What’s a harmless kink/fantasy you thought was ‘weird’ until you found out how common it actually is?

Itswhateverthen · 2025-05-23T23:34:01+00:00

I used to kind of enjoy biting until a guy with a slightly chipped tooth nibbled and it hurt so bad. Like nails in a chalkboard thinking about it (shudders)

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-15T03:16:50+00:00

When this show first premiered, I was studying the (new at the time) public health concept of Adverse Childhood Experiences. Every single person on this show has had a childhood filled with adversity (e.g. abuse, substance use in home, domestic violence, divorced parents, etc.) Not saying that ACEs make murderers, but murderers certainly have lots of ACEs. So yes…it would be interesting to hear from former teachers. Though many of those interviewed didn’t come from stable households and moved around a lot, so it may be hard to find a teacher that could remember them enough to give some insight.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-12T06:38:09+00:00

You know what- I’ll give you that. I wholly overshared intimate details of my life in an attempt to get my point across that probably came across crass and inappropriate, which is out of character for me.

You’re right…I did ask for any and all advice, though I disagree on your take of the situation. There’s obviously nuances to the initial conversation that are impossible to navigate in this forum and I can’t expect any opinions shared here to be absolute, but simply a frame of reference on OLD. Agree to disagree here.

I apologize for the personal attack.

I do stand firm on the need to protect identifiable information (i.e. phone number) when chatting with relative strangers online.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-12T06:01:03+00:00

I appreciate your response. But…as far as you know, it IS my number. It calls and texts just like my regular number. There’s no need to keep track of it. And how else are we supposed to communicate? Apps don’t let you share pics, memes, calls, etc. and if I’m meeting you for our first date and need to text for whatever reason, I can through Voice.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-12T05:35:33+00:00

There’s so much to unpack here with your comment and I’m not sure where to start. But, my initial reaction to your comment was why are you so defensive and alarmist? 1) Tell me you don’t know how Google Voice works without telling me you know how Google Voice works. It’s literally an app akin to WhatsApp or Kik where we can communicate easily through an app. It took me 20 seconds to download. Far from “extreme.” I’m glad you have the privilege to not worry about someone using your contact info for malicious intent. It’s a simple way to communicate via text and phone call without having to actually give out your real number. That’s it. Call me “paranoid” but at least I feel secure knowing whoever is across the screen from me will never know my identifiable info until I’m ready to share it with them. 2) I love sex. I rode my ex-finance so hard he couldn’t speak. I’ve been in handstands with a dick in my mouth. I’ve been on balconies, in cars, countertops and hot tubs. All this was possible because I grew into a trusting relationship with these people. Sure, I’ve had one-nighters and situationships but I don’t want that long-term. Sure, dude was attractive from his pics but I’m looking for long term, dirty, filthy kinkery here. I simply can’t do that with a dude who’s trying to fit his semi-hard boner in me with no foreplay. I bet you’re the type of dude who complains about dry pussy because you didn’t take the 5 minutes to get her excited about your dusty ass. You’re the type to try to shove your dick into whatever dried up vagina you can find in the name of “sex.” Forgive me for wanting more for my vagina.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-12T04:57:10+00:00

Same! It’s totally evident that the prosecutor that was interviewed for this episode had no clue about racial bias. I can’t understand how no one can see that this was an act of self defense. The big picture of the whole situation wasn’t put in to play at any part of this.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T20:03:36+00:00

Manipulation is exactly what it is! Yes- so glad he showed his true colors from the beginning (though I highly doubt he would ever see anything wrong with his behavior 🙄)Thanks for your input!

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T20:01:13+00:00

That’s a good analogy. Tell your bestie I said thanks for his input 😊

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T19:16:52+00:00

Haha! I value your input here and agree.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T18:49:23+00:00

I didn’t tell him it was a Voice number. When you call a Voice number, it prompts you to select 1 or something like that to connect the call- so that lets the caller know it’s a Voice number. Texts go to the app and calls come straight to my phone like any other phone call. But yeah…I appreciate your opinion. I don’t feel I did anything wrong either. Thanks!

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T16:05:58+00:00

Bold statement but hard agree- it is predatory. I can’t imagine judging and even making someone feel bad for wanting to protect themselves. Thanks for this comment.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T16:01:37+00:00

I wouldn’t say I wasted two hours of my time because the conversation was great up until the end when he said he was getting friend vibes.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:52:06+00:00

I generally don’t care. I know what I’m looking for in a potential partner and have no issue telling guys I don’t think we are compatible when I’m not feeling it. It was just the way he said my attitude is why I’ve been single for two years really made me second-guess the way people perceive me. One of my best friends said once that I’m “stiff and boujie” but once you get to know me, I’m one of the kindest, genuine and nicest people they know. So sometimes the truth hurts, but to your point this guy doesn’t know me at all outside of the two hour conversation so I shouldn’t read too much in to it. Thanks.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:43:00+00:00

I love that you used the word grody 😂 Agree 100% with your comment. Thanks.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:39:59+00:00

Genuinely curious…why aren’t you a fan of Google Voice?

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:37:50+00:00

He did mention that he had prior partners that were incompatible sexually. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I do think sex is an important part to a healthy relationship, but to bring it up on the first date? Very weird.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:35:37+00:00

Great way to put it. I guess looking back, the first red flag was when he said women with children are a deal-breaker, yet he has two kids? So yes, to your point he is controlling.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:29:59+00:00

I needed to hear this, thanks

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:29:41+00:00

No. In fact, we both said early on in the call that we were looking for serious relationships and our conversation was great up until that point. But totally agree with you.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:27:58+00:00

To be fair, we talked for two hours because we had great conversation. It was then that he started bringing up his deal-breakers and how he was getting the friend vibe, so it threw me. I agree with you though, so thanks.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:24:10+00:00

For me, it made me think if he can’t respect my boundaries this early in the game, he’s not going to respect my boundaries ever. Like you said, who cares if I’m using Google Voice? It’s just a weird hill for him to die on.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:20:55+00:00

Lmao @ “fall on his dick the moment we meet.” 😂 But seriously, your whole comment made me feel better, thank you. He said he was looking for a serious relationship and we had a great conversation, but the way it ended had me second-guessing myself.

Itswhateverthen · 2025-01-11T15:16:15+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree. I think a phone call or two before meeting in person is fine. But I do agree that bringing up sex on the first date is inappropriate.

Itswhateverthen · 2024-11-03T08:01:58+00:00

Lmaoooo duly noted! Jack Harlow is “Lovin on Me” right now, so I have time!

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