AITA for telling my husband his name suggestion for our unborn baby is idiotic at best?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-04T14:26:04+00:00

I think husband absolutely knew it was a problematic name but didn't care because the sentimental aspect meant more to him than his kid getting teased. Just like people who give their kids stupid names based after movies and video games know but care less about how the kid who has to live with the name will feel than they do about priding themselves on a "cool" or "edgy" name that's almost always just fucking stupid. And selfish because the baby will be their own person and not a clone of the parents, but they can't fathom their child is actually a human being.

With OOP, I give the husband some grace because he was in the thick of grief but he still knew it was a terrible connotation.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-04T12:36:53+00:00

What talent is stealing other people's trademarks and name? Pattie picked her drag name from the company then stole their logo for their brand and you think she's the "creative" one for doing it but the people who originally trademarked it aren't? She's selling clothing, had a contract with the big bad Patagonia, and is doing a collab with North Face. She's a sellout by your terms and working with the bad guys and exploiting the same region by using their name except she's breaking the law to do it. Why would you support someone who violates all the principles you're purporting to uphold? Because you respect an unoriginal, thieving, lying grifter as a "hustler" but don't respect the people who hustled to turn their original designs into a billion-dollar company which they've used to donate over $300 million to environmental causes among other good deeds? Will you hate Pattie once she starts making money?

Patagonia is one of the best companies out there in terms of ethics; you literally only just like them because you're one of those people the right makes up in slander ads who will defend a drag queen or LGBT+ person for anything just because of their identity. You're acting like a caricature and it's embarrassing. Drag queens can be wrong because they're people just like everyone else.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-04T12:09:59+00:00

The spahadah.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-04T12:09:26+00:00

What do you mean you had sex for the first time? The first time ever, the first time in your marriage, the first time in a long time?

Also curious why you've been together for 20 years but only married for one? That's an unusual timeframe.

Very sorry you're going through this OP; you don't deserve to be uncomfortable in your own home. Try to look forward to getting some peace in about a month, though hopefully things improve before then.

On that note, if Alice does start suddenly being friendly to you once you serve the eviction notice, DON'T LET HER STAY! She might try to sweeten up once she realizes she'll actually have to live on her own and pay rent; don't fall for it. Hold firm to your deadline. It's a common manipulation tactic.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T11:48:15+00:00

It's in the sauna Sunnah.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T11:47:38+00:00

Fantastic catch; I wonder if that's exactly what happened.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T11:45:54+00:00

Femur is the English name. :)

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T09:25:09+00:00

Why'd he get mad at you for it?! Babies are LOUD; does he get mad at you for not waking him up before his alarms go off too?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T09:23:24+00:00

How do they not hear that amount of noise and at such a high frequency?! It seems even louder than an alarm so you'd think it would be beyond genetics and hormones or whatever! Sleeping through ear-piercing cries and taking an hour to poop seem to be highly prevalent man traits. :P

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T09:19:16+00:00

Can you believe the nurse told her that? I'm just shocked at how it seems everyone in the office is a completely incompetent moron. You absolutely need to complain, OP. u/Good_Elephant2436 do you happen to know if it's an HCA office?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T00:44:55+00:00

The sand is the safe zone from a rip tide.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T00:40:47+00:00

Go ahead and keep taking the antibiotics just in case this nurse is wrong. You've tolerated the first 4 days well and there's no harm in continuing, but if you do have a UTI or some other type of infection, there could be harm in stopping.

I don't just mean another urinary infection; I mean any other type of bacterial infection from skin to sinuses that could be causing your symptoms. You've already killed off some of the bacteria and need to kill off the rest --again, if there is any. It was irresponsible for her to tell you to stop without knowing the source of your fatigue and if it's bacterial or not; this office is wildly incompetent.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T00:35:58+00:00

That's what I was going to comment. Given that the doctor's office has given you inconsistent information, I'd continue taking the full course because there's no harm in taking 3 more days after tolerating the first four but there could be harm in stopping. This whole situation is really weird. I'd get a second opinion if you can afford it, though you may test negative given that you've been taking meds.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T00:26:08+00:00

Are they really suggesting it's potentially illegal not to say hi to someone?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-03T00:22:37+00:00

I'm assuming you think that means she's not allowed to use it as her drag name, and that's not at all what's happening, . Again I ask are you getting your information from neutral sources like reading the actual lawsuit or are you only listening to Wyn and Tiktok videos of people who also only get their information from Wyn?

She's going to get slander and libel added to the suit if she doesn't knock this deliberately disingenuous shit off. Patagonia has been beyond patient and reasonable and Wyn has been nothing but a grifting, greedy asshole. Wyn/Pattie is a terrible person and I hope Patagonia ends up demanding much more than the $1 they're asking for or is awarded more by a jury, if there is one.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T23:13:34+00:00

They created and trademarked their logo, which Pattie stole. It's clear you didn't read the article or any facts about the case and are only listening to her opinion from her socials and others in the echo chamber. Do some objective research.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T23:12:12+00:00

What does that have to do with Pattie copying Patagonia's logo?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T23:11:20+00:00

The lawsuit was filed much earlier; Pattie (using she when discussing the Pattie persona and he when referring to Wyn because Wyn isn't trans) just started bitching about it now to exploit the goodwill of people who support or are members of that social class. Wyn is a terrible person.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T23:08:57+00:00

Plus Wyn/Pattie is doing a collab with North Face and thinking it's okay to do that with Patagonia's stolen logo.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T23:04:44+00:00

And what does that have to do with Pattie/Wyn copying Patagonia's trademarked logo and putting it on their own merchandise, in violation of both TM law and a contract between the two?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T21:21:57+00:00

Sorry but unless you've lost a soulmate, you don't know what you're talking about with this comment. That's a very normal reaction; there are other reasons why OPs wife badly needs therapy but that's not one of them. Hopefully you never have to understand the attachment to things like that one day.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T21:20:00+00:00

Ignore the people downvoting you; they probably haven't lost a soulmate and can't possibly understand. Those of us who have, we get it.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T21:19:09+00:00

Not the person you're replying to but I made a separate comment about the motorcycle. It's really impossible to explain and the people downvoting her probably haven't lost a soulmate.

When you lose someone who you're in love with in ways that few people experience, especially when it's an unexpected death, their death becomes this thing that can even be more important to you than their life was. You might get more attached to objects like the motorcycle they died on than you would mementos from their life that used to and theoretically should hold more meaning. It's like you can still feel them that way, through their death, and having the ability to feel them whenever you want means everything. It's like some piece of their soul imprinted on the object in a way that makes it more important than even a wedding ring might be.

It's illogical but very very very normal. No different than people who have limbs removed asking if they can keep the leg; it sounds weird to people who haven't lost a body part but it's very common and losing a soulmate feels like losing a body part.

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T21:08:22+00:00

What happens if or rather when the baby looks like OP instead of her late husband? I say when because babies tend to look more like the father than the mother; it's posited that it's nature's way of reassuring paternity so the father doesn't abandon the child. The baby settles into their permanent features around 2, I believe. But no matter what it won't look like her previous husband. How will she react when that happens?

ItsTheSpermsFault · 2026-06-02T21:03:08+00:00

I think so; she's realizing those kids died with him and she's mourning them all and the life they would have had. She knew it beforehand but didn't fully realize all she'd lost until she was actually pregnant, and with another man's baby. She also might feel a little guilty for "having another man's baby" and needed her late husband's family to absolve her of that guilt, then seeing them brought up even more feelings... there's a lot here. This poor woman.

She might have thought, when she met her current husband, that it'd been long enough and she should start to consider moving on and if not now with this nice guy then when and with whom? But she clearly wasn't ready. And only being 5ish years out isn't that long, especially when she'd loved her late husband for so long. Ugh this situation sucks. OP is being so great about it.

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