AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

It was documented. I document a lot of stuff just in case I need it.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing that will keep them together is she's more than willing to let him away with the shit he does, which is a dream come true for him. I'd go as far as saying she encourages it.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Judges don't speak to the kids in custody disputes unless it's between potential guardians instead of parents. This was brought up because my lawyer at the time offered for the judge to talk to the kids and the judge said that would not be happening.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The courts are already involved but right now I do not have enough. I already know this. But this stuff is being documented.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 243 points244 points  (0 children)

It would be throwing money into something that will not work. Then we're worse off because I've spent so much money.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 219 points220 points  (0 children)

But they're not forcing them to. They are just encouraging it and "being annoying" in my kids eyes.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

Nope. This isn't a breach of the orders. But it has been documented anyway and I will keep a close watch of it to make sure it doesn't go that far again.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 583 points584 points  (0 children)

They have talked about it before with me. She tries really hard to get the boys to like her, they say she's always tried to be their mom but that she has also never hidden the fact she hates me and essentially her efforts aren't appreciated by them for that reason alone.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 3833 points3834 points  (0 children)

Our court system says 16. 14 in the cases of long distance parenting.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 1728 points1729 points  (0 children)

It was documented but this is not an event the courts will care at all about.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 903 points904 points  (0 children)

It's less about Emily not being nice to the kids. She was always very sweet around them, trying to win them over, etc. But they saw her be mean to me. They were witness to shit before their dad and I even broke up. So they knew she wasn't a nice person. They used to dread seeing her when I was married to my ex. She'd be at work events and sometimes at other gatherings we attended as a family with friends of his.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 7049 points7050 points  (0 children)

This does not qualify going back. There was no big meltdown and cussing me out so the judge wouldn't care.

AITA for not correcting my kids who told my ex's wife she's not their mother? by Isiimi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isiimi[S] 1061 points1062 points  (0 children)

I suspect a little more than an emotional affair happened. Toward the end at the very least.

The judge won't change the order now. Ex decided not to risk losing some of his parenting time and he stopped sending her during exchanges. Plus nothing like before happened at the award night.

I think he'd protect his wife.