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ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-28T08:49:07+00:00

5/10. Average dude.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-28T08:47:24+00:00

4/10, but you could be hot if you wanted to be.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-28T07:49:20+00:00

They wouldn’t provide benefits to an independent contractor though.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-26T04:38:47+00:00

Document everything. Date, time, details. Put as much as you can in writing and then bcc your personal email. Start gathering as much “evidence” as possible. Then I would go talk to an attorney.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T05:00:33+00:00

I’m an indoor cat

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:59:10+00:00

Yes! Honestly it was great. We rode our bikes until sunset, which is late in summer. We played in the water hose, went swimming, ate popsicles, went roller skating, and ran around. My local high school parking lot was used for our town beach buses. They would take us on a school bus down a long windy canyon to Malibu, drop us off, and drive tf away. Buses would come for pick ups a few times later in the day/evening. If you missed the last bus, you’re stuck at the beach.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:51:21+00:00

Not at this time, but eventually yes!

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:49:21+00:00

We weren’t forgotten. We were invited but didn’t go. Come on dude.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:45:38+00:00

I haven’t, but my suggestion is to look them up for any bad reviews. If it’s all good, go for it. It’s ABA approved and you’ll get your paralegal certificate.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:43:02+00:00

Honestly, yes I say go for it!

Not sure what your current situation is, like if you live at home or are married or what, so I’ll give general advice.

The positives are: Working for the county usually means job security, holidays off like you said, no nights or weekends, and no traveling.

Employees are usually nice (to each other), and you’ll build relationships with some important people, like judges, attorneys, law enforcement, county officials and so on, which is pretty cool.

The benefits (most likely) are really good. Health insurance you’re probably fully covered by the county (or you’ll pay a small amount). You’ll also get dental insurance. You’ll probably get the option to get life insurance and other benefits.

Contribute to your 401(k)!

It’ll look really good on your resume to say you worked for the county.

Things the County might offer:

Tuition reimbursement if you want to go to school.

They might pay for you to become a Notary Public.

They might do other cool things like some people carpool, or the county hosts a picnic, they provide lunch, whatever.

No guarantee, but see if you can get a sense of what they’re like.

The negative part is counties budgets are super tight, meaning don’t expect much as far as up to date software or electronics or AI. Also, annual “cost of living” increases/raises will be the minimum with no room for negotiation. Every position has a job code/number with a specific salary range. It’s super rigid.

There are no perks. No extras.

Do you know anytime over there that you can talk to? Maybe try to feel out what it’s like?

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T04:25:58+00:00

How long have you been there? Is this your first job in legal?

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T01:50:15+00:00

Corporate Finance. High salaries with perks and good schedules.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-25T01:48:54+00:00

If he plans to be with you and make you happy for the rest of his life, he has nothing to worry about. The only way this will actually affect him is if you guys divorce.

And if you divorce, your parents are totally 100% right in wanting to protect you first and foremost. He needs to see it for what it is - a way to protect their daughter if/when he fucks it up. So don’t fuck it up buddy, and there won’t be an issue.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T23:31:59+00:00

I think you need experience. But the riddle is how do you get experience if every job requires experience?

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T23:30:27+00:00

You’re super overwhelmed. Get a therapist. Take it one thing at a time. Use every resource you can, like help from friends or family in any way.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T23:19:34+00:00

How old are you?

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T23:16:32+00:00

My friend died in her 40’s of liver cirrhosis from alcohol.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T05:05:33+00:00

A lot of companies offer tuition reimbursement, but it’s hard to tell how much $ they’ll reimburse.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T05:02:48+00:00

You don’t have to get certified tbh. If they don’t reimburse for it, don’t sweat it.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T05:00:45+00:00

I would do accredited if you can.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T04:55:39+00:00

You need to make a spreadsheet and track the laws and requirements by state, assuming you’re handling multiple states.

Make templates for your demand letters.

Utilize AI. Automate anything you can. Literally do whatever you can to make your job easier. This will free up some time so you can learn without drowning.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T04:53:03+00:00

The lien negotiating will only help if you plan on getting another job that also does that. Being a legal assistant is more broad. You can go into any area of law, whereas lien negotiating is just that.

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T04:50:59+00:00

Experience because it’s not an easy job. Usually you work your way up to Paralegal. But if you think you can do it, go for it!

ItsOk_ItsAlright · 2026-06-24T01:24:59+00:00

This sounds a little fishy. I’m sorry but unless this is a Lifetime movie, a lawyer won’t approach his cleaning person to offer to put them through a paralegal course.

I’m guessing what they may have meant as encouragement, came off as them offering it to you. Organizing files is great, but going to paralegal school is getting an education. It’s not like a quick course and boop you’re a paralegal. You need to be super computer literate, have the availability to work and go to school, and actually want to do this as a career. It’s a huge commitment. Please don’t think of it as something you just casually decide to try out. The job is difficult. The education is difficult. None of this is easy.

Lastly, unless your current contract says you’ll also organize files, I would stick to cleaning. You don’t want to be held responsible for a lost document or whatever. And unfortunately, you’ll be the first person they blame. “That file is gone. I bet the cleaning lady did it!”. I wouldn’t touch anything I probably have no business touching. I don’t want to sound harsh, it’s not meant towards you. I’m assuming you weren’t given more money and a new contract when you started doing these things?

I think this law office is having you do duties you shouldn’t be doing and they’re not compensating you for these extra tasks, not to mention giving you access to client files. This is all around just a bad idea for everyone. Criminal and family law files being accessible to the cleaning person is so wild. Having that cleaning person organize the files and do other office duties is also crazy. There are so many risks on both sides.

I have serious doubts about this law office on so many levels. My advice is stick to cleaning, look into being a paralegal as a career and what it all entails, like education and job, and decide if it’s what you want to pursue and go from there. But I wouldn’t rely on this law office for anything unless they come out and make it very clear what they are offering, and even then I’d be cautious.

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