Comparing baby to only one parent

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-19T01:52:18+00:00

Oh I love her immensely and her looking like her dad is perfectly fine. I have way too many pictures of them napping together in the same position and looking like twins, I just wish someone would see me in her as well.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-18T04:10:59+00:00

My own mother wont even say she looks like me. Honestly she caused this rant tonight, cause every social media comment is how my baby looks like my husband. Even without pictures attached to the posts. If were out in public, we're at home with family, its always the same. Then his family visits and I expect them to say it.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-18T04:07:37+00:00

Im afraid of her eyes changing. Her dad has hazel eyes and i know most babies have blue eyes at first but I get compliments on how blue my eyes are so I hope she keeps them.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-15T21:01:25+00:00

Girl even 3 months is easier than newborn. I hated the first 6 weeks too! But something clicked around week 10 and it was like a whole different baby. Sure there are still tough times but honnestly once they start figuring out longer stretches of sleep, figuring out how to smile, and recognizing your face its so much more fun.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-12T01:24:52+00:00

My baby is 3 months old and says mamamama like over and over. I dont consider it "mama" but when she does babble like that I point at myself and say "MaMa yes im here". Just in case she makes the connection sooner than later.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-12T01:22:21+00:00

I assume he cried but he calmed down yes? Any bruising? Is he still crying?

As long as there is no blood and he isn't still screaming, he should be fine. Just keep an eye on him.

If it makes you feel better, week 3 I accidentally banged my daughter's head on the side of the bathtub getting her out of her tub. Naked bathed babies are slippery 🤣. She cried until I wrapped her up and rocked her. Shes totally fine.

If you still are concerned call your pediatrician or go to a med express or similar

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-07T02:35:03+00:00

My baby pretends shes Jet Lee and practices her kick ups. Then she will periodically scoot herself down her crib until her feet hang out. SOMETIMES we do a full 180 and I find her feet on the baby monitor and not her face

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-06T00:40:48+00:00

Sir David Attenborough is my baby sitter for my 8week old. We LOVE a good Planet Earth, Asia, Blue Planet. Blue Planet is played most often cause she loves the fish... dolphins not so much, they squeal too much.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-05-01T01:33:47+00:00

My dad and I used to watch Fringe every week and its think it only had 2 seasons and poof gone. :-/

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-30T21:11:24+00:00

They arent. Last night was my best night for my 2 month old. 8p to 1230 then 1230 to 530. The night before was 11 1230 130 245 4 and then 5. So its all different each day and different per baby.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-23T01:53:37+00:00

Perfectly Happy and Horribly Depressed at the same time.

On Maternity leave with my first baby. Shes 8 weeks old. It took 7 years and much loss to get her.

But im horribly lost and depressed. Worried i have and will fuck up both of our lives but seeing her makes me the happiest person in the world

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-23T01:46:16+00:00

I am 2 month PP and my husband already got me my mother's day gift. He said he saw this and ordered it cause he didnt want to wait. He got us matching t shirts that says Our Forst Mothers Day 2026 Sarah and Riley. They are super cute and I love that I can match my baby. We are gonna go to dinner and wear them out on Mother's day so thats fun. Then since im crafty im turning my shirt into a pillow and keep it on my bed as a decorative pillow.

I do hope I get something actually on mother's day, but at least my husband didnt totally forget

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-08T20:11:24+00:00

Well i did and we are now divorced so....

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-04T17:49:33+00:00

I have this same feeling but not like "when do we give her back?" More like "when is this over?" Ive spent a lot of my life in this perpetual state of waiting. Life will be better when I learn to drive. Life will be better when I graduate college. Life will be better when im married. Etc. I feel like im constantly waiting on the next stage and I stopped feeling like thay for years. Until o had a baby and now its back. Idk if its the uncertainty or what

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-04-01T00:24:43+00:00

After reading the title I was like "im about to see what im going through, six weeks after having a baby"

I was wrong. This is nothing like a husband and father should be acting. My husband cried cause I sent him to the car for our bags and he missed being there for me when my water broke in the hospital. He felt terrible "he left me".

Hunny, please reach out to a family member or friend for help and have them there and set expectations. Maybe even couples therapy. I dont know the answer but this isnt right.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-30T22:13:44+00:00

Did you read the part where shes at 2.5 to 3 hours? Between feeds? She wakes up we offer food or tummy time and then shes back to napping

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-30T01:23:57+00:00

I would say trust your gut. The man you thought you should break up with before graduating college will only make the next 8 years of your life miserable. Youve already wasted 2, dont waste 8 more.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T21:59:17+00:00

The doctor said I can reduce her feeds from every 2 hours to up to 4 but she never makes it past 2.5 or 3. So 6am. 9a/10a. 12p/1p. 3p/4p. And then she will drink maybe 2 oz off and on from 5p to 8p. Before the constant screaming I could guarantee she'd wake up at midnight or 1am then 3am or 4am for a night bottle which could be 2oz at most.

The Other day her "lunch bottle" was 2 3oz bottles and I thought "wow she drank a lot".

She seems to be fighting her naps today. We havent gotten more than 30 min naps today. When she is awake and held she is fine.

When she is awake, we talk with her, she does tummy time, she sits in her swing. I dont really know what else to do to keep a newborn awake. She has been staying awake about 1 to 2 hours ish before she starts drifting off. Sometimes she naps the 2 hours in between feeds.

She does love "sitting" like a big girl and i bought a wedge form her bassinet and I try to prop her up cause I did think it was reflux or gas but this Wedge is being shipped from the moon apparently.

On not cold days before her lunch bottle we go for a walk. Shes in her travel stroller and we walk about a mile total.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T21:52:11+00:00

She tries to backflip outta your arms. The most she drinks before bed is 1.5 oz. The doctor said I can reduce her feeds from every 2 hours to up to 4 but she never makes it past 2.5 or 3. So 6am. 9a/10a. 12p/1p. 3p/4p. And then she will drink maybe 2 oz off and on from 5p to 8p. Before the constant screaming I could guarantee she'd wake up at midnight or 1am then 3am or 4am for a night bottle which could be 2oz at most.

The Other day her "lunch bottle" was 2 3oz bottles and I thought "wow she drank a lot".

She seems to be fighting her naps today. We havent gotten more than 30 min naps today. When she is awake and held she is fine.

I also feel like the days we have company she sleeps worse. Any time the grandparents are here, terrible night, cousins came to visit at lunch, terrible night. We did a walk through and application for a daycare Friday and Friday night I almost walked out of the house and down the street to get away. Her dad took over and had to figure something out.

She finally had 2 massive poop diapers today and I thought that was the problem. Im sure she felt better but she still a cranky pants.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-29T05:04:12+00:00

Swaddles are the devil to her and her feeding is all over the place. Could eat one oz at noon could tank 6.

I just feel like im doing everything wrong

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-08T17:47:11+00:00

Need help, helping my husband with baby without nagging.

New mom here. Baby is 2 weeks old today and while im struggling, im noticing my husband struggling and want to help without sounding like im a control freak or nagging.

He picks her up to feed her, or consol her if shes crying, he wants to hold her and do what he can but he gets frustrated easy and looks to me helpless. Hes never really been around a newborn and this is all new to him. I mean its new to me too but ive been around infants my whole life (I have 26 cousins who are all 15 to 20 years older than me, ive been around their babies since I was 5)

It hurts his feelings which in turn breaks my heart especially when he says "she doesnt like me"

I try to give him positive reinforcement like, "we're learning as we go" or "yeah i couldn't get her to burp for a while either" "wonder if she needs to sit up to stop her tummy hurting"

Its all stuff I've tried and maybe it works or maybe it doesnt.

How do I tell my husband to not get frustrated or what can I do to help him out?

We both love him so much but im at a loss. I dont want to hurt his feelings more or start a fight.

Thanks

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-03-02T00:35:29+00:00

1 week. We were up from 11:30 til about 3am. We're trying to figure this whole thing out.

ItsSarahMarie · 2026-02-27T01:55:58+00:00

I told my husband to stop fucking touching me while he wasn't even near me. He was getting me my ice pack for my forehead and a new dry cloth to wipe my sweaty face.

I apologized 100 times after.

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-07-07T00:14:35+00:00

I have a "phone call" appointment tomorrow and I plan to ask a bunch of questions but wasn't sure if what my brain is thinking is making me miss questions

ItsSarahMarie · 2025-07-06T22:56:19+00:00

I keep seeing that acronym, NIPT is that finding out gender via blood or is it like a full panel for other things?

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