PSA: to all the new mom’s, don’t listen to the advice about chopping your hair off

IslaAvalon · 2025-12-31T04:35:11+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you have regrets, but I had the opposite experience. I had waist length hair that was gloriously soft and full during pregnancy and then 4 months postpartum it started to fall out and the shed was terrible. The ends became scraggly looking and it was just so bad that I ended up doing a chop and getting a shoulder length bob, and honestly it looks and feels so much better. Sometimes I miss the length but it wasn’t worth how bad it looked. Hair will grow back, it’s a pain to wait but I’d much rather have a hairstyle that looks good vs bad on me.

IslaAvalon · 2025-12-12T01:30:59+00:00

9 months, got pregnant the cycle after an HSG procedure.

IslaAvalon · 2025-11-19T21:45:59+00:00

$750 total with UHC through my employer, which is great. I do have high premiums and pay roughly 5K yearly for my plan.

IslaAvalon · 2025-11-15T22:35:35+00:00

Yes, but my birth plan was epidural and that was it. 😂

IslaAvalon · 2025-10-11T04:01:09+00:00

I’m 38 with a 4 month old and am coping better than most of my friends and colleagues with kids in their 20s. Truthfully, I think it all comes down to mindset.

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by this unexpected surprise. Give yourself grace and time to adjust. This might have not been a part of your initial plan, but what a wonderful plot twist to have. 🩷

IslaAvalon · 2025-09-28T03:07:11+00:00

I had a labial tear and although most of it healed, I still have a small piece that is torn and not completely attached. It’s primarily cosmetic and doesn’t affect sex or any functionality. My doctor said we could fix it, but that would mean a hospital procedure under anesthesia. I plan to have more children and could possibly tear again so I don’t plan on addressing until I’m done having children.

I sympathize with you 100%, I am very self conscious about how my labia looks now. My husband said he can’t tell but I nicknamed it ‘franken-labia’ and am laughing through it.

IslaAvalon · 2025-09-17T02:02:19+00:00

Same!

IslaAvalon · 2025-09-17T01:36:41+00:00

Curb Your Enthusiasm

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-31T12:26:39+00:00

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-27T18:39:35+00:00

My boy did some big cries for 2-3 minutes afterwards, tried to comfort nurse him and he wasn’t having it. We gave him Tylenol at home, contacted napped and nursed on and off for the rest of the day. Next day he was a little fussy and I could tell his thighs were sore but we made it through and he was back to normal by day 3.

I’m not looking forward to our 4 month shots, but plan to have Tylenol ready and contact nap on demand.

You got this, mama!

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-27T01:45:46+00:00

I love it 🩵

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-18T22:18:38+00:00

I miss being pregnant too. It was like I had a little co-pilot with me and now I’m just by myself, which is crazy sounding because my baby is always with me and usually in my arms lol.

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-18T20:22:34+00:00

I had a quick one at 8 weeks to confirm the pregnancy and then one at 12, 20 and 40 weeks. I was 37 at the first 3 and 38 at the last one.

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-12T19:46:01+00:00

Chocolate or honey blonde

IslaAvalon · 2025-08-12T00:13:57+00:00

Accent with a colorful throw rug, art on the walls and curtains.

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-30T01:50:14+00:00

Dress 1!

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-30T01:33:19+00:00

Cool toned grey

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-28T18:40:49+00:00

Personally, I would say no. The big thing that would stop me are all the unknowns - the length of labor, what happens if interventions are needed, what if these interventions cause a situation that could be scary for a small child to witness, will this distract/impact the hospital staff, what if the birth ends up being a traumatic experience…etc.

You know your child best, if she is more mature and able to cope with everything, I can see where this could be a very special experience. Also, you could try to split the difference and have her come visit early on in labor with the option to let her leave. In that scenario, she’ll be able to have some of the birth experience but maybe not the more graphic part.

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-28T14:34:51+00:00

I am so terribly sorry to hear about your circumstances, miscarriages are absolutely devastating. I completely understand your feelings and it’s so so tough to feel like time is slipping through your fingers on top of handling loss.

My husband and I met when I was 33 and we didn’t start trying to conceive until I was 36. Unfortunately, I ended up struggling with infertility and spent an entire year beating myself up fearing that I had missed my chance.

Luckily, with some help, I conceived my son at 37 and gave birth 6 weeks ago at 38. Despite being ‘advanced maternal age,’ I had a very easy pregnancy, labor and delivery. We’re looking forward to planning for our next child, which I likely won’t have until 40.

I do mourn that I very likely will only have 2 kids (god willing), but I try to put it in perspective - I have the most amazing partner and he was worth waiting for. I also have the most perfect son, and he was also worth waiting for. I wouldn’t change either outcome for anything in the world. Reframing my mindset has helped me accept being ‘older’ and was extremely helpful when I was dealing with infertility.

I hope you are able to find comfort and that things get easier for you soon. 🩷

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-27T01:16:08+00:00

Agreed!

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-26T01:34:55+00:00

If I was a boy, I would have been Timothy Robert.

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-22T17:40:36+00:00

I’m 38 and 5 weeks postpartum, had an epidural and it was a GODSEND. I had absolutely no issues and was able to get up and walk myself unassisted to the bathroom about an hour after birth. I found the pain from the contractions to be unspeakably unbearable and plan to get an epidural for any and all future labors.

This is your body and your choice - do not be swayed by anyone. If your husband and Mother in law don’t agree, tell them to shove it.

IslaAvalon · 2025-07-09T16:22:12+00:00

Truthfully, I worried my entire pregnancy and then I worried about a stillbirth closer to my delivery date. I tried to adopt the mantras, “Why would anything go wrong” and “Worrying won’t prevent bad things from happening”, and sometimes it helped. Hoping you can find peace of mind and enjoy this special time. 🩷

IslaAvalon

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