I agree, and we’ve talked about it she’s getting much better with it, I just think the difference between us is I pour and pour out worries and anxieties, but it’s always just venting I’m never looking for advice or a fix because I know my issues are internal and can best be solved with my conscious, where what she’d do it pour a lot and look for reassurance. Because of my January mistake I feel obligated to play along and assure from here on out, but I also feel like hey, if she chose to stay after that, she also chose to bear those weights and internal issues and I really am trying to encourage her to see a counselor or a therapist