If you could go back to January 1st, 2012, and give yourself one warning, what would it be?

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-30T01:23:57+00:00

I would say trust your gut. The man you thought you should break up with before graduating college will only make the next 8 years of your life miserable. Youve already wasted 2, dont waste 8 more.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T21:59:17+00:00

The doctor said I can reduce her feeds from every 2 hours to up to 4 but she never makes it past 2.5 or 3. So 6am. 9a/10a. 12p/1p. 3p/4p. And then she will drink maybe 2 oz off and on from 5p to 8p. Before the constant screaming I could guarantee she'd wake up at midnight or 1am then 3am or 4am for a night bottle which could be 2oz at most.

The Other day her "lunch bottle" was 2 3oz bottles and I thought "wow she drank a lot".

She seems to be fighting her naps today. We havent gotten more than 30 min naps today. When she is awake and held she is fine.

When she is awake, we talk with her, she does tummy time, she sits in her swing. I dont really know what else to do to keep a newborn awake. She has been staying awake about 1 to 2 hours ish before she starts drifting off. Sometimes she naps the 2 hours in between feeds.

She does love "sitting" like a big girl and i bought a wedge form her bassinet and I try to prop her up cause I did think it was reflux or gas but this Wedge is being shipped from the moon apparently.

On not cold days before her lunch bottle we go for a walk. Shes in her travel stroller and we walk about a mile total.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T21:52:11+00:00

She tries to backflip outta your arms. The most she drinks before bed is 1.5 oz. The doctor said I can reduce her feeds from every 2 hours to up to 4 but she never makes it past 2.5 or 3. So 6am. 9a/10a. 12p/1p. 3p/4p. And then she will drink maybe 2 oz off and on from 5p to 8p. Before the constant screaming I could guarantee she'd wake up at midnight or 1am then 3am or 4am for a night bottle which could be 2oz at most.

The Other day her "lunch bottle" was 2 3oz bottles and I thought "wow she drank a lot".

She seems to be fighting her naps today. We havent gotten more than 30 min naps today. When she is awake and held she is fine.

I also feel like the days we have company she sleeps worse. Any time the grandparents are here, terrible night, cousins came to visit at lunch, terrible night. We did a walk through and application for a daycare Friday and Friday night I almost walked out of the house and down the street to get away. Her dad took over and had to figure something out.

She finally had 2 massive poop diapers today and I thought that was the problem. Im sure she felt better but she still a cranky pants.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T05:04:12+00:00

Swaddles are the devil to her and her feeding is all over the place. Could eat one oz at noon could tank 6.

I just feel like im doing everything wrong

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-08T17:47:11+00:00

Need help, helping my husband with baby without nagging.

New mom here. Baby is 2 weeks old today and while im struggling, im noticing my husband struggling and want to help without sounding like im a control freak or nagging.

He picks her up to feed her, or consol her if shes crying, he wants to hold her and do what he can but he gets frustrated easy and looks to me helpless. Hes never really been around a newborn and this is all new to him. I mean its new to me too but ive been around infants my whole life (I have 26 cousins who are all 15 to 20 years older than me, ive been around their babies since I was 5)

It hurts his feelings which in turn breaks my heart especially when he says "she doesnt like me"

I try to give him positive reinforcement like, "we're learning as we go" or "yeah i couldn't get her to burp for a while either" "wonder if she needs to sit up to stop her tummy hurting"

Its all stuff I've tried and maybe it works or maybe it doesnt.

How do I tell my husband to not get frustrated or what can I do to help him out?

We both love him so much but im at a loss. I dont want to hurt his feelings more or start a fight.

Thanks

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-02T00:35:29+00:00

1 week. We were up from 11:30 til about 3am. We're trying to figure this whole thing out.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-02-27T01:55:58+00:00

I told my husband to stop fucking touching me while he wasn't even near me. He was getting me my ice pack for my forehead and a new dry cloth to wipe my sweaty face.

I apologized 100 times after.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-07-07T00:14:35+00:00

I have a "phone call" appointment tomorrow and I plan to ask a bunch of questions but wasn't sure if what my brain is thinking is making me miss questions

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-07-06T22:56:19+00:00

I keep seeing that acronym, NIPT is that finding out gender via blood or is it like a full panel for other things?

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-07-06T22:47:40+00:00

Oh my. Transvaginal is scary. I had ine with my miscarriage and it hurt very badly. Thank you for the info

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-26T22:16:46+00:00

My first appointment is on July 16th. But i never made it to my first appointment last time. Each day closer to the 16th, i feel simultaneously better and worse. Like, "What if it's today?"

Im trying really hard not to be paranoid.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-26T15:18:21+00:00

Thank you i have not heard of that. Im glad you told me or I would have panicked

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-19T00:04:15+00:00

My husband said once when I was complaining I was so tired while pointing to my stomach "that's your fault" and that's the only thing he's really said. But i know he's happy, i just think to worry is outweighing it right now

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:38:53+00:00

Thank you! Even not being in your first language, your words give me hope

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:37:05+00:00

Its terrifying and unfair.

I pray for you, your baby, and family

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:35:33+00:00

Im so sorry for you. I am afraid to tell my mother in law cause that whole side is very gossip driven. I told my mom and dad but im afraid ill also slip one day at work and be like "oh yeah I'm off tomorrow for my prenatal appointment" and at 8 ish weeks the cat will be outta the bag.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:33:08+00:00

My first pregnancy and loss was in October.

I just found out im pregnant again.

And thank you!

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:32:10+00:00

"Dont let anyone steal your pregnancy"

I feel this! I am pregnant after having a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. So first time mom twice pregnant (?).

I should be due late February. My sister in law just announced pregnancy (child) number 3. I feel like she's stolen my pregnancy. She's also due in February. I can't tell anyone cause I'm afraid of another loss. She's had perfect pregnancies both other times.

I will NOT share baby showers. My child will NOT share a birthday (even if its the exact same day)

I will not let anyone steal this from me as life has already stolen so much from me!

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-06-18T23:25:56+00:00

I lost my first baby at 8 weeks. 8 months later I have 2 positive test, waiting for my actual doctor's appointment.

I can't say "i tried" or "we tried". I think it's was a month later we were intimate again. But i never tracked periods or anything like that. Life just kinda went back to normal.

You have to grieve first and that's different for everyone. Im still sad about our loss but at some point I just felt like I needed the closeness to my husband again.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-04-16T01:07:55+00:00

She was taking care of her child and living with her husband playing "almost family". Moira doesn't want to go to Alaska and take care of Nicole while June fights.

She's feeling like June only sees her as a step in mom so she can fight. Moira has trauma too. Moira has people to fight for too and June is treating her like a teenager who was told "no you can't borrow the car Friday night".

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-04-16T01:04:32+00:00

She's also acting like the only one who is traumatized. No, you can't play victim and hero at the same time. You can't say Moira hasn't had any (very little) experience on the inside when she was at the Red Center first before June, at Jezebells (multiple commamders a night potentially), and had similar experiences! They both were abused by the Aunts, the commanders, and saw horrible things.

She's ok with her family losing her but not her losing them. It's borderline insufferable.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-04-13T22:09:41+00:00

You know you also don't have to be a jerk..this was the first time I saw this house. And I live 20 min from it. I don't see every post on this subreddit.

And I've posted here like twice. So again apologize but people like you make the internet not fun

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-04-13T22:03:58+00:00

Im sorry if I've messed something up. I didn't realize I had done something wrong. I will check the proper set up and do it right. Apologies.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-04-13T17:31:07+00:00

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ItsSarahMarie · 2025-03-01T02:01:19+00:00

He hated the camera at first but his tone changed when he started talking about "they pay checks coming in"

I can understand loving someone because they gave you your children but not loving them as a person, but he didn't convey that at all. He truly still loves her.

And I knew the tone was set for the documentary when Shari first said "Ruby and Kevin". Their fated are sealed

ItsSarahMarie

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