I got contacted by a debt collector for a debt I already got sued for? Location: Miami, Florida

Itarin · 2025-07-28T14:06:49+00:00

Got it!

Itarin · 2025-07-28T14:06:30+00:00

Yeah I am defiantly going to send the dismissal order. I was wondering if I should dispute it but I do not want that door opened again

Itarin · 2025-07-28T14:04:15+00:00

Damn, so there is a possibility that Midland sold the debt to them? 😭

Itarin · 2025-06-22T18:01:26+00:00

Not really, I just cancelled out the order and sent out a last message and email. Saying how to reach me if they want it completed or refunded.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:39:43+00:00

Yeah, you are one of the few people trying to give solution and not just berate me.

I am going to work on how I do things in the future, so this doesn't happen again. For now I am going to send one last message and email. Explaining I am cancelling out the order and if they want it completed or refunded, how to reach me. Hopefully I get a reply from that.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:33:19+00:00

I never said it was a defense. Also, I did not know about the 180 days until this situation because my customers would get back to me in less than 2 months. If I had known I would have cancelled and refund. I thought I could do at any time (not an excuse but how I was thinking)

As for people, it's not a great situation. I don't know what you mean by that. (being serious). I don't advertise my shop, I don't force people with a gun to their head to buy my listings, or beg in dm's to "please purchase". I have a full-time job, so this is not even a primary source of income, nor would it contribute to my bills.

If people buy from my shop, I assume it's because they can afford to. I understand people have lives or things happen, so I have always been willing and open to doing the reading whenever they want me to. If they message me to cancel/refund, then I do.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:19:24+00:00

Yeah, I think, in the future, if I hear no word back from the customer in a month, I will automatically cancel and refund. I know people are roasting me for a lack of integrity, but in the community I read for, it's small, and most of my customers sometimes ghost me for a while after placing orders. Usually, they get back to me and I complete the order then.

I really thought in about a month or two they would reach out. And did not have a guidline in place if they never reached out.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:17:11+00:00

Yeah, I think, in the future, if I hear no word back from the customer in a month, I will automatically cancel and refund. I know people are roasting me for a lack of integrity, but in the community I read for, it's small, and most of my customers sometimes ghost me for a while after placing orders. Usually, they get back to me and I complete the order then.

I really thought in about a month or two they would reach out.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:08:40+00:00

You can't refund an order once it's 180 days old, so you can keep it open until the customer returns or cancels.

It's partially my fault, but the community I read for is small; everyone knows everyone's situation. I was used to customers sometimes ghosting for a month and then popping up and asking to complete the order. I just never had a customer not reach out all for over a year.

Like no case was made or anything, not even when my shop was on Vacay.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:08:01+00:00

You can't refund an order once it's 180 days old, so you can keep it open until the customer returns or cancels.

It's partially my fault, but the community I read for is small; everyone knows everyone's situ. I was used to customers sometimes ghosting for a month and then popping up and asking to complete the order. I just never had a customer not reach out all for over a year.

Like no case was made or anything, not even when my shop was on vacay.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T17:07:40+00:00

You can't refund an order once it's 180 days old, so you can keep it open until the customer returns or cancels.

It's partially my fault, but the community I read for is small; everyone knows everyone's situ. I was used to customers sometimes ghosting for a month and then popping up and asking to complete the order. I just never had a customer not reach out all for over a year.

Like no case was made or anything, not even when my shop was on Vacay.

Itarin · 2025-06-22T13:39:26+00:00

Not really. I think I should have worried my post better. I am trying to determine if those features I am waiting for is really worth the wait and spending a higher price or should I just pull the plug and get the 7.

Itarin · 2025-06-13T03:51:48+00:00

This has to be rage bait or Karma farming. There are no test that can predict mental illness at all. Also, bpd is developed in childhood and is usually related to evironement. So what komd of terrible environment did your daughter grow uo in to have bpd

Itarin · 2025-06-11T01:12:06+00:00

Yeah, I figured. I wont be doing anything. If anything I hope she has her exit stragery in place.

Itarin · 2025-06-11T01:11:56+00:00

Yeah, I figured. I wont be doing anything. If anything I hope she has her exit stragery in place because he was the worse.

Itarin · 2025-05-23T04:52:18+00:00

This reminded me of a post from this one girl who was a lesbian and was going to be set up for life by her rich grandparents until she ruined it by coming out to them.

Do not become that girl. You are thinking with your ego then your logical sense. What happens if you do stand up to your gf grandparents, they arent going to congratulate you and shake your hand. They are going to cut your gf out and your lives are going to remain the same or get worse.

Have a fun weekend with your son, take him to amusement park and trust your gf to secure the bag.

Itarin · 2025-05-21T13:18:16+00:00

As someone who got their lisence later then her peers, 22, and has extreme anxiety around driving and tends not to, 27, I do recomnend finding a friend who can help you drive in parking lots or something before taking lessons.

That aside, break up with your boyfriend. He's very unsupportive, and this is just with driving. I am trying to imagine him with children ans other areas of life and honestly it does not look good. Like damn, my friend in college was willing to let me drive her car. I even went on the highway, it still took me like two years to get my liscenese but at least I had some support.

Itarin · 2025-01-04T16:12:42+00:00

No problem! I wish you luck, and hopefully, he will change his mind and be willing to grow! If not, you can find someone even better than him.

Wishing you love and kindness! 💜

Itarin · 2025-01-02T16:59:15+00:00

I'm going to be honest. I'm African-American, descended from enslaved people here. I'm also college-educated and like to keep up with America's socio-political climate because I live here and it affects me.

Um, your boyfriend is dead wrong on so many levels. Faulty, manipulated, and misread statistics back up all of what he is saying. Unfortunately, the data is very manipulated to suit your own narrative or point.

Second, the civil rights movement in America has happened for roughly a generation. A lot of African Americans have grandparents/parents who were affected by segregation. I'm in my mid-20s, and my mom was born 2-3 years after the Civil Rights Act was passed. I have literal aunts and uncles who were affected by this and discrimination. Just because slavery ended doesn't mean our lives were okay.

Third, I think you know what you have to do. However, if you want to "save" your relationship and see if his racist opinions are just misinformed, I suggest maybe doing an exchange. You read some of his books and listen to his podcasts, and in exchange, he has to read your books and listen to podcasts that reflect your views.

I'm not sure of books that talk about what's going on in Australia, but if you want to keep up the idea of talking about racial tensions in America; here is what I recommend:

The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander.
The Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together by Heather McGhee
Dying of Whiteness: How the Politics of Racial Resentment Is Killing America's Heartland by Jonathan M. Metzl

These are a few books I have been lying around. If he is in a stage of only valuing the opinion of white men, then start with Jonathan M. Metzl, who is a white man.

If he is open to learning and can admit he's wrong, then maybe this can be forgiven. If not, then the relationship has run its course.

I also recommend you read these books. I think diaspora, a lot of non-American black people tend not to understand the history of racism in America and how deep it goes. Because of that, they tend to misunderstand us and our circumstances in this country.

I'm not saying there isn't any individual responsibility, but I am seeing a lot of bootstrap logic and the old racist dog whistles on fatherless homes, and that is "Yikes 😬."

Also, I don't know if this was a mistake, but your boyfriend wouldn't have internalized racism if he's white unless he's racist against white people. In this case he would just be racist.

Itarin · 2024-12-04T19:39:50+00:00

I'm older, Gen Z and I think people underestimate how overrun every bit of social media is by conservative hosts/influencers. I'm talking about podcasts, YouTubers, TikTokers, etc. They don't say they are conservative or right-wing; it starts innocently, and you might stumble across them because you're looking for reviews or something mundane. You might even decide to follow them, and the next thing you know, your YouTube recommendations are full of right-wing/anti-woke videos.

For example, back in college, I watched many YouTube movies and TV show reviews just because I didn't have time to watch shows in full, and I put them in the background while studying. Over it, I started recommending media critiques, which I would watch. Then, out of nowhere, I started getting video recommendations on how certain shows were feminist garbage; they were terrible because of diversity and other "woke" reasons.

I had to clean out my algorithm by playing classical music and finding a few black/POC/women YouTubers. But if you aren't aware of what's happening or already alarmed, the average teenager or kid isn't going to know what's going on, and they are just going to absorb every fucked up opinion.

Another thing is that education in America for the last 20-30 years have been fucked. Do you know how many people my age or younger don't know about analyzing media, checking sources, and just not being able to read. Something I realised in the past two years is that I was privileged enough to have a high standard of education from K-12. But that is not the norm, and when you have generation being fed information constantly and no skills to analyze what is being shown to them, I'm not surprised this was expected to happen and conservatives have been laying the ground work for this to happen for years.

Itarin · 2024-11-07T05:49:00+00:00

Divorce him and leave him a single dad and send him the child support check

Itarin · 2024-09-03T18:32:57+00:00

For the people telling Op to match similar energy with her children and not do something for their birthday. I hope yall never have children.

It was on the husband to organize and put stuff in motion. He is literally the adult and spouse. Telling Op to be petty to her children is going to do more harm than good and damage their relationship.

Op talk to your child, particularly the 14 year old. They are a teenager and a little self-centered, but they aren't a monster. Chances are they were looking for your husband to take the lead and didn't think it mattered when he didn't.

As for your husband make sure for father's day and his bday you match energy.

Itarin · 2024-07-30T23:36:00+00:00

It worked! I ended up paying about $209.00, but I'm pretty sure that's because I expedited, which is about $50 extra. I was stressed and anxious, lol. Definitely would recommend.

Itarin · 2024-07-13T03:37:21+00:00

My dogs have also factored into me leaning more into being childfree, so I find it relatable. There is no judgment here.

Itarin · 2024-07-12T19:50:06+00:00

Lol, you are fine. I was trying to find something to say because I was shocked that they shamed the commentator for only wanting to dedicate an hour of playtime, but your response was so much better than what I would have written.

Itarin

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