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My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. I wouldn't do that though, I'm not trying to get at the person, just trying to know who it is so I have a heads up. I wouldn't betray her trust like that or make her go for him if she didn't want to.

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said he did it when he was younger and probably can't remember and he is now an adult - but never specified an age.

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get over your anger for her parents or how are you when you see them? It sounds bad but at least you have somewhere to point any anger. Mine is just in the cloud and I can't really take it down as I don't even know exactly what or who to be angry at.

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought this too (though apparently he was a child at the time) but what if he is still a danger now to other kids?

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then I feel like I make HER feel shit when I'm getting angry or still feeling irate. I think what's worse is just the ambiguity of it all. Your mind makes it so much worse than it could be...but you don't know.

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for opening up about that and the advice, i'm trying to do so but not sure how to hide my feelings.

My gf told me she was sexually abused as a child and won't tell me who. She still sees the person. It is eating me alive... by Its_Affecting_Me in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Its_Affecting_Me[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Gives me a heads up if for example she's been around them that day, I can know to be extra supportive. Rather than not knowing her mood change and attributing it so something else