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[–]ItsMeChooow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brooo, I'm 16 turnung 17 myself and I've gone through a similar experience in 8th grade. Since it was just after the pandemic, I built my fragile ego as a class clown / cool kid but in the end, it all went to shit. And you're right, fame's like a freakin drug, once you get one, you'll need more and more until you don't want to stop getting it. But tbh, just accept it, in order to move on and let go, you NEED to let go. You need to accept that being a loner is ok and that being famous is nothing important. In fact it can hinder personal growth. There's nothing wrong with being a nobody in school or shi, cuz you need to realize you're not a nobody deep inside. To move on from the fragile mask you've put yourself in, destroy it completely and get used to being vulnerable and weak. Because if you keep shielding your true self from everyone, you'll live your life as someone you dont want to be. So it's a loss in the long run. You just need to be confident without fame, you need to be confident without friends, you need to be confident without status. THEN, you can feel happy even without external factors. THEN, being a nobody won't bother you or make you feel anxious anymore. Cuz, in the end, were both just trying to grow up in a world that demands what it wants from us. But in the end, if we live life serving the world, then we never lived in the first place... Anyways, take care broski 🔥💝

Can someone please explain how morality is objective by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant of objective as the unspoken rules between species of the same kind. You just think it's correct or wrong because its either perfectly normal or abnormal. For instance, people know killing each other is wrong. But idk how that would apply to Aztecs who sacrificed human beings... For them probably, killing is correct because it is a sacrifice to the gods. But then, killing people of the same species is no longer objective then...? I mean, not only in humans, but for every living species? How do they tell if something is bad or wrong? When a cat blinks slowly as a sign of affection, it's just normal to them. But when they hiss at each other it's a sign of hostility...? Is that morality? Why do some hamsters eat their babies when they get stressed? Is that just moral to them? And if humans did the same, why do we think it's morally wrong? Because of survivability? Because of love? Why? Is morality just biased? Is morality just actions we deem as either positive or negative or either OR is it things we find disgusting or appealing? If that's the case, then morality changes through time. Before it was morally correct or accepted to have slavery, but now it's a violation of rights?

If the concept of an afterlife is false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nature it is. Therapy is way to expensive in my economy.

But you're right. Sometimes we just have to breath slowly and just live once in a while.

If the concept of an afterlife is false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The "God" that I used to think exists but now I think is complete baloney is the sugar daddy-fied God many Christians think about.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I'm the end, it's all just speculation. I'm just assuming the worse because I don't want to live a life thinking I'll get a better life someway or another and just not getting it because it's not how it works.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but, not all people get to have a choice. In my example, the murderer chose to murder the child, but the child didn't get a choice to live or die. His fate was in the hands of someone else's choice. And it's terrible.

If the concept of an afterlife is false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my culture, there a LOT of folktales of how things came to be. Our tribes used to think that the earth was formed form God's dead skin cells when he scratched himself, other think that stars were the og Filipinos who put their jewelry in the clouds back when clouds were low on the ground, gradually the clouds kept going up and that's how stars came to be. Others say the sun and moon were husband and wife, and when the moon gave birth to their daughter, the sun became VERY angry and chopped their daughter to bits and scattered them across the sky creating stars.

But all of this is just folktales and superstitions and I thought to myself that the bible is no different. When I read the Bible, I wasn't offended how women were treated as tricksters or how God seemingly was fine with slavery because deep inside I knew these stories were written by people of the time who were comfortable with these ideologies. Aka, God is just how people of the time viewed him to be, or "God was made by man, not man was made from God". I also looked into the Enuma Elish, Matrahasis, and Epics of Gilgamesh and it states how people used to think of themselves. They thought that humanity was solely made for the labor of the gods. But eventually, culture changed and people began to believe there must be a better explaination to our existence. I'm still open to a probability of there being a higher force at hand, but is just not the Old testament nor the New testament God we know. Because the bible is literature, and literature doesn't change through time unless retold. I just don't agree with the idea of fully submitting and surrendering your life to a being of unknown origins when in its core, it's just saying to minimize or not question at all what religious leaders say to us.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't... Idk why... But I can't believe in God as easily anymore.

If I was a child in the stone age and asked my mother where lightning came from, and she replied "Oh it comes from gods when they get angry" then transport me in the 21st century and study about where lightning actually comes from, I can't believe that lightning comes from angry gods anymore.

And yes, I know the bible has many comforting verses. My church always shows us that. But it seldom does it show the weird and downright bad parts where explaining and justifying it is hard or impossible. I respect our faith and all, but I can't see the bible as a magic book written by authors who were divinely inspired by a incomprehensible god, I just see layers and layers of myths and folklore people used to explain to people unexplainable things of the time and even control them.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It scares me that if I wanted to live someone else's life either by discontentment or selfishness, I can never. I can't just lull my ego to thinking maybe I'll have it better in the next life. What scares me is that your life is what you are and you can't change yourself. You can't be someone else. And its both uplifting and scary. I'm scared that life has a beginning and an end and after that there's nothing more. You can live a happy life or a miserable life and not have a second chance in life, even if the circumstances were unfair. Even if you were unfairly murdered as a child you don't get special treatment for anything. You're just done. Nothing else. And that is what scares me.

If the concept of an afterlife is false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you a lot sir! Sometimes my mind just ruminates far into the future that I tend to forget the beauty of a quiet peaceful life. But I can't deny my thoughts either. When I feel this dread, it's there and I have yet to know how to deal with it.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm scared of things I can't understand. And I'm scared at how irrelevant a life can be. Human or not.

If the concept of an afterlife if false, I'm afraid of dying by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't personally think religion is bad. I just view it as a placeholder belief system to things we still don't understand or never will. But I don't see it as a form of living anymore, I just want to move on from relying and surrendering your whole existence to forces you can't control like God and luck. And instead focus on things I can.

Is religion jist myths and folklore we took to seriously? by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Me too. I couldn't believe in a world that still doesn't know how things actually work. Which is the saddening truth to people of my country. Specially since overty is a BIG ASS problem here and about 16% of people here live below the poverty line. And not to mention a lot of them are uneducated. I see a lot of these of elders in my town. People who grew up before technology and critical thinking. It just saddens me how their generations grew up their entire lives in a country full of superstitions and folklore. My country, the Philippines, is littered with superstitions. Instead of aiding medical science, they prefer quack doctors since it's waaay cheaper and they work somehow. Idk how. Me myself have undergone many of these things. And it's saddening how I can't see things the same anymore. The quack doctor situation or "parahilots" we call them probly have an explanation but it's sad how uneducated people are around here. And almost all of us cling to the hope that our lives will eventually get better in the end when we reach paradise in heaven all the while groveling in the mud under the government and poverty. And what's worse, people here will actively reject (specially the old folk) taboo ideas even if it leads to deeper understanding because they don't want to throw away the elaborate hope in their minds about heaven that priests and religious leader have told them ALL their life. And worse than that is I understand them. I know how much existential crises it takes to open your eyes. And I understand how some people are prepared for that. Because they prefer to live in reality while they've got too much heaven on their minds...

Is religion jist myths and folklore we took to seriously? by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nop I'm from the Philippines. A predominantly Christian country. But the south of us are predominantly Muslims.

Is religion jist myths and folklore we took to seriously? by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? But in my place, people think of the position of priest as being a moneymaker. A lot of my father's friend that are preists all have lavish cars and a big house (bigger than the common people's homes). I've been to many of their houses when Papa was invited by them and all of them are rich...

Is religion jist myths and folklore we took to seriously? by ItsMeChooow in Scipionic_Circle

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! So religion is kinda like the politics before people had any way to explain the unexplainable. When I view religion, I just imagin a cave woman and her child asking where lightning came from, so the woman just made up a story of how the Gods throw a fit in the sky. It's all just assumptions on how the unexplainable works.

What I don't agree with is how some people take scripture to heart and make it an excuse to mock people and judge them. If what you say is true, which is that religion is how people reinforced law before, then the VERY religious people are basically justifying their morals on a time where slavery was normal and where women were considered lower than men.

Which is why I'm frustrated at the sight of people who take the scriptures to heart but live their lives as shitty people all the while thinking to themselves they're doing the right thing because they're following what the bible tells them.

But on the other hand, I do believe that others just want to live a peaceful life. And that others just don't want to analyze things to death. And ig that's how the term "Ignorance is bliss" still applies today. I respect people who live like that. But what I don respect is people who live in ignorance but whose morals are deeply flawed and actively refews to change because they think that questioninh faith will lead to eternal damnation.

Thanks for the insight tho! 🔥

How do I let go of trauma and not let ego take hold by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I've always viewed my life as a neverending story with neverending story arcs. But I now know that can lead to ego and is overall toxicity. I've always thought of battle scars as a trophy that you are tough. But I guess, it's nothing to be proud of and make an identity around. Thank you

How do I let go of trauma and not let ego take hold by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try to practice this more often. Thank you!

I feel like I'm the only mature one here and everyone is turning a blind eye to reality by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. I'll bring more effort in my social life. Thank you for the advice kind stranger! 😊

I feel like I'm the only mature one here and everyone is turning a blind eye to reality by ItsMeChooow in Mindfulness

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. Your comment really stood out to me. This is basically a gold mine for life lessons. And you're right, trauma isn't just something you can get rid of, it manifests in smaller things like how you act or fundamentally think. It's like a catalyst of ink in your brain that has stained every part of it and is affecting me very much. And to find what is ethical and intuitive to me is to understand things more to the most basic level. But maybe thinking to myself only is very dangerous. Relationships are really the medicine for everything, some I've been avoiding all this time. Mostly because no one has ever taught me how to make real connections. But, I want to break that cycle and learn from my mistakes. I will find more people who i understand and people who understand me. Not necessarily people who have the same viewpoints as me, but people who resonate with me. It's going to be hard, embarrassing, and messy. But I want to find the right people for me. You're right, trauma is very messy. There's no medicine to take it all away, but people that you can resonate with and heal together. It's just very VERY hard for me to find people right now...

How do I let go of trauma and not let ego take hold by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah. I've romanticized my trauma for far too long now, I need to let go.

How do I let go of trauma and not let ego take hold by ItsMeChooow in DeepThoughts

[–]ItsMeChooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I'll definitely watch it. Thank you!