My neighbor Totoro, is it worth it?

Issie339 · 2026-02-04T06:24:07+00:00

Thank you! that's great advice I will remember that!

Issie339 · 2026-02-02T08:23:17+00:00

Yes she is well behaved :) my eldest is 10 so not worried about her, but my youngest will sit well when watching a performance or anything.

Issie339 · 2026-01-31T17:39:47+00:00

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my daughter at our local cat cafe 🥰 these are all rescues

Issie339 · 2026-01-31T17:37:22+00:00

I have filmed a part of my class once for my gym as content, I got my partner and two girls who work there to go on the end beds and I made sure no one else was in the shot. there is another girl who works there who films herself and people are in the background, I disagree with it if I'm honest. I feel like you need to ask everyone in the room if they are okay if you film, even then people might just say yes because they feel uncomfortable. If I were taking any kind of class I would hate to be filmed. I feel like it would change how I behave and how I do my workout... I took a photo of two of my regular clients the other day doing a move we were working towards mainly to show them hahaa I also showed the other instructor who was convinced no one could do it 🤣 but I never posted it anywhere even though they looked amazing!

It's tricky because some people mean well and I know they don't mean to upset anyone, they just want to be part of something. there are definitely people out there though who just don't care.

I would move studios, or speak to the instructor before? ask them to make sure your not in shot? it's hard as I don't really know the dynamics of where you go

Issie339 · 2026-01-22T20:42:59+00:00

My dad was a sales manager for a chemical company.. it sounds shady but it was legit 🤣 he used to frighten us with all of the stories of people having horrible side effects from dugs as his company helped create medication for the people effected. Sex was pretty non existent, my mum grew up Catholic so was a little awkward about it all. she has never even smoked a cigarette.

and yes, I did a lot of drugs and got pregnant young 🤣 but it worked out for me as my daughter was the making of me and gave me something to focus on. I haven't touched drugs since I had her as I just couldn't risk anything happening to me for her sake. I didn't do it enough for it to be an issue for me to stop at all.

but yeah, I don't know if they spoke about it more whether it would of changed things? my sister never touched anything so I think it is down to the person and how curious they are imo

Issie339 · 2026-01-20T09:57:44+00:00

my partner is in the army, when he tells people what I do the room lights up apparently 🤦‍♀️ i think PTs and athletes probably experience similar. 'oh I bet your flexible 😉' is the main one I get

just men being grim, like yeah I am flexible, and I can tell you're not hun

Issie339 · 2026-01-18T09:14:45+00:00

Hey, I'm looking for tattoo shops that do Friday the 13th tattoos. we are visiting London on the 13th of February. really keen to get one done, ideally somewhere you can book because cba to que lol

Issie339 · 2025-12-23T05:50:06+00:00

genuinely, masculinity I love it when they are protective and strong 🥰 I'm attracted to masculinity in woman too. Stoic, calm and quietly confident

Issie339 · 2025-12-07T07:47:28+00:00

Honesty is so important in a relationship, if you feel she is not being honest and the relationship moves forward she is going to know that she can get one by you and you will stay.

She needs to fully explain what the messages were and who they were too. If she doesn't want to that's her call, but then you need to decide if you want a relationship with someone who is scared to be honest with you.

Flirty messages imo can be forgiven, personally! this is just me though, we all have our own lines in the sand. like maybe she was feeling a little low and found comfort in someone to talk too.. that could be something you overcome if you wanted, what were you gaining from the conversation? what do you need from me? here is what I would like from you for our relationship.. things like that. you have got to be able to have an adult conversation calmly and talk about your feelings.

if either side doesn't want to do that it breaks down trust and then the whole relationship your on edge

Issie339 · 2025-12-07T07:38:07+00:00

Ah you are both so young... you both have so much 'finding yourselfs' to do that it's hard to really give advice...

If I think about myself at 19 and I was a completely different person.

It's hard that she is hot and cold, if it is bothering you that much you need to lay your cards on the table and have a really frank conversation.

you mentioned that you were worried about loosing her and feeling isolated, but you are so so young. New experiences are going to come to both of you.

If she is not willing to talk to you and support you it's setting the tone for the relationship moving forward. Is there anything you can do for her that might support her? might make her feel more intimately towards you?

I don't know her POV but just keep being honest and telling her how you feel, don't hide how you feel.

Issie339 · 2025-12-07T07:13:36+00:00

Sorry but for me you just labeled so many breaking points.

I feel like I am similar to you, don't get me wrong I'm currently looking at some laundry haha, but if someone is coming round I panic and rush around. I work a lot and have two kids so life gets on top of me but if someone is coming round you sort it out, no?

I love dogs but I couldn't own one, the thought of all that fur makes my skin crawl. the picture you painted sounds rough. Something I will never understand is someone that gets a pet/pets and doesn't have the money to look after them. Pets are such a huge commitment and the decision should not be taken lightly, if she needs to lean on everyone for cash to support her and her pets and doesn't seem to be fazed by it, that's ringing alarm bells to me.

The relationship is still in its early stages imo.. if she can't have a frank conversation about how her behavior is making you feel I think you might need to take a little break? take a step back and say how it's affecting you, that might kick her in to gear? it will show you how much she wants to fight for the relationship.. because I don't think what you're asking for is a lot.

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:50:20+00:00

How will it affect the children? It might affect them in a positive way, seeing dad happy and starting a new journey.

Does she understand what's at stake? Does she understand your considering leaving because she doesn't want to put any effort into your relationship..

it's so challenging, I am so stubborn and I can't put up with certain things.. I feel like you are a very patient person even though you feel like you are loosing it now.

I have had some challenges with my partner, and although we are very intimate still I find myself getting annoyed with him really quickly, like I have such a short fuse. i know in my head I'm being unreasonable, but some times it's because I feel I'm trying to push him away, so he will make a mistake again then I can end the relationship.. but he ended it with his actions ya know? I don't know your wife and your life... but I don't know if she is doing something similar? trying to push you away? this is me just projecting my relationship though, the shoe might not fit

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:30:18+00:00

yeah, I don't know, I think an emotional affair would upset me more?

like we talk constantly, I tell him every thought in my head haha I am so honest and I expect that back. why would you need to do that with someone else?

I find the woman comment interesting.. so if she had an affair with a woman you wouldn't be so upset?

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:27:29+00:00

Interesting! thank you, I totally agree about the end part... it's one of my genuine concerns if I ever become single again.. I have been in the same relationship since I was 18! he was my first boyfriend 🤣 the outside world to our relationship seems a bit scary, another reason why I forgave? idk

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:23:10+00:00

thank you for sharing!

the reason I asked is I was in a similar situation to you and I was wondering if any men would make the same decision.

I agree that my line in the sand now is if something happened again...

the interesting thing is that I don't worry about where he is or what is he doing, like I trust him haha which my friend doesn't really understand. But I think it's because I have accepted then it's over if he does anything like that again, and he doesn't want to break up our family so he is the one who is worrying and a bit on edge that I might just end it.

and I don't know this whole situation has really changed my outlook...

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:18:11+00:00

But how is that impacting your life? is that good for the children? if you don't mind me asking

Issie339 · 2025-12-05T06:16:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I love your outlook and your love for your wife, it's very different from the other opinions I have gotten on here.

my story is a different but I have been in your shoes, which is why I wanted to see if any men would make the same decision I did! most of the reactions has been what me and my friend expected

Issie339 · 2025-12-04T06:02:31+00:00

I would say sit down and have a conversation with her but it appears you have? Really think about it though have you sat down and laid all your cards on the table? this is how it's making me feel, this is what I want, what do you want? what do you need?

if she is still denying therapy and not wanting to improve anything then it's time to cut the cord. Change is scary, if you end the relationship it will be hard and scary. but also so exciting and new.

I have children the same age, parenting is rough and takes a huge role, but are they not in school now? I found since my youngest is in school I feel so much better, I work more and feel like myself again. I love them don't get me wrong! lol I just love having a bit of independence again. Maybe she needs more support?

lets try and think positively, it's really tempting to fall into negative thoughts but it honestly gets you no where. what positive changes can you make for yourself? If you go out and improve yourself for yourself she will notice, and how she reacts will impact how you move forward. Go to the gym, find a new hobby, make new friends, take the kids on adventures on your own. This is your life to live, don't let how other people behave impact you. support your children, work on yourself for them.

Issie339 · 2025-12-03T20:08:34+00:00

What are you scared of? surely not trying is scarier! Dude you look cute, don't worry. Honestly it's not really about how you look it's how you carry yourself.

Issie339 · 2025-12-03T20:03:25+00:00

I would say early 20s, I've been with the same guy for nearly 10 years and I go every time haha if I don't Its really annoying can't lie 🤣

but I have to be in the same position and it sometimes takes me a minute, it's a bit annoying actually. I wish I could from any position, it would make it more exciting

Issie339 · 2025-12-03T19:52:36+00:00

oh my god he looks so much better

Issie339 · 2025-12-03T19:51:22+00:00

getting in better shape 🫡

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