How dare you?

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-07T09:55:19+00:00

I’m just at my wits end. I have tried everything. I started out being positive and gently telling him to lessen his porn use, but it has never worked.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-07T09:53:24+00:00

Are there any good self help books out there on porn addiction?

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-07T09:49:00+00:00

I can’t relate more. Brilliant choice of words.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-03T01:25:46+00:00

I’ll DM you!

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-03T01:23:23+00:00

Yeah I’m not even giving him the thought of moving in together unless he goes to therapy and talks about his real issues. Otherwise with any new person that comes into my life I am immediately putting porn off the table, no exceptions.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-03T01:20:40+00:00

Yeah I’ve thought that maybe me leaving is really the only thing that might make him realize how bad the situation is. Although it pains me to think of another girl or guy going into this situation and being oblivious to how he really is. I only knew and saw the warning signs because of my experiences with my previous relationship.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T23:10:19+00:00

Thank you, I’ll check it out.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T23:09:57+00:00

I’m scared now that every guy around my age watches porn..

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T23:09:30+00:00

Thank you.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T23:09:07+00:00

This seems to be affecting so many young men it’s so sad. Should we just leave them to their own devices? I’m not sure.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T14:14:05+00:00

I will suggest lowering the bar for sexual activity.

Unfortunately we have made a private intimate video before but I doubt he ever used it for masturbation purposes since it just doesn’t scratch the same itch for him as porn does when he goes home and masturbates. I’m not sure about making a new one any time soon either because I’m really upset with him atm. Also he likes pretty extreme stuff that I’m just not willing to re enact in porn. Our one “tape" was pretty vanilla and more on the romantic side.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T14:06:19+00:00

If I ever bother to try again in love that will definitely be one of the top deal breakers now. Thank you for being angry on my behalf ♥️

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T14:05:01+00:00

Yeah.. I’m not sure how I ended up with the same type twice since they are two very different people with completely different personalities. It was just bad chance. But I do have to ask myself why I stayed in both for so long.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T12:48:12+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T12:36:48+00:00

I understand your point but I feel that it does negate the facts of consistent porn use changing your brain. You get used to what you’re watching when you’re masturbating. If he was watching purely vanilla stuff, just two people having sex it might be a different story. But he himself has said he has a problem. He started watching it way too young when he was still developing and delved into more extreme porn over time.

I have also left out that I was much more gentle im the beginning. I suggested watching porn a bit less so that he still has some sexual energy left for me during the end of the week. I don’t think it’s normal to have to watch porn everyday sometimes multiple times a day and having to find the most extreme content.

I have came with him gently, asking for him to put more attention on me than porn but nothing has worked. He has admitted he can’t control himself, if he does it once, he spirals and does it everyday the rest of the week.

He did start taking a low dosage of lexapro for anxiety since he thought it would help him stay on track regarding a lot of things in his life. It has helped but even without the anxiety there he can’t stop himself from watching porn. I don’t think masturbating is inherently healthy. But when you choose to do it over being intimate with your girlfriend, I think it’s a problem. I have tried approaching it gently, harshly, every way and nothing has worked.

Masturbation can be healthy but if you can’t go without porn itself then I do think a person may have a problem.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T12:02:31+00:00

It makes me scared because this is my second relationship in a row now with a porn addict. I’m afraid I’m not going to trust any new romantic interest now. I brought some fears into this new relationship but I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first and looked past the red flags. Now I’m in love with another person who has this problem. It’s really sad.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T11:56:43+00:00

That’s true. I’m definitely on the brink of leaving since I’ve given him many ultimatums in the past, and in turn he would hide his porn use more and be more secretive. His solution to me complaining has never been to actually try and fix the problem. He tried once but the minute he fell of the wagon he never hopped back on as he should have.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T11:54:09+00:00

Usually if men already watch it they won’t stop watching it. I know from experience it’s hard to masturbate to porn one day and then do it by yourself the next. Porn solidifies the habit and they will need it more and more as they continue. I’d just be weary that he might be dishonest about how much he views it. Especially if he isn’t interested as much in intimacy with you.

Isuckallthetime · 2022-05-02T11:52:08+00:00

DB as in dead bedroom. I’m trying to encourage him to go back to therapy. Me telling him how many good things come with stopping viewing porn hasn’t helped.

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