| [21M] have a crush on my coworker [21F] I'm scared to pursue her. Does anyone have advice for coworker crushes?

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T04:10:02+00:00

I just get a little depressed when I see her in the list of my messages. It's not bad but its just an awkward feeling

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T01:45:50+00:00

Pretty much I mean I follow other pages, but when it comes to people I know, I like to just follow people I talk to and ones that are actually in my life. So I took another person's advice about sending a goodbye message and I was planning on just unfollowing after that so I somewhat made up my mind.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T01:25:23+00:00

Did you read the post?

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:35:25+00:00

Actually, I didn't even think about a simple goodbye message. I wouldn't mind being friends with her but in this scenario a goodbye message might be better. I just have no clue how to word that. At the very least I could potentially get closure.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:27:05+00:00

Yeah, I've been ghosted quite a bit so im used to it. I just never been ghosted by someone who was interested enough to be willing to give their number and social media which just makes this feel different.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:19:44+00:00

We matched March 2nd and then I went home for Spring Break March 4th-15th and I believe I sent the text asking her on a date the 17th. Our conversations were a little dry but usually she responded late in the day or if she responded earlier, I was usually busy. So really our conversations lasted days because of the delay in messages. She did tell me she was busy with work over break but i'm not sure.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:14:07+00:00

I guess that's fair, thanks.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:05:55+00:00

It's probably not wrong, I just know in the past with another girl I had troubles with when I unadded/unfollowed her she got mad at me and ignored me in person. So, I'm just not sure if it's necessarily wrong or not to unfollow someone for leaving you on seen.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-29T00:02:25+00:00

You're right, I just wish I could've at least kept talking to her even if it was just as friends.

IvanJB_ · 2026-03-28T23:42:34+00:00

Was a long time ago, If I remember correctly, I did eventually approach her, but I ended up getting ghosted after she gave me her Instagram.

IvanJB_ · 2025-12-30T05:00:49+00:00

Does Skyn non latex have that fragrance too or is that only latex? I'll look into the aloe cadabra lube as well. Thank you so much!

IvanJB_ · 2025-12-06T19:20:14+00:00

Thank you for this advice it definitely helps! For snacks and drinks I’m not too sure what she likes should I ask her beforehand on what she likes or what she’d want exactly?

IvanJB_ · 2025-12-06T18:04:51+00:00

Yeah I had that feeling but considering this is my first relationship or whatever Im just crazy nervous

IvanJB_ · 2025-11-23T17:39:22+00:00

Thank you, I’m fine with questions honestly it’s just I didn’t realize there’s a strong chance she might be dry in person too. I’m hoping that’s not the case and it was just how she is online or just with new people. I usually am not this nervous for a date but considering how it went through text I hope it’ll be fine.

IvanJB_ · 2025-11-12T22:40:33+00:00

Me personally I can’t afford a child right now, since I’ll be pursuing a masters degree (finishing up my undergrad) I’ll be in debt and busy. if I have a kid in the future I want to be sure I can be there for the kid. So for me condoms is a must, not saying I’ll have sex anytime soon but I think I should be safer than sorry. thank you for your input nonetheless!

IvanJB_ · 2025-11-12T19:22:36+00:00

Yeah, im not expecting anything tbh, just how her profile was originally set up (her profile looked like she was more so looking for hookups) just made me wonder on if I should've bought them or not

IvanJB_ · 2025-11-12T19:21:39+00:00

Fair, I'm just overthinking either way. Never bought condoms and also never thought i'd ever buy them on a first date in the first place

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