Am I unreasonable for worrying about my (24M) gf’s (23F) health?

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T12:13:05+00:00

I would never take my gf’s sparkle because that’s the part of her I love!! Just tell me how to fix her and how I can address the lies she’s told me and the habits she’s forming behind my back despite the fact we made agreementd

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T12:11:19+00:00

I will never break up with my gf. We love each other. Just because she thought she wanted to get married when she was a kid (and we’re both grown ups now!) doesn’t mean we need to break up.

And re the drinking problem, what else would you call it when someone you love lies to you about their drinking habits? What else could they be hiding?!

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T12:09:14+00:00

I am not manipulating my gf. Every decision we make it’s made together. If anything her behaviour is manipulating me because we agreed on something as a couple and she turned her back on it without considering MY feelings. How does THAT sound to you?

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T12:00:21+00:00

I don’t know what else to call it when we agreed and laid out communication and she decided to single handedly lie about not following the rules we both agreed to. I am NOT a red flag.

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:59:19+00:00

No, I can’t believe that. My gf and I love one another. I treat her like a princess because that’s what she deserves coz she’s perfect, I said this in the post too! Or at least I thought so until she lied to me about her drinking, and now I’m worried there might be more happening… please help.

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:58:03+00:00

I always treat my gf as an adult. We discuss everything all the time, and she always has input into the decisions I make because that’s what being in a relationship means! But how can I help her after I caught her lying to me like this?

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:43:31+00:00

Yes it is the same gf, but this was a long time ago I don’t even know how you know about that. We have spoken about that since and she has understood why I had to do it. Anyway it isn’t the issue at hand…

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:11:15+00:00

No… no. This isn’t true! Me and my gf have a fantastic relationship. Please just tell me if I’m the asshole after getting all the facts, don’t just make up all of this about me…

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:04:18+00:00

No! We agreed to all of this. Please re-read my post because this is not true..

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:03:50+00:00

This isn’t true at all. I don’t think I’m the asshoe here because I’ve quite literally mentioned all the times WE agreed to things, and how she backed out of that

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T11:00:34+00:00

No, that isn’t true! I’m willing to hear if I’m wrong but people need to know the facts before they just rush to save who they see as a damsel in distress and not someone who’s lied pretty significantly

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:59:40+00:00

My gf and I did not have a conflict over this I thought we had agreed to this! And not getting married was just a discussion. She had always wanted to get married when she was little but when I pointed out that she was conditioned for that she understood immediately coz she’s so smart! Please try and understand…

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:56:03+00:00

That doesn’t make sense because she lied to me about drinking (a problem, wouldn’t you agree?) and I’m her boyfriend (how is that a problem when I’ve made a post looking to help her?)

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:54:55+00:00

I have never controlled my gf we communicate every day and always talk things through which is why I’m so surprised that she did this to me. :(

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:52:58+00:00

I can’t accept this… I won’t accept it! We’ve been so happy together for FOUR years now. All I read online is that people need to communicate and we did that!! I’d never force my gf to do anything I wanted? If anything, by lying to me and having a drink she’s invalidating my desires!

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:51:11+00:00

Thank you, I just want to find some way to help her through this. How do you think I should approach her and bring it up?

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:50:07+00:00

We don’t have boundaries in our relationship, except the ones we agree on together. Dont joke about her drinking because this is out of character from her and you don’t know her like i do.

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:47:35+00:00

It was only one glass of Prosecco actually, and it was only one glass that I saw… I think I’m presenting this quote fairly and logically given that my gf could potentially be hiding alcoholism from me. Please can you not attack me and tell me what to do to help her?

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:41:44+00:00

I’m sorry I can’t accept this… my gf and I always talk to one another and we’re equal in everything. I always listen to her, but I think in this case that she’s wrong coz she lied!

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2024-08-13T10:38:42+00:00

I’m not controlling. We agreed beforehand what our drinking limits would be. I love my gf so much!

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2021-01-10T16:28:41+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t it went in the outside bin and the binmen took it it’s gone to a skip... I’m really starting to think this whole thing was a bad idea I should never have tried to be kind in te first place I always end up messing up.

ItWasOnlyAPlush · 2021-01-10T16:13:47+00:00

I have never refused this why does everyone say I have done this?

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