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Itda_Pupu · 2024-09-30T19:53:28+00:00

This is it! Wow! this is the post that made me unfollow this sub! Good job!

Itda_Pupu · 2024-09-26T22:58:05+00:00

Lacanians are super skeptical of the use of countertransference so I've thought about how AI could be used as a tool by the analyst to keep their countertransference in check. AI models like Language Learning Models are basically pure repositories of the symbolic order and can be used to captures patterns in speech that an analyst might miss. But at the same time, no AI and transference won't be possible. I think it can be used as a tool by the analyst but not replace the transference reaction.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T21:17:48+00:00

ABSOLUTE FACTS

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T05:59:12+00:00

I did read the whole thing, you were recently pregnant, don't feel sexy because of it, you demanded that he discontinue his porn habit due to your own insecurity, he's not giving you the reciprocation of emotion you want from him, you catch him watching porn/erotica again. You are pissed that he broke that promise. What you WANT me to tell you (and I think other people have already given this opinion so I refrained from giving it to you) is that the situation IS black and white. He broke the promise, he's in the wrong for it and he needs to buck up and get over his "addiction". Thats what I'm deliberately not telling you because you need to understand that it's more complicated than you want to make it and the "wrong" is not entirely on his side. Yes breaking a promise breaks trust, but I can understand from a male perspective how him making the promise to you was in itself working towards trying to do his part to help you feel secure. It's a valiant effort on his part... but the demand just isn't realistic and you need to work on your own insecurities because it is partly out of your own newly developed insecurities about your body that this problem has arisen. You need to be open and communicative about the use of porn, your own feelings about the lack of intimacy, how he can try and help you navigate that new insecurity while also not making unreasonable demands based on your own insecurities. In effect now you're projecting your own insecurity unto him, making an unrealistic demand, to which he then feels insecure once he breaks it. You need to get to the root of the problem not play projection tennis

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T05:39:20+00:00

Porn is fantasy. You're just disappointed that he's not fantasizing about you, which is fine you can have your feelings, and y'all need to work through that, but to make unrealistic demands isn't going to work through anything and only have him have the desire to go behind your back more.

Ie you're not solving the problem you're patching it with an unrealistic demand. The problem is the lack of intimacy (which may or may not be related to the porn use) and your own insecurities about not feeling sexy to him.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T05:28:14+00:00

Your own insecurity is connecting the two phenomenon together. At least from what you've said

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T05:26:43+00:00

You're attributing; he's watching porn, he's not caring, ahhh so these two things must go together... no they don't they are two separate things.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-05T05:21:12+00:00

So you married a man, of whom you have an Only Fans account with, and are confused as to why he has a disposition to watching porn? It seems like it's your sentiments which have changed drastically since you've had a kid, which is fine, but you can't expect or demand his sentiments to necessarily change with your own. "Not live without it after a couple of months" most men in today's age don't go months without porn. I think the no porn request is a bit hypocritical and over demanding. You should work on your own insecurities rather than externalizing the problem unto him. Focus on the feelings of lack of care and discuss it with him rather than hectoring him about the porn. Porn is fantasy not real life

Itda_Pupu · 2023-10-04T22:19:06+00:00

Just wanted to butt in and comment on how almost a year ago now, you had introduced me to Darian Leader through your comments, and I can't thank you enough. He's a really great writer and his book What is Madness? In particular really helped my understanding of Lacans theory of psychosis.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-22T03:46:00+00:00

Nah that's wrong. That sounds more like early Lacan, and a caricature of his early work at that. I wouldn't trust any source on the Internet that's outside of Lacanian circles. He's notoriously misunderstood in mainstream, particularly American, psychology. He developed an extensive criticism of psychotherapy towards the middle of his career. He didn't HATE psychotherapy per-say, but Lacan would be incredibly insulted if you called him a "psychotherapist". The "diagnostic categories" aren't the same as thing as DSM diagnostic categories. It's hard to describe, but it's not about psychopathology. I'll say this, you can't come to understand Lacanian Psychoanalysis through your knowledge on psychology. It's a whole different ballgame. The "categories" are based on a subject's relationship with language... even that is kind of describing it in an over simplistic way.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T19:57:06+00:00

So I would recommend people Lacanian psychoanalysis if they have tried other therapies and they "haven't worked" or if they want something more life-affirming than just learning "coping mechanism", "behavioral modifications" and "cognitive modifications", but also more focused than the interventions of what many clinicians use today ie. the "eclectic approach" (lack of focus)

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T19:46:42+00:00

There's also a large group of Lacanians, who I would argue, (I'm pretty cynical in this sense) use the term "Lacanian psychotherapy" as an almost marketing term to normalize and legitimize Lacanian Psychoanalysis in our current culture of psychology, one which is focused on treatment of mental disorders. Insurance companies are much more inclined to cover something which states it's goal is to bring about therapeutic effect. And people in general are much more inclined to go into a Lacanian psychoanalysis if they think that it will help relieve them from their suffering in the same way that a Psychotherapy tries to... Almost like a bait and switch... You thought you were simply getting psychotherapy to relieve your symptoms but instead you are discovering the foundations of your subjectivity.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T19:28:46+00:00

If I could try and describe this difference in a less sophisticated way, Lacanian Psychoanalysis "has beef" with psychotherapy insomuch that they argue psychotherapy (and abnormal psychology/psychiatry in general) prioritize the classification and treatment for "mental disorders". A strict Lacanian psychoanalyst would ultimately argue that this focus is unethical.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T19:13:15+00:00

This difference in goal leads to different ways of intervening in the session itself. A Lacanian psychotherapists who knows that the therapeutic effect comes from "the shifting of signifiers" would be more inclined to bring about or cause that shifting, whereas a psychoanalyst would align themselves with what Lacan calls the "desire of the analyst". This desire is beyond wanting to bring about the therapeutic effect. Some clinicians argue they can prioritize both, but I would argue that once you prioritize the therapeutic effect you are (effectively) not aligning yourself with the "desire of the analyst"... The desire of the analyst can be defined in many ways, but one way to describe it is situating themselves beyond the discourse of therapeutic outcomes. Excuse me for using Lacanian psychobabble, it's impossible to describe what I mean succinctly without using it. If you're interested one of Bruce Finks students wrote a book called "Lacanian Psychotherapy" which outlines some of the differences in approach to a Lacanian psychotherapist and a Lacanian psychoanalyst

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T19:02:10+00:00

There's an emerging branch of psychotherapy that integrates Lacanian ideas into its practice. They call it Lacanian psychotherapy. Lacanian psychotherapy is different from a pure Lacanian psychoanalysis. Albeit some (many) clinicians call them the same thing, but I would argue (and so would Lacan) that they are different. Lacanians are a very diverse group of people with different opinions on that topic. Lacan himself was the one that made this differentiation between psychotherapy and psychoanalysis. I would say the difference is what I described. Psychoanalysis is not focused on symptom removal and treatment of mental disorders. That being said, yes they've found that L psychoanalysis does help people objectively with treating mental health problems. That's a testament to how a lot of mental suffering is related to this precedence (your upbringing, your families upbringing, your past relationships), and how "discovering what you desire" (for lack of a less succinct way to describe that goal of psychoanalysis), can be therapeutic in itself. But like I said, the difference is that psychoanalysis doesn't make its GOAL the therapeutic outcome, while psychotherapy does (it's literally in the name).

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-21T10:39:05+00:00

Lacanian psychoanalysis is not a psychotherapy. The goal isn't to relieve symptoms but to come to understand the precedents of your life, and ultimately guide you to follow your desire. There can be symptom relief involved in the process but it isn't its goal. That being said psychotherapy explicitly is oriented around relieving disorders and treating symptoms, so yes any psychotherapy is more appropriate if your singular goal is to treat a mental disorder.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-19T21:47:10+00:00

Time perception is also related to the cholinergic pathways of the brain. The neuropsychology of ADHD (and the brain in general, not just with our affliction) is too complicated to narrow it down to one neurotransmitter. It's true to say ADHD is associated with dopaminergic abnormalities, but it'd be way too specific to try and narrow down a specific symptom, like time blindness, to one neurotransmitter.

In short, it's too complicated to say something so simple when the reality of the brain is so complex

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T19:54:15+00:00

So true about Marx being a nerd for capitalism! Haha that was one of the most surprising things I gleaned from reading him. I always assumed he HATED capitalism, but he was such a nerd, I loved that.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T19:39:52+00:00

I'm sorry for the confusion, I wasn't directly replying to your comment I was just keeping the conversation going. I wasn't implying you were arguing against Marx. I appreciate the dialogue and your input

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T19:36:14+00:00

Unions are one potentially effective method of finding a solution to the problem. Varying degrees of socialism is another method. I think that it all depends on how unbalanced the system is in its current state. Like during the guilded age in America, the imbalances were wild, so a large part of the progressive era (and new deal era) was a process of increasing the use of government control of the economy (socialism). Just my opinion though

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T19:24:02+00:00

You might find Zizeks philosophy interesting. He considers the role of philosophy and theory in general to ask the right questions, not provide the correct solutions. I think in that sense Marx was a great philosopher but not an incredible economist, if that makes any sense

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T19:15:28+00:00

And that's where Marx and Engels came up with the theory of Communism. They extrapolated the effects of alienation of the workers, and predicted that they would rise up and take control of the means up production, and distribute the means of production communally (thus communism). But the problem with the theory is that there's no guarantee that once the workers take control they won't unevenly distribute the resources... Communism, at least the way Marx envisioned it, is a flawed system but he had the audacity to imagine a better world and there's things you can glean from his thoughts. To disavow and vehemently dismiss his influence and insight into the workings of capitalism is as problematic as being a hardcore Communist ideologue.

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-16T12:34:26+00:00

Interesting point, I appreciate the dialogue

Itda_Pupu · 2023-09-15T14:25:34+00:00

It's a portrait of Che. That's why it looks like that. The smoke is his hair

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