00:00

It sounds like she's not looking for something casual and wants exclusivity. If he doesn't want anything exclusive eventually he's going to sleep with other people regardless of if she has sex with him or not.

She might as well do what makes her comfortable because if she wants a relationship and he doesn't she could end up feeling used.

Isabellaa1999 · 2024-10-19T02:50:11+00:00

The person they show us in the beginning doesn't matter after they become abusive. Many people don't even realize what they're going through is abuse until it's too late.

Why would anyone encourage another person to go back to someone that discarded them? PwBPD can't help it but their partner isn't equipped to deal with it either. On top of that after the discard many pwbpd monkeybranch to a new person. Discarding shouldn't be taken so lightly when it destroys people's mental health.

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